GODS WILL FOR MARRIAGE, DIVORCE

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GODS WILL FOR MARRIAGE, DIVORCE REMARRIAGE

• The divorce rate in the US is higher than 50.
• Many marriages have been doomed from the start
  simply because either the husband or the wife or
  both did not take the time to study God's will
  in these matters, as it is revealed in the Bible.
  
• Had they done so, they would have found that God
  has given definite responsibilities to both the
  man and the woman in a scriptural marriage.
• They also would have discovered that He has
  strictly regulated marriage and divorce -- that
  we do not have the right to marry, divorce and
  remarry at will.

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GODS WILL FOR MARRIAGE, DIVORCE REMARRIAGE

• While some have no scriptural right to be
  married, others have no scriptural right to be
  divorced.
• God's thoughts must always be respected above our
  own.
• "For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are
  your ways My ways," says the Lord. "For as the
  heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways
  higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your
  thoughts." (Isaiah 558-9).

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GODS WILL FOR MARRIAGE, DIVORCE REMARRIAGE

• GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE
• ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE
• GODS WILL FOR THE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

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GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE

• God hates divorce.
• "For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates
  divorce, for it covers one's garment with
  violence," says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore
  take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal
  treacherously." (Mal. 216).

• "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.
  Therefore what God has joined together, let not
  man separate." (Matt. 196).

• Now to the married I command, yet not I but the
  Lord A wife is not to depart from her husband.
  But even if she does depart, let her remain
  unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a
  husband is not to divorce his wife. But to the
  rest I, not the Lord, say If any brother has a
  wife who does not believe, and she is willing to
  live with him, let him not divorce her. And a
  woman who has a husband who does not believe, if
  he is willing to live with her, let her not
  divorce him. (1 Cor. 710-13).

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GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE

• A. God hates divorce.
• B. One who divorces his/her spouse for any cause
  other than fornication sexual unfaithfulness
  and marries another is guilty of adultery.
• "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife,
  except for sexual immorality, and marries
  another, commits adultery." (Matt. 199a)

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GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE

• A. God hates divorce.
• B. One who divorces his/her spouse for any cause
  other than fornication sexual unfaithfulness
  and marries another is guilty of adultery.
• One who divorces his/her spouse for fornication
  and marries another is not guilty of adultery .
• "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife,
  except for sexual immorality, and marries
  another, commits adultery." (Matt. 199a)

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GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE

• A. God hates divorce.
• B. One who divorces his/her spouse for any cause
  other than fornication sexual unfaithfulness
  and marries another is guilty of adultery.
• One who divorces his/her spouse for fornication
  and marries another is not guilty of adultery.
• One who is divorced by his/her spouse and marries
  another is guilty of adultery.
• "...and whoever marries her who is divorced
  commits adultery." (Matt. 199b).

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GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE

• A. God hates divorce.
• B. One who divorces his/her spouse for any cause
  other than fornication sexual unfaithfulness
  and marries another is guilty of adultery.
• One who divorces his/her spouse for fornication
  and marries another is not guilty of adultery.
• One who is divorced by his/her spouse and marries
  another is guilty of adultery.
• "...and whoever marries a woman who is divorced
  commits adultery." (Matt. 532b).

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GODS ATTITUDE TOWARD DIVORCE

• A. God hates divorce.
• B. One who divorces his/her spouse for any cause
  other than fornication sexual unfaithfulness
  and marries another is guilty of adultery.
• One who divorces his/her spouse for fornication
  and marries another is not guilty of adultery.
• One who is divorced by his/her spouse and marries
  another is guilty of adultery.
• "...and whoever marries her who is divorced from
  her husband commits adultery." (Luke 1618b)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• A. Those who are eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who have never been married.
• Now concerning the matters about which you wrote
  "It is good for a man not to have sexual
  relations with a woman." But because of the
  temptation to sexual immorality, each man should
  have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
  (1 Cor. 71-2, ESV)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• A. Those who are eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who have never been married.
• 2. Those who have been married but their previous
  spouses are dead.
• So then if, while her husband lives, she marries
  another man, she will be called an adulteress
  but if her husband dies, she is free from that
  law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has
  married another man. (Rom. 73)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• A. Those who are eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who have never been married.
• 2. Those who have been married but their previous
  spouses are dead.
• A wife is bound by law as long as her husband
  lives but if her husband dies, she is at liberty
  to be married to whom she wishes, only in the
  Lord. (1 Cor. 739)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• A. Those who are eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who have never been married.
• 2. Those who have been married but their previous
  spouses are dead.
• Those who have been married but divorced their
  previous spouses for fornication.
• "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife,
  except for sexual immorality, and marries
  another, commits adultery." (Matt. 199a)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• A. Those who are eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who have never been married.
• 2. Those who have been married but their previous
  spouses are dead.
• 3. Those who have been married but divorced their
  previous spouses for fornication.
• Those who are reconciling after a divorce.
• Now to the married I command, yet not I but the
  Lord A wife is not to depart from her husband.
  But even if she does depart, let her remain
  unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a
  husband is not to divorce his wife. (1 Cor.
  710-11)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• B. Those who are not eligible for marriage.
• Those who divorced their previous scriptural
  spouses for any reason other than fornication.
• "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife,
  except for sexual immorality, and marries
  another, commits adultery." (Matt. 199a)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• B. Those who are not eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who divorced their previous scriptural
  spouses for any reason other than fornication.
• 2. Those who were divorced by their previous
  scriptural spouses for any reason.
• "...and whoever marries her who is divorced
  commits adultery." (Matt. 199b).
• "...and whoever marries a woman who is divorced
  commits adultery." (Matt. 532).
• "...and whoever marries her who is divorced from
  her husband commits adultery." (Luke 1618)

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ELIGIBILITY FOR SCRIPTURAL MARRIAGE

• B. Those who are not eligible for marriage.
• 1. Those who divorced their previous scriptural
  spouses for any reason other than fornication.
• Those who were divorced by their previous
  scriptural spouses for any reason.
• Unless their previous spouses are dead.
• A wife is bound by law as long as her husband
  lives but if her husband dies, she is at liberty
  to be married to whom she wishes, only in the
  Lord. (1 Cor. 739)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on
  Adam, and he slept and He took one of his ribs,
  and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the
  rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made
  into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And
  Adam said

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• "This is now bone of my bones
• And flesh of my flesh
• She shall be called Woman,
• Because she was taken out of Man."
• Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother
  and be joined to his wife, and they shall become
  one flesh. (Gen. 221-24)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• And He answered and said to them, "Have you not
  read that He who made them at the beginning 'made
  them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason
  a man shall leave his father and mother and be
  joined to his wife, and the two shall become one
  flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one
  flesh. Therefore what God has joined together,
  let not man separate." (Matt. 195-6)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to
  those who know the law), that the law has
  dominion over a man as long as he lives? For the
  woman who has a husband is bound by the law to
  her husband as long as he lives. But if the
  husband dies, she is released from the law of her
  husband. (Rom. 71-2)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• Satisfy one another's desires for sex and/or
  intimacy .
• Let the husband render to his wife the affection
  due her, and likewise also the wife to her
  husband. The wife does not have authority over
  her own body, but the husband does. And likewise
  the husband does not have authority over his own
  body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one
  another....

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• Satisfy one another's desires for sex and/or
  intimacy .
• ... except with consent for a time, that you may
  give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come
  together again so that Satan does not tempt you
  because of your lack of self-control. (1 Cor.
  73-5).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• A. It is God's will for a scripturally married
  couple to
• 1. Be married for life.
• Satisfy one another's desires for sex and/or
  intimacy .
• Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed
  undefiled but fornicators and adulterers God
  will judge. (Heb. 134).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• But I want you to know that the head of every man
  is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head
  of Christ is God. (1 Cor. 113)
• For the husband is head of the wife, as also
  Christ is head of the church and He is the
  Savior of the body. (Eph. 523).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• 2. Lovesee to the needs ofhis wife.
• Therefore, just as the church is subject to
  Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands
  in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as
  Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for
  her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with
  the washing of water by the word, that He might
  present her to Himself a glorious church, not
  having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but
  that she...

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• 2. Lovesee to the needs ofhis wife.
• ...should be holy and without blemish. So
  husbands ought to love their own wives as their
  own bodies he who loves his wife loves himself.
  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but
  nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does
  the church. For we are members of His body, of
  His flesh and of His bones. "For this reason a
  man shall leave his father and mother and be
  joined to his wife, and the...

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• 2. Lovesee to the needs ofhis wife.
• ... two shall become one flesh." This is a great
  mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the
  church. Nevertheless let each one of you in
  particular so love his own wife as himself, and
  let the wife see that she respects her husband.
  (Eph. 524-33)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• 2. Lovesee to the needs ofhis wife.
• Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter
  toward them. (Col. 319)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• 2. Lovesee to the needs ofhis wife.
• Give honor to his wife.
• Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with
  understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to
  the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of
  the grace of life, that your prayers may not be
  hindered. (1 Peter 37).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• B. It is God's will for a scriptural husband to
• 1. Be the head of his wife.
• 2. Lovesee to the needs ofhis wife.
• Give honor to his wife.
• Provide for his family.
• But if anyone does not provide for his own, and
  especially for those of his household, he has
  denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
  (1 Tim. 58).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the
  Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as
  also Christ is head of the church and He is the
  Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church
  is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to
  their own husbands in everything. (Eph. 522-24)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting
  in the Lord. (Col. 318)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own
  husbands, that even if some do not obey the word,
  they, without a word, may be won by the conduct
  of their wives. (1 Peter 31)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• 2. Reverencerespecther husband.
• Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so
  love his own wife as himself, and let the wife
  see that she respects her husband. (Eph. 533).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• 2. Reverencerespecther husband.
• Lovegive tender affection toher husband.
• ...the older women likewise, that they be
  reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given
  to much wine, teachers of good things-- that they
  admonish the young women to love their husbands,
  to love their children. (Titus 23-4)

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• 2. Reverencerespecther husband.
• Lovegive tender affection toher husband.
• 4. Be a "homemaker" and "manage the house."
• ...to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good,
  obedient to their own husbands, that the word of
  God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 25).

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GODS WILL FOR THOSE WHO ARE SCRIPTURALLY MARRIED

• C. It is God's will for a scriptural wife to
• Submit to her husband.
• 2. Reverencerespecther husband.
• Lovegive tender affection toher husband.
• 4. Be a "homemaker" and "manage the house."
• Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry,
  bear children, manage the house, give no
  opportunity to the adversary to speak
  reproachfully. (1 Tim. 514).

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CLOSING OBSERVATIONS

• Those who are not eligible for scriptural
  marriage should not marry.
• Those who are eligible for scriptural marriage
  should not make the mistake of marrying someone
  who is not eligible.
• Those who are in scriptural marriages should not
  divorce for any reason other than fornication.
• Those who are in unscriptural marriages should
  not remain in them because Jesus said they will
  be committing adultery.