Wisdom Principles in Raising Teenagers

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Wisdom Principles in Raising Teenagers

• Family Under Construction

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Prov 243-4

• By ______a house is built,
• And by _______ it is established
• And by _________ the rooms are filled with all
  precious and pleasant riches.

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Prov 243-4

• By wisdom a house is built,
• And by understanding it is established
• And by knowledge the rooms are filled With all
  precious and pleasant riches.

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Prov 243-4

• It takes wisdom to build a house, and
  understanding to set it on a firm foundation.
• It takes knowledge to furnish its rooms with fine
  furniture and beautiful draperies.
• The Message

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Foundational Three Step Process

• WISDOM . . .
• Asks whats going on?
• To Attain knowledge
• Asks WHY
• To Receive Understanding.
• Then .. Asks How do I deal with the What in light
  of the Why?
• Pray for wisdom Jas 15

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The Over Arching Principle Prov 243-4

• Six specific Wisdom Principles that fit under
  this umbrella of wisdom!
• See how each fits into this three step process
  based upon the what and the why!

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WISDOM PRINCIPLE 1

• Wisdom focuses on maturity not age in regard to
  privilege.
• Maturity not age determines Freedom!
• Prov 189 One who is slack in his work is
  brother one who destroys.
• Prov 2021 An inheritance quickly gained at the
  beginning will not be blessed in the end.
• Prov 1211 He who works his land will have
  abundant food, but he who chases fantasies lacks
  judgment.

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Wisdom Principle 2

• Wisdom understands that peace is not always worth
  the price.
• Jer 81115 You say, Peace, peace, when there
  is no peace. 15 We looked for peace, but no good
  came and for a time of health, but behold there
  was trouble!
• When you compromise your principles to make for
  peace you lose every time.
• When the heart of your children are not bent
  towards God they will push and push and push.
• Who is training whom?

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Wisdom Principle 3

• Respect is developed through disciple not
  leniency.
• 1 Tim 47 Discipline yourself for the purpose of
  godliness
• 2 Tim 17 For God has not given us a spirit of
  timidity, but of power and love and discipline .
• Be a parent, not a buddy! They dont need another
  pal they need a parent!
• Consider our Criminal Justice System.
• Eccl 811 Because the sentence against an evil
  deed is not executed quickly, therefore the
  hearts of the sons of men among them are given
  fully to do evil.

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Wisdom Principle 4

• Wisdom focuses on discernment and not handing
  down decisions.
• Prov 45-7 Acquire wisdom! Acquire
  understanding! 6 "Do not forsake her, and she
  will guard you Love her, and she will watch over
  you. 7 " The beginning of wisdom is to acquire
  insight, And with all your acquiring, get
  understanding and discernment.

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Wisdom Principle 4

• If we stifle questions and creative thinking we
  encourage rebellion.
• Be careful not to destroy the teachability of our
  children by answering all their questions too
  quickly.

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Wisdom Principle 5

• Wisdom focuses on a childs personal
  accountability to God.
• Rm 1412 So then each of us shall give an
  account of himself to God.
• As soon as they become a Christian, challenge
  them!
• Do you know how your child measures your personal
  commitment to God?

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Wisdom Principle 6

• Wisdom understands that different people are
  loved in different ways.
• The Golden Rule --- Matt 712
• Do you know your teens Love Language?

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Conclusion

• Love says I will meet your needs and care enough
  to find out how.
• Wisdom asks What to gain knowledge, asks why to
  gain understanding and uses wisdom in the proper
  application.
• Are you building a home on wisdom?
• Ps 1271 Except Jehovah build the house, they
  that build it do so in vain.