Marriage in the New Testament

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Marriage in the New Testament

• CO 5704

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Introduction

• Established in the beginning (Gen 1-3)
• Jesus words on the subject
• Peters writings
• Pauls writings

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Jesus Teachings

• Matt 531-32
• Mark 106-12
• Luke 1618

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1 Peter 31-7

• In verses 1-6 wives are admonished to be
  submissive whether he is an unbeliever or a
  believer. Wives will win the heart of their
  husbands through godly behavior rather than
  through manipulative, controlling, fleshly
  mechanisms.
• .

• In verse 7 husbands are to display compassionate
  understanding not dominance that issues forth
  from physical strength or from authoritarian
  attitudes.

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Pauls Writings

• Wives-be submissive
• Husbands-be loving and compassionate
• See chart, p. 62

• 1 Corinthians 7
• 1 Timothy 2 and 4
• Ephesians 521-33

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Teachings from Ephesians

• Marriage is designed for Christians who live in
  dependence on the Holy Spirit.
• Wives must be filled with the Holy Spirit to
  submit to their husbands and husbands must be
  filled with the Holy Spirit in order to
  demonstrate unconditional, sacrificial love to
  their wives.
• Male headship implies authority and female
  (wifely) submission is part of Gods design not
  merely a result of the Fall.
• Marriage is part of Gods end-time purposes in
  Christ, part of the Spirits operation, and part
  of spiritual warfare.

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Marriage Viewed As

• Sacrament
• Contract
• Covenant (implied in Scripture a biblical view)

• Köestenberger defines a covenant marriage as a
  sacred bond between a man and a woman instituted
  by and publicly entered into before God, normally
  consummated by sexual intercourse (2010, p. 73)
• Review chart on p. 75

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A Theology of Sex

• Köstenberger stated

• From a strict worldly perspective sex exists for
  mans pleasure and fulfillment (2010, p.79).
• From a biblically-informed perspective sex is
  procreational, relational/social, publically
  good, and pleasurable (2010, pp. 80-82).

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Marriage Family in the Bible

• family

• primarily, one man and one woman united in
  matrimony (barring death of a spouse) plus
  (normally) natural or adopted children and,
  secondarily, any other persons related by blood
  (85)

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OT Jewish families

• patricentric

• Fathers responsibilities
• Mothers responsibilities
• Expectations for children
• Guidelines for parenting

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NT Jewish Families

• Jesus grew up in a family
• Jesus stressed church as the larger picture
• Paul marriage, singleness, children
• Men
• Older women

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As a representative of God

• Jesus model

• Biblical counselors

• Jesus entered into peoples pain and wept (John
  1135)
• Jesus came to bring abundant life (John 1010)
• God is love, provides courage, is faithful and
  loyal, and grants freedom to his children
• Jesus, Lord of all, came to serve
• God has a purpose for every life

• experience some secondary trauma
• Encourage Authentic living
• Enhance Love, hope, courage, fidelity, loyalty,
  freedom and determination to follow Gods will
• Unconditional giving
• Help them see meaning and purpose in marriage and
  family

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A Family Sociogram

• Draw your family sociogram.
• Begin by placing a circle somewhere on your paper
  to represent each member of your family.
• Give each circle a name (Mom, Dad, Bob, Sally,
  Grandma, etc.)
• Powerpoint by Linda Zimmerman

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• What are the connections between the people in
  this family?
• Draw arrows to indicate who selects to be close
  to whom? What person do each of the people like
  best?
• Who do they not get along with? Use a color to
  represent dislike.
• Draw your arrows from each persons perspective.
• What are the alliances?
• Powerpoint by Linda Zimmerman

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• 5. Hold your drawing at arms length, squint your
  eyes, and look at it. Is there anything
  significant you did not mention previously that
  you now notice?
• 6. Who is the most popular (leader)?
• 7. Who is the least popular (isolate)? The
  isolate might also be the family scapegoat.
• 8. What are the major alliances? (Who is
  together?)
• 9. Are there any subgroups within the family?
• 10. Is the cohesion of this family high, medium,
  or low?
• 11. How do you feel about your familys
  sociogram?
• 12. What, if anything, have you learned?
• Powerpoint by Linda Zimmerman

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Evaluation

• Answer these questions
• What circles did you draw first?
• How do the sizes of the circles compare to each
  other? Who is larger, and who is smaller? Why
  do you think you drew them that way?
• How are the circles placed in relation to each
  other (close, far away, on top, below, or next to
  each other)?
• Did you erase or change anything?
• Powerpoint by Linda Zimmerman

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Extra Credit

• Ask members of your family to draw their own
  versions of the sociogram without seeing yours
  first.
• Do other peoples versions mesh with your
  version? Why? Why not?
• What have you learned? Write a 300 word essay
  and submit it via email for extra credit.
• Worth 50 bonus points
• Powerpoint by Linda Zimmerman

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References

• Kostenberger, A. (2010). God, Marriage, and
  Family Rebuilding the biblical foundation, 2nd
  ed. Wheaton IL, Crossway.
• Cobb, R. Lecture Notes Marriage and Family in
  the OT, Marriage and Family in the NT, 2010. From
  CO620-W, Luther Rice Seminary