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by Pearl Nash
Updated November 22, 2022, 937 am
Being feminine can mean different things to
different people because each culture has its own
notion of what it means to be female. In the
west, the concept of femininity is tied heavily
to gender norms. Traditionally, being feminine
or girly means being gentle, nurturing,
sensitive, sweet, passive, empathetic, or
devoted to name a few traits. As people
continue to realize that gender norms are a
little outdated, we now think that being feminine
is more of a style choice (although positive
feminine traits are still good to emulate). So
how do you become more feminine? Achieving a
girly look, adopting ladylike mannerisms, and
getting in touch with the female mindset can
help you take on a more feminine image. In this
article, youll learn how to embody the grace,
politeness, and competence which define the
female attitude. Appearing More Feminine
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• Achieving a girly look takes so much more than
  wearing pink. Lets break down what it takes to
  appear more feminine
• Take care of your hygiene
• The first step to becoming more feminine is
  proper hygiene. After all, youre more likely to
  associate slobbish behaviors like unkempt hair
  and muddy clothes with younger boys.
• Ladies are expected to look clean and smell nice.
  And whether youre male or female, good hygiene
  is essential to keeping yourself healthy and
  attractive.
• Your hygiene habits dont have to be excessive
  you simply have to make an effort to take care of
  yourself. Here are a few feminine hygiene tips
  to take note of
• Set aside time for grooming You dont really
  need to take three hours in the shower but
  setting aside 15 20 minutes per day to shower
  is important to keeping up a ladylike appearance.
• Youll look, smell, and feel much fresher after
  using soap, shampoo, and toothpaste. Dont forget
  to comb your hair before leaving home as well.
• Keep your body hairless One traditional sign of
  femininity is hairlessness.
• Even though it can be impractical to pay
  attention to the hair on your eyebrows, upper
  lip, underarms, and legs, most women do
  everything they can to keep their body hair
  invisible.
• You can employ various techniques like tweezing,
  waxing, threading, or shaving but dont force
  yourself if you dont want to.
• Spritz on perfume Smelling great is a feminine
  characteristic. Spray on light, flowery, or
  fruity fragrances before you leave home for an
  extra girly feel.

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• Clothes play a big part in how we present
  ourselves to the world. More importantly,
  clothing can help us embody who we want to be.
• Many stage and screen actors often say they
  cannot truly be in character until they put on
  the costume.
• If you want to cast yourself as a girly person,
  wearing appropriate clothes can help you become
  more graceful and ladylike.
• Some ways you can style yourself in a feminine
  way are
• Dress for a feminine silhouette When you take
  the time to dress in a feminine way, youre more
  likely to carry yourself accordingly.
• Dresses and skirts are the most universal signals
  of femininity so fill your wardrobe with
  well-fitting and flattering pieces.
• Plus, these clothes can also help you move in a
  ladylike way youre less likely to stomp around
  if youre wearing a delicate outfit, after all.
• Include brighter colors in your wardrobe
  Feminine looks often include bright, vibrant
  colors or cheerful pastels as navy, black,
  burgundy, or brown are stereotypically associated
  with masculine fashion.
• Its best to wear more shades of pink, lavender,
  blue, teal, green, yellow, or red for a girly
  feel.
• Experiment with girly patterns and textures
  Delicate prints, eye-catching patterns, and soft
  fabrics are typically considered to be feminine.
  Lace, florals, silk, velvet, polka dots, frills,
  and preppy checks are some of the styles you can
  use to feel more feminine.

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Fatty fish, lean meats, seafood, leafy greens,
and fruits rich in vitamin C can give your hair
strength and a mirror-like shine. 5) Embrace
your sexy side If youre struggling to feel and
act feminine, then its time to embrace your sexy
side and unleash it onto the world. Many women
get scared off at this stage, worried about being
seen as promiscuous. Its all about finding that
balance. Women can be many things. They can be
sexy, smart, funny, cute, charming and so much
more. Dont let the world define how you see
yourself. Instead, show them how you want to be
seen. Being feminine is sexy, so embrace it. Get
a little bit flirty with the men in your life.
Theres something so feminine and attractive
about a woman you cant have. Have a little fun
with it. Do what feels good and enjoy each step
of the way. Acting More Feminine
Once youve mastered presenting yourself in a
feminine way, you need to learn how to carry
yourself in a ladylike way as well. Cultivating
habits, mannerisms, and behaviors can greatly
help you embody girl traits. 6) Practice proper
posture Countless movies that include feminine
makeovers often include a scene where a tomboyish
character has to practice walking with a book on
their head.
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While this is an exaggeration and most women
dont actually do this, it shows you how
important good posture is to femininity. You
have to keep your spine straight with your
shoulders directly above your hips and your chin
parallel to the ground. When sitting, women
have to keep their legs crossed to avoid exposing
themselves when theyre wearing short skirts or
dresses. Additionally, sitting with your legs
wide apart has a masculine feel to it. To sit
like a lady, plant both of your feet on the
ground and cross them at the ankles, then bring
your knees tight together for a prim, feminine
way of sitting. There is also a way of walking
that accentuates the feminine figure and shows
off the curves. The trick is to pull yourself
forward using the lower half of the body, rather
than having your torso fall forward and letting
your feet catch up. Toss your shoulders back and
elevate your chest while swinging your hips
slightly at each step. As much as possible, walk
slowly and gracefully by taking lighter
steps. If you are in a hurry, aim to look
composed as you walk with quick, short steps to
reach your destination. 7) Cultivate good
manners Good manners matter. Proper etiquette
guides us as we interact with people and navigate
society. More than being mindless pleasantries,
good manners and proper etiquette help us show
our respect towards others and make them feel
appreciated. And treating people well often means
being treated well in return. Ladies are
expected to cultivate basic manners and etiquette
as a model for others, especially young
children. Practicing the basic rules of
etiquette you learned as a child is a simple way
of being more feminine and elegant. Try to
incorporate simple manners in your daily habits
such as Smiling genuinely at people Eating with
your elbows off the table Saying Excuse me when
you burp in public Using Please or May
I Sneezing into a tissue rather than your hands
Finding a kinder way to give negative feedback
Greeting people kindly even if youre in a bad
mood Chewing your food properly, with your mouth
closed Knocking on doors and waiting for a
response before entering a room Not interrupting
people or rolling your eyes when they are
speaking Asking people to pass dishes to you
during a meal rather than reaching for it
yourself (and invading their space) Keeping
negative opinions to yourself but sharing
positive comments and compliments to others
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• Speak like a lady
• You dont really have to change the way you think
  or ordinarily talk to be perceived as feminine as
  a big part of femininity relies on confidence.
• Swear words and crude language, however, are
  generally frowned upon in society.
• Men and women alike need to think twice when
  cussing in front of others, especially in a
  formal environment like the workplace.
• The difference is that men get a bit more leeway
  for cuss words and vulgar jokes because being
  provocative is seen as a masculine trait.
• On the other hand, women are expected to speak
  politely most of the time so femininity is
  closely associated with polished language.
• At best, being feminine means finding the balance
  between polite speech and asserting yourself.
• You can still raise your voice (sometimes) and
  curse (very quietly) but overall, you need to
  speak politely.
• Speaking like a lady means speaking clearly,
  knowing what you want to say, and being
  considerate towards others.
• A ladylike person isnt rude, hostile, or mean to
  the people around them, even if theyre with
  someone they dislike.

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Being around other women allows you to learn what
people consider as feminine and what is
not. Youll also be able to appreciate
femininity more as you find women to uplift you
and show you ladylike values, such as
compassion, sensitivity, and strength. Its
important to note that hanging out with women
requires you to act ladylike, whether online or
offline. When it comes to drama and gossip, you
should stand up for yourself if something is
wrong but never try to tear someone else
down. 11) Read womens magazines Media plays a
large role in shaping what is feminine and what
is not. Womens magazines, talk shows, and
social media content can all give you a clue on
what typical women are supposed to look like and
how they should act. For example, the media is
always trying to uplift empowered women who are
polished and successful in their own ways. This
is the current brand of femininity they want to
explore. Tuning into style, fashion, and
relationship trends provides you an idea of how
women are expected to behave in todays
society. Do be cautious and take everything with
a grain of salt most of the content you see is
designed to advertise rather than to give
advice. Embracing A Feminine Mindset
You may look, smell, walk, and talk like a lady
but it can only go so far if you dont have the
right mindset. Attitude and confidence have a
large impact on what people recognize as
feminine feeling at home in your own skin,
extending love to yourself and others, and
enjoying life will allow you to express femininity
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• and help others see it in you too.
• Own your con??dence and unique charm
• No one has a monopoly on what it means to be
  feminine. You can absolutely define what
  femininity is for you.
• Of course, you need to own your definition of
  femininity and not be afraid to show it to the
  world.
• Rather than conforming to traditional roles of
  femininity, you should focus on how to make
  yourself happy first.
• Building confidence in your body is about being
  comfortable in your own skin, regardless of your
  shape and size.
• Its easy to be more confident when you take care
  of yourself so dont be afraid to eat healthily,
  sleep a lot, and exercise when you can.
• Growing your own brand of charm requires you to
  accept and take pride in your unique personality.
• In order to charm someone, you have to showcase
  your incredible sense of self. Youre not
  bragging about who you are or what youve done
  youre simply staying attuned to who you are.
• Empathize with others
• Historically, femininity has been rooted in
  empathy and compassion. Female figures are often
  perceived as wise and nurturing rather than
  combative and competent.

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• In some cases, body language doesnt work and you
  will need to use your words to avoid
  miscommunication.
• Femininity is also about being open, vulnerable,
  and available to others.
• You arent building walls around yourself to
  block people out nor are you pretending to be
  something youre not.
• Feminine expression is the ability to express
  your own thoughts while listening and respecting
  what other people have to say too.
• Be more carefree.
• Men like to be in charge. They want to have
  command over their lives but the truth is, no one
  ever has complete control over their life.
• Mistakes happen, opportunities arise, and even
  emotions can change. The feminine perspective is
  a bit more passive and carefree.
• There is nothing you can do about a circumstance
  when it happens so you only have a say on how you
  react.
• The carefree, feminine mindset encourages you to
  be more receptive to changes and accept support
  from other people.
• Admitting that you have no control over something
  isnt the same as giving up. Rather, youre
  trying to focus on what you can do with more
  dignity, grace, and humility.

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nature to see the worst in yourself and to shut
these compliments down. Next time your husband
tells you that you look cute bed hair and all
you simply say, Thank you and nothing
else. Bottle all those comments you want to
unleash about not feeling cute and thinking you
look like a mess. Your husband is looking at
you. He sees all these things and he thinks you
look cute. All you have to do is accept that and
say thank you. It goes beyond this as well. If
your coworker asks if youd like help doing
stocktake, say yes! Forget that its your job
and accept the offer of help graciously. If your
boyfriend wants to do something nice for you, let
him. Whether it takes you out to a fancy
restaurant, or to fix a leaking tap. You might
be tempted to tell him he doesnt have to. But
in saying this, you miss the opportunity to enjoy
and benefit from something nice, and he misses
the opportunity to do something for you which
makes him feel good. Its not just about
you. Women are built to receive. Men are
attracted to femininity. By being receptive,
youre unleashing your femininity and only good
can come from this. 18) Compliment
yourself Stand in front of the mirror and start
showering the compliments on yourself. This type
of self-love will help you feel good about
yourself, which will then show outwardly to those
you come into contact with that day. We are
always our toughest critics. The first to find
faults in ourselves and to talk ourselves down.
This isnt feminine at all. If youre going to
start convincing others of your feminine side,
then you have to start by making an effort to
convince yourself. Stand in front of that mirror
each morning before you leave the house for the
day. Find three things to compliment yourself
on. Try and mix it up each morning so you arent
reusing the same compliments. Here are some
perfect examples You look fab in that dress!
Your hair looks amazing today. I love that
color on you. You look happy. Your eyes shine
when you smile. You paired your dress well with
your handbag. The options are endless. You just
have to be brave enough to see the best in
yourself. This should also flow into the way you
talk about yourself in front of others.
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No one is going to see you as feminine if youre
constantly criticizing the way you look and
act. When you talk about the negative things in
your life, youre going to be seen as much less
attractive. When you talk about the positive
things, your face automatically shines with a
spark and you become much more attractive to
those around you. Self-confidence is a powerful
tool, so dont underestimate it. Both when youre
alone and when youre around others. 19) Work
on your social skills
Having good social and communication skills is
essential for any person to have, even if they
are shy or introverted. Basic social graces let
you nourish relationships with the people whom
you interact with every day, like greeting your
fellow joggers Good morning! or thanking the
barista for your daily coffee. Even though it
might not feel natural at first, you should learn
to make a habit of it gradually. On a larger
scale, feminine social skills revolve around
being a good caretaker. Its admirable when a
person can spring into action if someone needs to
be nurtured. If someone is injured, you assist
them. If someone is feeling sad, you let yourself
become a shoulder to cry on. And if you
appreciate someone, you tell them or give them a
small gift in return. This doesnt mean you
should focus all your energy on caring for others.
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It simply sets a standard for all people that you
being greedy or selfish is not acceptable. The
best, most genuine way to connect with someone on
a social level is to be there for them when they
need you. 20) Learn how to empower men A strong
and confident feminine woman wants to be with an
equally strong and confident man. And she knows
exactly how to empower him to be one. Theres a
fascinating new concept in relationship
psychology which is generating a lot of buzz at
the moment. It goes to the heart of what women
can do to bring out the best in their
man. People are calling it the hero
instinct. The simple truth is that men have a
biological urge to provide for and protect women.
Its hardwired into them. By making him feel
like an everyday hero, it unleashes his
protective instincts and the most noble aspect of
his masculinity. Most importantly, it will
unleash his deepest feelings of attraction. And
the kicker? A man wont fall for a woman when
this thirst isnt satisfied. I know it sounds
kind of silly. A strong woman doesnt need
someone to rescue them. They dont need a hero
in their lives. But heres the ironic truth. Men
do still need to be a hero. Because its built
into their DNA to seek out relationships that
allow them to feel like a protector. And the few
women who actually realize that can gain a lot of
strength and power in the way they approach
their relationships. To learn exactly how to
trigger the hero instinct in your man, check out
this free online video by James Bauer. Hes an
experienced relationship psychologist who first
introduced the concept. Some ideas really are
life-changing. And for relationships, I think
this is one of them. Heres a link to the video
again. 22) Be Happy to have a partner, but also
not afraid to be alone When it comes to being a
strong feminine female, a strong woman knows that
unhealthy attachments are full of danger. You
dont need to rely on someone else to make you
happy. You need to be happy with yourself first.
This is why an alpha female isnt afraid of being
alone. Shell be happy anyway. But if you can
add to her happiness, then go ahead and come on
in. But if youre bringing in toxic energy, then
you need to get out of this womans way. This is
most men struggle to deal with her. They want to
get something from her so shes onto them
quicker than you can imagine.
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• Walk the walk
• In order to come across as feminine, you have to
  actually see yourself in this light.
• The way you walk and hold yourself says a lot
  about how you feel about yourself. If you
  consider yourself feminine, then others are
  going to follow suit.
• Here are some tips to help you get out there and
  walk the walk always keep your head up and
  avoiding slouching over as you go. Walk with
  intent and purpose this goes hand in hand with
  your confidence and knowing exactly what you
  want and where youre going.
• The idea to show everyone whos boss. Dont be
  afraid to stand out and make an entrance
  letting everyone know youve arrived.
• Fake it till you Make it
• f this is a huge lifestyle change for you then it
  might take a little time for you to get there.
  In the meantime, simply fake it till you make it.
• As you go along trying to convince others of your
  femininity, youll be surprised to notice that
  you start to believe in it as well.
• So, dont hold back.
• Dont make a couple of changes and then back out
  thinking this isnt for you.
• Its not something thats going to happen
  overnight. You need to give it plenty of time and
  dedication. Youre changing your entire mindset
  and the way you see yourself.

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And I mean that! His hero instinct simply hasnt
been triggered, which means he is unable to
commit to you in a long-term relationship. This
is a concept I touched on previously in the
article. A strong and confident feminine woman
wants to be with an equally strong and confident
man. If youre unsure of how to find one, it
comes down to this one simple concept. As
mentioned above, a man wants to feel appreciated.
He wants to care for you. Its a biological
drive he has whether hes aware of it or
not. If you trigger this instinct in him, he will
commit to you and wont pull away. Just a solid,
committed relationship that has its best shot at
success. Click here to watch his excellent free
video about the hero instinct. James Bauer, the
relationship expert who first coined this term,
reveals the simple things you can do starting
today. By triggering this very natural male
instinct, youll be able to not only catch a man,
but also pull him in and keep him there. You
can use your newfound femininity to help you put
in place some of the simple tips James Bauer
offers in his free video. Heres a link to his
unique video again. Can a relationship coach
help you too? If you want specific advice on your
situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a
relationship coach. I know this from personal
experience A few months ago, I reached out to
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Pearl Nash
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Pearl Nash has years of experience writing
relationship articles for single females looking
for love. After being single for years with no
hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to
get married to the love of her life. Now that
shes settled down and happier than shes ever
been in her life, she's passionate about sharing
all the wisdom she's learned over the journey.
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