Journeys: Healing Lifes hurts

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Journeys Healing Lifes hurts

• Dr. David Watkins

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Journeys

• TRANSFORMING LIVES
• Week-long and weekend seminars
• Provides opportunities for participants to learn
  more about themselves
• Receive healing
• Discover ways to assist others in breaking free
  and
• Staying free from destructive habit patterns

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Journeys

• Three distinct offerings
• Transforming lives through Christ treating the
  entire man, body, mind and spirit.
• Transforming lives of those who grieve and are
  suffering from loss death, divorce, pet-loss,
  and loses resulting from aging.
• Breaking Free and Staying Free from Addictions
  and Diseases

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Transforming Lives

• Topics discussed in Transforming Lives Ministry
• Biblical Basis of Inner Transformation
• We will look at Gods fundamental laws that are
  absolute and eternal. Four major laws of God will
  be explained and how they adversely affect us
  when they are broken.

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Transforming Lives

• Basic Trust
• Basic trust is the foundational building block
  for all human relationships. Without basic trust
  our human development is hindered. Learn how to
  acquire basic trust as an adult and be able to
  relate well with others and yourself

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Transforming Lives

• Bitter Roots
• Bitter root judgments are powerful unconscious
  forces that are behind patterns of trouble and
  destruction in our lives. These bitter roots are
  for the most part outside of our awareness but
  continue to sabotage us in our relationship with
  God and others.

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Transforming Lives

• Forgiveness, repentance and restitution
• We will learn how resentments are lodged in our
  heart and how they affect us through sowing and
  reaping. Forgiveness is necessary, along with
  repentance, if we are to free ourselves from
  destructive behavioral habit patterns.
  Repentance can be either soulish or Davidic,
  which is true sorrow for grieving the Lord. We
  look at restitution, Gods way to help us come to
  full repentance, restore trust in relationships.

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Transforming Lives

• Honoring Father and Mother
• The law of honoring affects our lives more
  powerfully than we realize. It is a commandment
  of God with a promise, that life will go well
  with you.

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Transforming Lives

• Our Image of God
• Our image of God is distorted. Many times we put
  our father or mothers face on God, since our
  parents were our first gods. What they said was
  the gospel truth.
• And None of us had perfect parents. We will
  learn how we can see God more clearly.

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Transforming Lives

• Performance Orientation
• Performance orientation is a problem for most of
  us. Performance is what was required of us as
  children. We were rewarded when we got good
  grades in school and conversely were punished
  when our grades were poor. Early on, we knew that
  the only we will be loved and accepted is when we
  please others, including ourselves. This is the
  basis of compulsive behavioral patterns, work
  alcoholism and others kinds of compulsive
  behaviors in our attempt to be loved and accepted.

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Transforming Lives

• Inner Vows and Heart of Stone
• Inner vows are promises made to ourselves early
  in life and then often forgotten. They become
  directives that control our responses to
  situations and people around us. It is out of our
  inner vows that a heart of stone is formed.

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Transforming Lives

• Parental Inversion
• Parental inversion describes the false identity
  children take on when a parent is unable or
  unwilling to fulfill his/her parental role. The
  parentally inverted child will carry the weight
  of care and responsibility meant for father and
  mothers.

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Transforming Lives

• Distorted Love
• When we demand love and acceptance, we are
  distorting the meaning of love. Distorted love
  demands that others love us the way we expect.
  Our expectations we place on others is usually
  self-centered and focused on what we can get
  rather than what we can offer others. Distorted
  love is unregenerate love, denying ourselves the
  full joy in giving and receiving true love.

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Transforming Lives

• Distorted Love
• When we demand love and acceptance, we are
  distorting the meaning of love. Distorted love
  demands that others love us the way we expect.
  Our expectations we place on others is usually
  self-centered and focused on what we can get
  rather than what we can offer others.
  unregenerate love, the weight of care and
  responsibility meant for father and mothers.

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Transforming Lives

• Inner Vows and Heart of Stone
• Inner vows are promises made to ourselves early
  in life and then often forgotten. They become
  directives that control our responses to
  situations and people around us. It is out of our
  inner vows that a heart of stone is formed.

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Transforming Lives Parental Inversion

• Parental inversion describes the false identity
  children take on a parent is unable or unwilling
  to fulfill his/her parental role. The parentally
  inverted child will carry
• Personal Strongholds when

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Transforming Lives Personal Strongholds

• when we got good grades in school and conversely
  were punished when our grades were poor. Early
  on, we knew that the only we will be loved and
  accepted is when we please others, including
  ourselves. This is the basis of compulsive
  behavioral patterns, work holism and others kinds
  of compulsive behaviors in our attempt to be
  loved and accepted.

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Transforming Lives contd

• Strongholds are deeply embedded thought patterns
  that are formidable obstacles to the healing
  process. Strongholds have a life of their own.
  They prevent us from cutting free from unhealthy
  dependencies and from becoming the people whom
  God plans for us to be.

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Transforming Lives Denial

• We often live in denial resulting from past
  painful experiences. The root causes of denial
  will be explained and ways we can break through
  the wall of denial. We will look at several
  denial systems.

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Transforming Lives Relationship of emotions and
feelings

• Who is in charge, you or your feelings? We will
  examine the role of emotions and feelings and how
  we unconsciously use them to sabotage us in our
  relationships.

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Transforming Lives Prenatal and Childhood Issues

• We will look at our life with our mothers womb
  and see how it is possible we could have been
  wounded and its affects on us today. We are given
  a personal spirit at conception. Through their
  spirit, and with the propensity to sin because of
  their sin nature, children may react wrongly in
  the womb to circumstance of the parents. We also
  will discuss abortion and offer God-given ways to
  help from those who suffer the pain and guilt
  from abortion.

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Transforming Lives Emotional Abuse

• Arbitrary, inconsistent, or abusive parental
  discipline can damage the emotional well-being
  and security of the child. We will examine this
  issue at length.

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Transforming Lives Other Topics

• Healing the sexually abused
• Effective Communication Patterns
• Substitute Mate
• Deliverance and Inner Healing
• Healing Relationships to Authority
• Healing Common Sexual Experiences
• Generational Sin
• Shame
• Grieving Losses
• Overcoming Fears, Phobias, Depression, Burnout,
  Homosexuality, Sexual Addictions
• Unhealthy Hiding Places

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Healing and Growing Through Grief

• Change and loss are part of life
• We grieve change and loss. Some loses are hard to
  bare. Every loss is a very personal experience.
• No two people experience loss in exactly the same
  way.
• The natural healing response to loss is a process
  we call grief.

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Grief and Loss

• We experience loss and grieve through different
  stages. We move backward and forward through
  various grief experiences.
• God promises to be with us and heal us through
  all of our experiences however painful and
  tragic.
• Are you willing to allow God to heal you? Are you
  willing move on to become whole and complete?

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Common Responses to Grief and Loss

• Physical Sleep Disturbances, rapid heartbeat,
  neglect of self.
• Emotional Confusion and numbness
• Behavioral Unable to concentrate, forgetful,
  crying.
• Cognitive Denial, inability to concentrate,
  devaluing of self
• Spiritual blaming God, emptiness, questioning
  beliefs.