How To Approach A Shy Girl & Get Her To Open Up

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How To Approach A Shy Girl Get Her To Open Up
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• You know, not every beautiful girl is outgoing
  and extroverted. Some of them are shy. (I
  personally have seen a lot of shy girls from my
  time in Asia.)
• And lots of guys have trouble with
  approaching the shy, quiet types. Thats why in
  this video, Ill show you how to
  approach SHY girls!

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• The Shy girl
• The shy girl typically shows hesitation to
  engage in the interaction, which means its going
  to be a bumpy ride trying to get her to talk, let
  alone give her number to you or go on a date.
  (Not to worry though, well solve that soon
  enough)

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• Many shy girls build barriers to keep men out
  of their life. There are plenty of reasons for
  this
• Broken family
• Feeling insecure
• Feeling unsafe and unsure
• Low self-esteem
• Culture and Beliefs

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• Heres a quick checklist to know whether or
  not youre dealing with a shy girl
• Barely maintains eye contact, keeps staring at
  the ground
• Crosses arms or keeps fiddling with fingers
• VERY soft, almost inaudible voice when talking
• Prefers to speak in shorter sentences and is
  close-ended most of the time

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• Well have to break these barriers. Mastering
  the art of connecting to women will get even the
  shyest of them to open up (in more ways than one,
  if you know what I mean.) Theyll feel attached
  to you and youll only have to keep some simple
  things in mind.

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How To Approach A Shy Girl
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• TIP 1Match her energy, but the right way.
• Mirroring is a powerful Neuro Linguistic
  Programming tool to establish rapport with a
  stranger. You see, humans tend to trust and feel
  more comfortable around those that seem most like
  them. When you mirror a persons body language,
  movements, energy, eye contact and keywords it
  can quickly create a powerful connection, But be
  careful doing this with a shy girl.

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• You dont want to mimic her submissive and
  beta body language and start acting shy, timid or
  nervous because thats just not very attractive.
• However, if you approach her as a loud, high
  energy, alpha will probably scare her away. The
  key is to match her energy. And shy girls are
  usually lower energy so crank it down a notch or
  two.  Even if you are at a high energy club and
  you approach a shy girl, lower your energy at
  first to make her feel comfortable. Then slowly
  start bringing it back up to lead her into a more
  fun outgoing state.

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• TIP 2Be comfortable.
• You need to feel totally at ease with
  yourself and with her, even though she might be
  acting a little strange. A lot of guys get
  nervous around shy girls because they arent sure
  if shes into him so they start second-guessing
  themselves. Instead, have fun and just talk. I
  like to warm up before dates
• Be okay with silence, and dont make it
  awkward. She might be taking her time to open up,
  so keep smiling and be comfortable with longer
  than normal moments of silence.

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• Here are a few tips to help
• Keep a friendly and warm smile and cheerful
  demeanor.
• The less threatening you are, the better. But
  remember to keep a confident tone to your voice
  and body movements.
• Maintain some distance when first speaking to
  her. You want her to feel safe so, limit physical
  contact at first. Start by reaching out and
  shaking her hand after a good introduction.

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• TIP 3Shy girls tend to talk way less than
  outgoing girls. So youll have to take on the
  conversational burden and talk more than her.
• Its actually okay to just start talking
  about yourself. This will get things going and
  keep things interesting. (But remember to give
  her a chance to talk, too if she wants.)
• Feel free to share your life story with her.
  This helps her to get to know you and feel more
  comfortable with you and eventually shell start
  to open up. Hopefully.

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• If Im dealing with a woman that is why I like
  to show her pictures on my phone.This helps her
  learn about me and allows us to get closer
  because Im sitting next to her. If she feels
  comfortable sitting close to you then this is a
  huge step in escalating the interaction. I can
  also use pictures to escalate sexually.

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• Always give her the opportunity to speak by
  asking basic open-ended questions, that she
  doesnt have to exert too much mental energy
  coming up with an answer, like What do you do
  for fun? or Do you have brothers and sisters?
  Tell me about them.
• Once shes opened up a bit, its time to
  escalate. But I recommend start slowly and see
  how she reacts. 
• Joke around with her gently touching her. Youll
  see whether or not she reacts positively to this,
  and youll know if shes comfortable with that.

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• If she reacts negatively, its best to lie back
  for now and try again later when youve
  established a better rapport. If positive, try
  experimenting with gradual intimacy like hand to
  belly, but again fall back if you see a negative
  reaction.
• You dont want to be creepy here! Even though
  youre being assertive, remain 100 gentleman so
  as not to lose her completely. It only takes one
  creepy mistake (like cracking a personal sex joke
  way too early or touching her legs too soon) to
  turn off a shy girl.

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• If shes receptive it means
  that shes allowing you to breach her defenses.
  Shy girls tend to need a little more time to warm
  up but dont give up. All you have to do is take
  it slow, one step at a time!
• To help you out with escalating with a shy
  girl, or with any other girl we created a Free
  Escalation Cheat Sheet that lists out some of
  our best ways to spark sexual tension, turn a
  girl on, and escalate to the bedroom.

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• Its filled with Advanced Escalation
  Techniques that will help you turn a platonic
  friendly interaction, into a more sexual I
  want to rip your clothes off vibe.
• This is very useful when youre talking to a
  girl but its going nowhere.
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