Characteristics of SelfActualizing People

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Characteristics of Self-Actualizing People

• Efficient perception of reality
• Sincere acceptance of self and others
• Spontaneity, simplicity, naturalness
• Task oriented
• High need for privacy
• General independence of culture

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Characteristics continued

• Freshness of appreciation
• Capacity for peak experiences
• Sincere interest in humanity
• Deep personal relationships
• Democratic character structure
• Non-hostile sense of humor
• Creative

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Characteristics continued

• Fully experience life in the present
• Make growth choices, not fear choices
• Strive toward honesty
• Meaningful life activities

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• I REALLY appreciate it when you do not talk
  while I am lecturing. I do not want to ask you
  to leave, but I am ready to do so today. My
  students are complaining that they cannot hear me
  so I must respect their rights in this classroom.
  I will give you time to talk today!

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• 1- extra credit and grades are on the website
• 2- all essays and debate preps are in the boxes
  today, if you got another re-do, see website for
  Re-do directions. I did not finish Haskels,
  Howry, Ibanez, Kennedy, Lemus, Lobao, Mora,
  Mendoza, Wood, or Evans. These will be in the
  box on the wall near my office by 500 today. I
  will also put feedback on the website for these
  11 students in the re-do document on the
  website.
• 3- debate Do religiously committed people enjoy
  greater mental health?
• 4- move the debate on prozac to Thursday next
  week, enjoy Tuesday off!
• 5- be sure you are doing six debate preps. and
  responses and one presenter paper by Nov. 25\

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Emotional Quotient (E.Q.)

• I am aware of subtle feelings when I have them.
• I find myself using my feelings to help make
  decisions.
• Bad moods do not overwhelm me.
• I express my anger effectively.
• I can delay my gratification.

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E.Q.

• I prepare well and accomplish public speaking or
  testing with success.
• I stay hopeful and optimistic in the face of
  challenges and setbacks.
• I can sense what people feel.
• I am compassionate about others situations.

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E.Q.

• I can handle emotional upset in others.
• I can sense the pulse of a group or relationship
  and state unspoken feelings.
• I can soothe or contain distressing feelings so
  they dont keep me from doing things I need to do.

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Emotional Intelligence

• Self-awareness knowing what you feel and using
  your gut sense to make decisions you can live
  with happily, having a strategy for understanding
  your emotions, making good sense of them, and
  good decisions based on feelings combined with
  reality.

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Emotional Intelligence

• Motivation
• zeal, persistence and optimism in the face of
  lifes setbacks
• finding purpose and meaning in what you do so you
  face obstacles and handle them because your goals
  are worth it!

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Emotional Intelligence

• Management of Feelings controlling impulses
• soothing your anxiety
• having anger that is appropriate
• being assertive with yourself about your beliefs
  so they are self-enhancing
• not ruminating or obsessing with self-defeating
  thoughts that are irrational and persistent

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Emotional Intelligence

• Empathy
• reading and responding to unspoken feelings
• having the courage to bring them up
• being brave enough to deal with emotions rather
  than try to make them go away.

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Emotional Intelligence

• Social Skill
• handing emotional reactions in others
• interacting smoothly
• managing relationships effectively
• using face to face resolutions
• dealing with things in a timely manner
• telling the truth
• not being attached to the outcome when you know
  you did the right thing
• examine your motives!

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Techniques of Suffering

• 1. Delaying gratification
• 2. Accepting responsibility
• 3. Dedication to the truth
• 4. Balancing all aspects of life

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In the area of emotion and stress I focus on
communication

• Think of the person in your life you would go to
  to share a triumph or sorrow.
• Why is that person the one you want to share with
  the most?

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Your special need and gift

• Need to be understood
• Gift understanding

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How did you learn to communicate?

• Where your parents great role models for
  effective, productive, respectful, intimate
  communication?
• Grandparents?
• Teachers?
• Church leaders?
• Media sources movies, T.V., radio?

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Why is communication difficult?

• What you mean to say.
• What you actually say.
• What the listener hears.
• What the listener thinks they hear.
• What the listener says back based on their
  interpretation of what you said.
• What you think about what they say about what you
  say.

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What is your style of communication?

• Do you talk to a person?
• Do you talk at a person?
• Do you talk with a person?
• We are either moving
• Toward
• Away or
• Against
• other people.

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Louis Wyse

• I suppose it was something you said
• That caused me to tighten and pull away
• And when you asked, What is it?
• I, of course, said, Nothing.
• You may be very certain there is something. The
  something is a cold, hard lump of nothing.

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The Communication Feedback Loop
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The Rules for Effective Communication

• Sender
• Use feeling words rather than fact words
• Use I messages versus You messages
• Keep point short
• Make eye contact
• Receiver
• Tentative voice for feedback
• Feedback feeling when possible
• Let the sender have the floor until done
• Make eye contact and look focused

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Guidelines for the Sender

• When _______
• I feel ________
• And I would prefer _______
• Never
• You make me feel ____
• You always _________
• You never___________

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Guidelines for the Receiver or Listener

• Content It sounds like youre saying ____
• Feeling It sounds like you might be feeling __
• Is that right?
• Could you stop right there so I can see if I
  understand what you are saying (or feeling) right
  now?

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Advice or Influence

• Influence urging the speaker in a direction they
  have already mentioned as an alternative
• Advice urging the speaker to accept a direction
  that you propose and he or she has not mentioned
• The best prompt the speaker to offer several
  solutions and influence them in the direction of
  their OWN idea

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The Communication Feedback Loop
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Practice

• It seems like I just dont care to do anything
  anymore. I just cant get interested in going out
  to do things. I dont understand why. Maybe I
  should talk with my parents or a counselor about
  it.
• It sounds like you are saying .
• It sounds like you might be feeling.

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Practice

• I am getting pretty darn tired of my boyfriend.
  He doesnt pay very much attention to me and I
  dont think I am number one in his life anymore.
  I dont know whether to stick it out or break
  up.
• Content
• Feeling
• Open Question
• Closed Question
• Advice
• Influence

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Emotion

• Emotion
• a response of the whole organism
• physiological arousal
• expressive behaviors
• conscious experience

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Theories of Emotion

• Does your heart pound because you are afraid...
  or are you afraid because you feel your heart
  pounding?

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James-Lange Theory of Emotion

• Experience of emotion is awareness of
  physiological responses to emotion-arousing
  stimuli

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Cannon-BardTheory of Emotion

• Emotion-arousing stimuli simultaneously trigger
• physiological responses
• subjective experience of emotion

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Schachters Two-Factor Theory of Emotion

• To experience emotion one must
• be physically aroused
• cognitively label the arousal

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Cognition and Emotion

• The brains shortcut for emotions

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Two Routes to Emotion
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Emotion and Physiology
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Arousal and Performance

• Performance peaks at lower levels of arousal for
  difficult tasks, and at higher levels for easy or
  well-learned tasks

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Emotion - Lie Detectors

• Polygraph
• machine commonly used in attempts to detect lies
• measures several of the physiological responses
  accompanying emotion
• perspiration
• cardiovascular
• breathing changes

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Emotion - A Polygraph Examination
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Emotion - Lie Detectors

• Control Question
• Example- Up to age 18, did you ever physically
  harm anyone?
• Relevant Question
• Example- Did the deceased threaten to harm you
  in any way?
• Relevant gt Control --gt Lie

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Emotion - Lie Detectors

• 50 Innocents
• 50 Thieves
• 1/3 of innocent declared guilty
• 1/4 of guilty declared innocent (from Kleinmuntz
  Szucko, 1984)

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Expressed Emotion

• People more speedily detect an angry face than a
  happy one (Ohman, 2001a)

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Expressed Emotion

• Gender and expressiveness

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Expressed Emotion

• Culturally universal expressions

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Experienced Emotion

• Infants naturally occurring emotions

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Experienced Emotion

• Catharsis
• emotional release
• catharsis hypothesis
• releasing aggressive energy (through action or
  fantasy) relieves aggressive urges
• Feel-good, do-good phenomenon
• peoples tendency to be helpful when already in a
  good mood

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Experienced Emotion

• Subjective Well-Being
• self-perceived happiness or satisfaction with
  life
• used along with measures of objective well-being
• physical and economic indicators to evaluate
  peoples quality of life

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Experienced Emotion

• Moods across the day

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Experienced Emotion

• Changing materialism

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Experienced Emotion

• Does money buy happiness?

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Experienced Emotion

• Values and life satisfaction

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Experienced Emotion

• Adaptation-Level Phenomenon
• tendency to form judgments relative to a
  neutral level
• brightness of lights
• volume of sound
• level of income
• defined by our prior experience
• Relative Deprivation
• perception that one is worse off relative to
  those with whom one compares oneself

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Happiness is...
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Stress and Illness

• Stress
• the process by which we perceive and respond to
  certain events, called stressors, that we
  appraise as threatening or challenging

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Stress Appraisal
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Stress and Illness

• General Adaptation Syndrome
• Selyes concept of the bodys adaptive response
  to stress in three stages

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Stress and Health

• Health Psychology
• subfield of psychology that provides psychologys
  contribution to behavioral medicine

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Perceived Control

• Equality and Longevity

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Stress and the Heart
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Stress and the Heart

• Coronary Heart Disease
• clogging of the vessels that nourish the heart
  muscle
• leading cause of death in many developed countries

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Stress and the Heart

• Type A
• Friedman and Rosenmans term for competitive,
  hard-driving, impatient, verbally aggressive, and
  anger-prone people
• Type B
• Friedman and Rosenmans term for easygoing,
  relaxed people

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Stress and Disease

• Psychophysiological Illness
• mind-body illness
• any stress-related physical illness
• some forms of hypertension
• some headaches
• distinct from hypochondria misinterpreting
  normal physical sensations as symptoms of a
  disease

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Stress and Disease

• Lymphocytes
• two types of white blood cells that are part of
  the bodys immune system
• B lymphocytes form in the bone marrow and release
  antibodies that fight bacterial infections
• T lymphocytes form in the thymus and, among other
  duties, attack cancer cells, viruses, and foreign
  substances

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Stress and Disease

• Conditioning of immune suppression

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Stress and Disease

• Negative emotions and health-related consequences

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Promoting Health

• Aerobic Exercise
• sustained exercise that increases heart and lung
  fitness

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Promoting Health

• Biofeedback
• system for electronically recording, amplifying,
  and feeding back information regarding a subtle
  physiological state
• blood pressure
• muscle tension

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Promoting Health

• Modifying Type A life-style can reduce recurrence
  of heart attacks

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Promoting Health

• Social support across the life span

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Promoting Health
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Alternative Medicine
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Promoting Health

• Predictors of mortality

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Promoting Health

• Religious Attendance

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Promoting Health

• The religion factor is multidimensional