Four signs of a toxic relationship, and what to do to fix it, according to psychologist

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Four signs of a toxic relationship, and what to
do to fix it, according to psychologist
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What is a relationship that is toxic?
A toxic relationship is defined as any
relationship between people who don't support
each other, where theres conflict and one seeks
to undermine the other, where theres
competition, where theres disrespect and a lack
of cohesiveness, according to Dr. Lillian Glass,
a communication and psychology expert from
California who claims she coined the term in her
1995 book Toxic People. Glass says that while
every relationship has its ups and downs, a toxic
one is always unpleasant and draining for the
people in it, to the point where the bad times
outweigh the good ones. Dr. Vinod Mune, a
psychologist in Nagpur who specializes in mental
health, adds that participants in toxic
relationships experience mental, emotional, and
even physical harm. Additionally, these
relationships need not be romantic According to
Glass, interpersonal, familial, and professional
relationships can all be harmful.
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1) Inconsistent or Hurtful Texting
Patterns of erratic texting and content that is
hurtful, negative, or both can be indicators of a
toxic relationship that isn't going in the right
direction. According to Brame, "your partner
will text whenever they feel like it, at random
times, and most of the time, when they are bored
or horny." This is typical of these kinds of
relationships. They aren't obligated to respond
until them "feel like it," which may take hours
or days. And with regard to sexting? When you
meet them later, they're more interested in
gaming, drinking, or suddenly announcing that
they're going out with their friends. In text,
they're all hot and intense.
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• Which of you, you or your partner, keeps score?
  The only place a scoreboard belongs is above a
  sports field, regardless of whether you are
  certain that this is the sixth time in two months
  that he has been late or whether he refuses to
  forget the time you tossed his favorite pair of
  pants into the Goodwill pile. There is a good
  chance that you are in a toxic relationship if
  one of you is keeping track of your good deeds or
  bad deeds.

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2) Toxic Communication

• The majority of your conversations are dominated
  by sarcasm or criticism, and they are motivated
  by contempt, which is a predictor of divorce.
• Do you ever find that you are hurling insults at
  friends or family? By mockingly repeating what
  they said in a different room, you could make fun
  of them. To avoid arguments and hostility, you
  can simply begin to ignore their calls.

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3) Your Partner Keeps Score

• Which of you, you or your partner, keeps score?
  The only place a scoreboard belongs is above a
  sports field, regardless of whether you are
  certain that this is the sixth time in two months
  that he has been late or whether he refuses to
  forget the time you tossed his favorite pair of
  pants into the Goodwill pile. There is a good
  chance that you are in a toxic relationship if
  one of you is keeping track of your good deeds or
  bad deeds.

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4) Lack of Self Care

• Lack of Self-Care In a bad relationship, you
  might stop doing the things you normally do for
  yourself.
• You might give up your free time, prioritize your
  health, and stop participating in activities you
  used to enjoy. This could be because you don't
  have the energy to do these things, or it could
  be that your partner doesn't like it when you
  pursue your own interests.
• It is essential that you each independently
  assess your relationship's needs and boundaries.
  Setting boundaries and establishing expectations
  would be much easier if you talked to the best
  psychologist in India.
• Even if you think you know what your needs and
  boundaries are, it's still important to look over
  them and then tell your spouse.

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• A good place to start is to talk about
  boundaries. Even though boundaries can change
  over time, it's important to keep talking about
  them.
• You can reevaluate how you feel about a variety
  of aspects of the relationship, including the
  need for physical intimacy and communication.
• However, toxic communication and behavior
  patterns don't have to cause your marriage to
  deteriorate you don't have to watch helplessly.
• When both you and your partner wish to make
  changes, a relationship counselor can help you
  begin to recognize the underlying causes of
  relationship toxicity and explore healthy,
  compassionate methods of communication and
  problem-solving.
• Couple therapy, which is also known as marriage
  counseling, helps couples develop healthier
  habits, atone for previous infidelity and
  sensitivities, and strengthen their emotional and
  sexual intimacy.

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What should you do if youre in a toxic
relationship?

• The best way to avoid a toxic relationship is to
  learn about one's own patterns and
  self-knowledge. If you're in a dramatic or
  difficult relationship, you need to figure out if
  you've chosen the wrong person for bad reasons
  from your past or are avoiding someone you really
  care about due to your own limitations, fears, or
  defenses. You can consciously choose to look for
  someone else if you identify the negative
  characteristics that have drawn you to your
  partner. You can look for ways you are behaving
  in the relationship and try to change your part
  of the dynamic that causes things to turn bad if
  you realize that the person you have chosen has a
  lot of the positive qualities you want. You can
  clearly see the paths that lead to the breakdown
  of your relationship once you understand
  yourself. You can take control of yourself and
  build a relationship that is better, more honest,
  and full of happiness.

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