Marriage Roles and Responses 1

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Marriage Roles and Responses (1)
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The Bible sets forth specific distinct roles
for a husband wife that must be accurately
understood practically fulfilled.
-Preparing for Marriage, Dennis Rainey, editor,
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Marriage is a 100/100 Relationship

• No roleless marriages
• Marriage roles responses are being confused,
  weakened destroyed
• Wife The Leader The Brain The Desperate
• Husband Incompetent The Brawn The Tyrant
• God-given roles responses are essential for
  successful marriages that honor God (Heb. 134)

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HUSBAND
HEAD (Love)
Ephesians 523, 25
ROLE
WIFE
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CHRIST
HEAD (Love)
Ephesians 523 122
ROLE
CHURCH
Christ Head (leader) of his body, the church
Supremely loves the church, Eph. 525-29
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HUSBAND
HEAD Servant-Leader
Ephesians 5 25-29, 33
ROLE
WIFE
Husband Head (leader) of his wife is a function
of love that takes work, not a position of
superiority
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Jesus was a Servant-LeaderMark 1042-45

• Jesus leadership
• SERVICE-SACRIFICE-SALVATION
• Unselfish, Rom. 153 Phil. 24-8
• Gentiles leadership
• LORDING-WIELD POWER-BE SERVED
• Husbands leadership

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Husband Must be a Servant-LeaderMark 1042-45

• Great (megas) Be a servant
• Diakonos, an attendant, a waiter
• First (protos, first in rank) Be a slave
• Devoted to another to the disregard of ones own
  interests
• Proverbs 1129

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Being a Servant-Leader Does Not Mean

• Becoming a lording leader, making all the
  decisions himself or selfishly controlling others
  so he can meet his own needs
• Must have an rally the troops personality
• The wife never gives him advice counsel

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Being a Servant-Leader Means

• Taking overall responsibility for direction of
  the family (physical spiritual, moral
  material), 1 Tim. 58 Eph. 64
• Serving the needs of his wife family
• Cherishing his wife so she can become all God
  wants her to be
• Husband denies himself gives himself to his
  wife his family

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Being a Servant-Leader Means

• Husband takes the initiative in the home
• Spiritual leader (Eph. 64 Gen. 189)
• Finances (1 Tim. 58)
• Resolve conflict enhance godliness
• Making it easier for your wife to follow your
  leadership, Psa. 1281-4
• Ultimately, responsible to the Lord

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HUSBAND
SUBMISSION (Respect)
ROLE
RESPONSE
WIFE
Wife Willingly puts herself under her husbands
leadership (Eph. 522-24 1 Pet. 31-2, 5-6)
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CHRIST
SUBMISSION (Respect)
ROLE
RESPONSE
CHURCH
Church Willingly puts herself under
Christs leadership (Eph. 524)
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Wife Submit to Your Husband

• Action of the will
• Respectful, holy conduct, 1 Pet. 32, 5-6
• Obey his leadership, 1 Pet. 36 Titus 25
• Submission is your response to husbands role as
  head (servant-leader) Not your role
• Helps your husband, Prov. 219 2715-16
  3110-12, 28-29

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Wife Submit to Your Husband

• Ultimately a matter between wife Christ,
  Eph. 522 1 Pet. 33-5
• Adorn yourself with the gentle quiet spirit
  -- the essence of submission, 1 Tim. 211
• Respect put into practice, Eph. 533
• But he wont lead (Then he will answer to God)
• God didnt say that, in such cases, you can lead
  (1 Pet. 31-2) Prov. 219 3110-12

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HUSBAND
LOVE Ephesians 533 RESPECT
ROLE
RESPONSE
WIFE
Servant leader (Mk. 1042-45)
Submission (Eph. 522, 24)