Ten Tunes to Play Life

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Ten Tunes to Play Life

• Social Etiquette Public Seminar

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Define Life..
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One Tool to Play Life Right..
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Define Trial.

• Trying to take something away from somebody else
• Reflected in competition
• Where results are often sharply focused
• Where freedom may be lost
• Where money may be taken away
• When the world starts coming after you

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Destroying Attitude Patterns

• Denial
• Fail or resist to see WHAT IS
• Making initial assumption
• Fail to test for truth or accuracy
• Inertia
• Paralysis caused by fear
• Deceptive masking
• Wear a mask forgetting your real needs

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Right or Happy

• No good time, no better time
• It is Right Now

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Life Ten Tunes to Play It Right

1. You either get it, or you do not
2. You Create your own experience
3. People do what works
4. You cannot change what you do not acknowledge
5. Life rewards action
6. There is no reality only perception
7. Life is managed, it is not cured
8. We teach people how to treat us
9. There is power in forgiveness
10. You have to name it before you can claim it

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Tune One You either get it, or you do not

• Strategy
• Become one of those who gets it
• Break the code of human nature
• find out what makes people tick
• Learn why you and other people do what they do,
  and do not do what they do not.

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What is IT..

• Code of life
• Is it relationship?
• Is it self-management?
• Is it career competition?
• Is it emotional life?

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To Get IT

• Be prepared with necessary information
• Be prepared with required skills
• Pay attention
• Make adjustment
• Do not miss the time
• Will to learn to make better choices

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To Get IT recognize the EDGE

• Existing
• Instinctual
• Involuntary
• Reactive self preservation
• Primary goal from one day to another
• Living
• Exercise of certain learned skills
• Attitude
• Abilities

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To Get IT Keep a Primary Goal

• Have a quality of experience
• Keep unique and rewarding experience
• Skills needed are Understanding Controlling
• Make it Happen the way you Want
• Learn Why How you do what you do
• Do not Do what they do not Do

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knowledge if you want to Get IT

• Knowledge gives you an incredible edge
• Knowledge makes you the one to control
• Knowledge makes you The One every ones Follow
• Knowledge makes you enjoy special peace of mind
• Knowledge makes you confident
• Knowledge makes you know the buttons
• Knowledge makes you predict
• Knowledge is POWER

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Hardest Part of Knowledge

• In learning something new, is unlearning the old
  way of doing it.
• You must be careful and discriminate about where
  and from whom you accept input..
• Know the fact, but do Know the Ropes
• Get the Map, Plan and Time Table if you want to
  Know.

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Your Life Strategy Involving People

• Overcome their resistances excuses
• Get them to accept your view of the world
• HOW?
• Let them find similarities between you and your
  values and their own
• Find similar things, both of you can deal in with

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Tune Two You create your own experience

• Strategy
• Acknowledge and accept accountability for your
  life
• Understand your role in creating the results that
  are your life
• Learn how to choose better so you have best

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You are Accountable.

• If you are successful or unsuccessful
• If your relationships are on the rocks
• If you are happy or sad
• If life is fair or unfair

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To be AccountableAsk Yourself

• What is the life circumstance that I do not like?
• What did I do to arrange the situation so that it
  happened in the way that it happened?
• What did I do to make the result possible?
• Did I trust foolishly?
• Did I miss important warning signs?
• Did I fail to be clear about what I wanted?
• Did I choose the wrong person?
• Did I choose the wrong place?
• Did I have the wrong reason?
• Did I fail to take needed action?
• Did I fail to require enough of myself?
• Did I need to start certain new behaviors?

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You are a Victim

• You are not a Victim..

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I Own the Problem..

• The Problem is in ME

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I am a Victim..Because

• What happened to me
• as a child

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Difference Between Child Adult

• Child
• Does not have the knowledge
• Does not have the power to choose
• Reacts
• Powerless
• Cannot choose the source

• Adult
• Has the knowledge
• Has the power to choose
• Acts
• Powerful
• Can choose the source

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How to Create your own Experience?

• When you Play, you Pay

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When you Choose?

• When you choose the behavior, you choose the
  consequences
• When you choose the thoughts, you choose the
  consequences
• When you choose the thoughts, you choose the
  physiology

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Real World ChoicesYou Choose.

• Where to be
• How to act
• What to say
• What to do
• Whom to be with
• What to concentrate on
• What to believe
• When to go along
• When to resist
• Whom to trust
• Whom to avoid

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Tune Three People do what works

• Strategy
• Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior
  and that of others
• Control the payoffs to control life

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Tune Four You cannot change what you do not
acknowledge

• Strategy
• Get real with yourself about life and everybody
  in it
• Be truthful about what is not working in your
  life
• Stop making excuses and start making results

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Tune Five Life rewards action

• Strategy
• Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger
• Learn that the world could not care less about
  thoughts without actions

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Tune Six There is no reality only perception

• Strategy
• Identify the filters through which you view the
  world
• Acknowledge your history without being controlled
  by it

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Tune Seven Life is managed, it is not cured

• Strategy
• Learn to take charge of your life and hold on
• This is a long ride
• You are the driver every single day

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Tune Eight We teach people how to treat us

• Strategy
• Own, rather than complain about, how people treat
  you
• Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have
  what you want

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Tune Nine There is power in Forgiveness

• Strategy
• Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are
  doing to you
• Take your power back from those who have hurt you

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Tune Ten You have to name it before you can
claim it

• Strategy
• Get clear about what you want and take your turn

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Thank You