Whats Love got to do with it: Romantic Relationships

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Whats Love got to do with it Romantic
Relationships
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Attraction

• To whom are you attracted?
• Why are you attracted to some, but not others?
• What is it about people that makes them
  attractive to you?
  
• Same reasons you chose certain friends?

FEATURES of LOVE
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Components of Love



FEATURES of LOVE
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Types of Love II Sternbergs Triangular Theory



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Types of Love
Intimacy
Commitment
Passion
Types of LOVE
Friendship Maternal Brotherly
Passionate Puppy-love Romantic
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Arousal in making Love

• Dutton Aron (1974)
• Two-factor theory of Love (Berscheid Walster,
  1974)
  
• general physiological arousal is labeled as
  love
  
• Arousal-facilitation theory (Allen et al., 1989)
  
  
• physiological arousal adds to present feelings

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Goals of Love I
Goals of Love
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Goals of Love I
Goals of Love
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Gender Differences I

• What is the lowest level of intelligence you
  would accept in
  
• a single date, a sexual partner, a steady date,
  and a spouse?

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Gender Differences I

• Attractive stranger will you go out with me
  tonight? Will you come to my apartment now?
  
• Will you go to bed with me now?

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Gender Differences III

• College students asked
• if the conditions were right, would you
  consider having sexual intercourse with someone
  you viewed as desirable if you had known that
  person for
• one hour
• one day
• one month
• six months
• two years
• five years
• responded on a scale 1 definitely
  not 7 definitely yes

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Gender Differences III

• Appropriate length of a presex relationship
• 1 definitely not 7 definitely yes

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Goals of Love II
Goals of Love

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Goals of Love III
Goals of Love
Female ratings of men
Male ratings of women
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Consequences of Love

• Issues of Attachment with that someone
• Competition with others
• Self-identity can change
• Personality changes

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What do these tell us about love?

• To whom are people attracted?
• Who should you date?
• Who will you marry?
• Who will people love?
• When will relationships persist?

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Prosocial Group Projects?

• Darley, J. M., Batson, C. D. (1973). From
  Jerusalem to Jericho A study of situational and
  dispositional variables in helping behavior.
  Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 27,
  100-108.
• Batson, C. D., Oleson, K. C., Weeks, J. L.,
  Healy, S. P., Reeves, P. J., Jennings, P.,
  Brown, T. (1989). Religious prosocial motivation
  Is it altruistic or egoistic. Journal of
  Personality and Social Psychology, 57, 873-884.
• Piliavin, I.M., Rodin, J., Piliavin,
  J.A.(1969). Good Samaritanism An underground
  phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social
  Psychology, Vol. 13, No. 4, 289-299.

• Groups read two of these articles and then
  stage a field experiment on campus evaluating
  some aspect of altruistic behavior results to
  be presented in class.