Dos and Donts of First Dates according to Cosmo

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Dos and Donts of First Dates according to Cosmo

• Do
• Be Yourself.
• Be a Good Listener
• Try to Have Fun

• Donts
• Pretend to be someone youre not
• Make a snap judgment regarding your feelings
  about him/her
• Leave him hanging

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10 Pick Ups for Women to Use on Men (that men
reported they liked) according to Cosmo

• 1. "One of the loves of my life walked by me and
  pretended to trip into my lap. A woman can do
  that and seem charming. If a man did it, he'd be
  a creep. But seriously, women have it easy. The
  actual line isn't so important. And it's not
  because guys only think about sex. It's just so
  rare that we're the ones that get the good lines.
  Just say anything!"
• 2. "In my experience, women's pick-up lines have
  usually been physical. Reaching by me for
  something with a slight (or firm) brush of her
  arm or breast, as though it's unintentional,
  works great at many levels. Hey, maybe it is
  unintentional. But I'd rather think of it as a
  pick up."
• 3. "This contact happened after extensive eye
  contact (read after obsessive staring on my
  part). One woman walked up to me and said, 'So,
  are we going out or what?' She and I went on to
  date for almost a year and are still very close
  friends."
• 4. "This woman at a restaurant sent me a note via
  the waiter, to be delivered after she left,
  asking if I wanted to get coffee sometime and
  leaving her phone number. I loved it."
• 5. "I was at a party and this very attractive,
  stylish Midwesterner, with whom I had a torrid
  three-month relationship after, approached me
  with a mischievous look in her eyes and a glowing
  smile and said, 'You look like a real
  challenge.'"
• 6. "Not sure if this line is my favorite, or if
  it's because the woman who delivered it is so
  memorable, but she walked over to me at a
  friend's engagement party and said, 'That
  annoying guy over there seems to think I should
  meet you because we'd be perfect for each other.'
  We dated for four months, and I almost married
  her."
• 7. "'Hi' is a favorite -- nothing quite as simple
  and direct as a friendly 'hi.' I've received that
  a couple of times at parties, shows."
• 8. "At a wedding, an easy line, and one that I've
  had success using as well as receiving is, 'Are
  you friends of the bride or the groom?' Obviously
  only for use at a wedding."
• 9. "As a photographer, I consistently get
  comments when I'm out shooting photos. Usually,
  the initial comment is about my camera --
  something like 'Now that's a big lens.' I know,
  that sounds like a double entendre. Maybe it is.
  Conversationally, it works."
• 10. "The best lines I've gotten have been at the
  park with my dog Marley. A dog at the park works
  ALL the time. I'm not talking about 'the guy with
  the cute puppy using it as a babe magnet'
  scenario either. My dog Marley is a very large
  German Shepherd mix with abnormally long legs.
  Women (as well as men) are always commenting on
  him. 'That's a big dog -- what breed/kind/mix is
  it?' or something like that. Follow-up is real
  easy after that."

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5 Opening Lines for Women to Use on men according
to Cosmo

• . Say something specific to the event you're
  at.If you're at an art gallery, you can comment
  on the exhibit. If you're at a show, you can give
  your thoughts on the band. Don't weigh in like a
  debater with an opinion, just float your
  viewpoint out there and open the door by turning
  it into a question "Were those guys great, or
  what?"
• Talk about something that just happened.Sometimes
  nothing happens, but if it does, you can
  capitalize on the opportunity. If the man of your
  dreams is waiting behind you in line for movie
  tickets and the person at the ticket window
  pitches a fit and storms off, you can take it as
  a sign from God that you should turn around and
  ask, "So what was up with that guy?"
• Compliment his attire.If you're at a formal
  affair, this one's easy it is, however, more
  subtly effective when the dress is casual.
  Regardless of the outcome, the look on the face
  of a guy who's wearing a T-shirt and jeans will
  be reward enough when you walk up, smile, and
  say, "Hey, nice shirt."
• Act like you might know him from somewhere.Pick
  a few of the places from your personal history,
  then walk up to the best looking man in the room
  and say, "You look so familiar. Did you go to
  L'Academie des Beaux Arts in Paris?" (Or, you
  know, wherever.) He'll say no and you can ask
  about somewhere else you've been. Human nature
  being what it is, there's every likelihood he'll
  start asking about places he's been, and won't
  that just be cozy?
• "Hi."There's nothing like the devastating
  effectiveness of a simple hello. If you're
  determined to talk to a guy, and at a complete
  loss as to what to say, just say hi and let him
  do the rest.

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Dating Tips from Experts on Match.com

• If you like someone, show it!
• Look your very best
• Make your date short and sweet
• Keep the conversation comfortable
• Give a compliment that counts
• Look like youre listening

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10 Dating Statistics You Ought To Know from
Match.com

• 1. 44 percent of adult Americans are single,
  according to U.S. Census figures. This means
  there are over 100 million unattached folks out
  there. So, if you've ever worried, "There's
  nobody out there for me," know that there's hope!
  2. Statistically, the find-someone odds favor
  guys There are 86 unmarried men for every 100
  unmarried women, although in some regions the
  gender ratio favors women, especially out west.
  Paradise, Nevada, a suburb 10 miles from Las
  Vegas, has 118 unmarried men for every 100
  unmarried women. Other cities where gals got it
  good include Austin, Texas Fort Lauderdale,
  Florida Tempe, Arizona and Sunnyvale and Santa
  Ana, California. A coincidental bonus for women
  thinking of relocating All of these cities are
  sunny and warm. 3. The best place for single
  people on the prowl is New York, where 50 percent
  of state residents are unmarried, and Washington,
  D.C., where a whopping 70 percent of the
  population is single. The worst places are Idaho,
  where 60 percent of people are married and Utah,
  where 59 percent of people are married. 4.
  Think you'll find love while perched on a
  barstool? Think again. Only 9 percent of women
  and 2 percent of men say they've found a
  relationship at a bar or clubblame it on the
  beer goggles. So if you're lonely and looking,
  you're better off hitting on cuties at Starbucks.
  5. Got someone hot in your sights and want to
  reveal your interest? Fifty-one percent of people
  use flattery, according to the book Are You
  Normal About Sex, Love, and Relationships? Or,
  try touching them, a tactic used by 25 percent of
  single folk. Still another 23 percent utilize the
  schoolyard approach and send the word out through
  a friend. 6. If you're into online dating,
  you're hardly alone 40 million Americans use
  online dating services that's about 40 percent
  of our entire U.S. single-people pool. So if you
  haven't tried it yet, maybe it's time to dive in!
  7. Profiles and photos go together great.
  Online, being bashful will get you nowhere. Women
  and men who post their photos receive more than
  twice as many e-mails as those without photos,
  according to a study published by economists at
  MIT and University of Chicago. And a Match.com
  survey revealed that profiles with photos had 15
  times the response rate as those without. Some
  numbers! 8. On a date, first impressions do
  count Men take only 15 minutes to decide if a
  woman is worth a second date. For women, the
  clock isn't ticking quite so fastthey ponder
  whether to get together again for an hour or so.
  9. The number one problem for couples in
  America? Disagreements about money, according to
  a poll by the University of Denver. So, don't
  write off a date just because you two bickered
  over the dinner bill everyone clashes over cash.
  10. If you're feeling like your relationship is
  hitting the skids and want to bail, the painful
  face-to-face approach might not be necessary An
  estimated 48 percent of online daters report that
  their breakups have happened over e-mail. Call it
  rude or just plain convenient, but it happens a
  lot.

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The 10 reasons why men wont commit according to
The National Marriage Project

• They can get sex without marriage more easily
  than in times past
• They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by
  cohabiting rather than marrying
• They want to avoid divorce and its financial
  risks
• They want to wait until they are older to have
  children
• They fear that marriage will require too many
  changes and compromises
• They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and
  she hasnt yet appeared
• They face few social pressures to marry
• They are reluctant to marry a woman who already
  has children
• They want to own a house before they get a wife
• They want to enjoy single life as long as they
  can

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Status Exchange

• Predicts that couples are alike in almost all
  aspects of their demographic and social
  characteristics, including race, ethnicity, age,
  national origin, religious beliefs, political
  views, socioeconomic status, physical
  attractiveness, etc. The matched characteristics
  will make status exchange simpler and easier to
  calculate, from an economic viewpoint.
• Source Xuanning Fu, Impact of socioeconomic
  status on inter-racial mate selection and divorce

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Variables in mate selection

• Physical Features
• Culture
• Ethnicity
• Sex
• Economic Status
• Social Status
• Occupational Status

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Status in Mate Selection

• Rarely do we marry outside of our status.
• High status individuals who marry low status
  individuals usually do so out of choice while the
  lower status individual may want to marry up or
  out but is not the chooser of that
  circumstance.
• Socioeconomic status plays a larger role in mate
  selection than does race or ethnicity.

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Marriage via Mate Selection

• Marriages of similar status tend to divorce less
  than marriages of dissimilar status.
• However, Fu found that potential mates directly
  compare and measure status when they choose each
  other, but once a marriage is formed, status of a
  spouse often works through other aspects of life
  to impact the marriage.
• Source Xuanning Fu, Impact of socioeconomic
  status on inter-racial mate selection and divorce

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Trends in Mate Selection

• College graduates are increasingly likely to
  marry one another rather than marry down.
• As gender roles become increasingly egalitarian,
  men may have begun to compete for high-earning
  women just as women traditionally completed for
  high-earning men.
• Men still marry down more than women do.
• We are marrying people more aligned with our
  socioeconomic status is increasing (1940 to
  present).
• There are brief changes (up and down) in these
  trends, however, the 1940 and 1950s trends have
  reappeared and the hiccups of the 1960s and 1970s
  have disappeared.
• Source Schwartz and Mare Trends in Educational
  Assortative Marriage from 1940 to 2003.