Learning about L'I'F'E'

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Learning about L.I.F.E.

• A family-based program
• on relationships and
• abuse prevention
• Sister Kieran Sawyer, SSND
• and Kathie Amidei

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LOVE (family love)
I
INFATUATION (in-love)
F
FRIENDSHIP (peers)
E
EXPLOITATION (using)
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Exploitation when someone uses another person to
get what they want, not caring how the other
person feels.
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What is sexual abuse?
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Sexual Abuse an example of extreme
EXPLOITATION.
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PEDOPHILEThis serious disorder is called
PEDOPHILA.
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Who might be a sexual abuser?
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Relative aunt uncle
grandparent cousin
Stranger internet user
truck driver
bus driver shopper
Adult Leader
teacher
coach
scout leader
priest nun
Friend teenager
friend of parents neighbor
babysitter
Family Member father mother
brother
sister

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What do sexual abusers do to children?
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• Build trust (with you and your parents)
• Get you alone
• Give you alcohol or drugs
• Make promises

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• Tell you that you are special
• Show sexual pictures, movies or videos to you
• Take sexual photos of you

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• Touch you sexually
• Make you touch them sexually
• Threaten to hurt you (or
• someone else) if you tell
• Try to do it again

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How would a person FEEL who has been abused
sexually?
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CONFUSED
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Good Feelings Bad Feelings

• Special
• Excited
• Loved
• Grown up
• Accepted
• Cared for

• Scared
• Embarrassed
• Ashamed, guilty
• Hurt
• Dirty
• Used

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CONFUSION

• Good Feelings
• about sex

• Bad Feelings
• about sex

One of the worst side effects of sexual abuse.
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What should you do if someone tries to abuse
you?
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THE BIG THREE

• What to do in case of sexual abuse
• SAY NO.
• GET AWAY.
• 3.TELL SOMEONE YOU TRUST
• (Keep telling until someone listens.)
• Never accuse someone if it isnt true.

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What does a person who has been
(or is being) sexually abused NEED TO KNOW?
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God loves you!
You are good. The
abuse is bad.

Sexual abuse is not your fault.
The abuser selfishly misused your trust.
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Sexual abuse is like a serious wound that needs
to be healed.
The wound wont go away. It will
fester if
you dont deal with it.
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Talk to someone you trust.
Keep talking
until you find someone who can
help you heal.
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???KEEP A SECRET???
What if a friend tells you about being abused,
and makes you promise not to tell anyone?
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This is a secret you can NOT keep.
You MUST get help for your friend. Talk to an
adult you can TRUST who will find the help your
friend needs.
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Talk to God