RESOLUTION SKILLS FOR BUILDING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

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RESOLUTION SKILLS FOR BUILDING HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIPS
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What Is Conflict?

• When two, or more, people each want
• something different.
• Conflict Is An Opportunity
• It Can Have Positive Or Negative
• Outcomes

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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP CYCLE

• BIO-CHEMICAL
• RESPONSE TO
• ENVIRONMENT

• BELIEFS AND
• VALUES

DESIGN (Self )

• INVEST
• TIME
• RESOURCE
• ENERGY
• ENCOURAGEMENT

DEFINE
ACCOUNTABILITY
HEALTHY CYCLE
DEVELOP
CHANGE
DISAPPOINTMENT
(OOPS!)
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UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP CYCLE
(OUCH!)
DURESS (CORP. PAIN)

• SEVERE STRESS
• COMMUNICATIONS
• BEHAVIOR

DISRUPTION
RETURN TO HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP CYCLE
UNHEALTHY CYCLE
DENIAL
DECISION
REINVEST
PLANNED DEPARTURE
DESTRUCTION
FORCED EXIT
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The Role Of Forgiveness In Our Lives
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Forgive To Cease To Feel Resentment Against
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Forgiveness Involves Three Dimensions Of Our Lives

• Spiritual
• Emotional
• Relational

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The Spiritual Dimension Of Forgiveness
Col. 313 Bear with each other and forgive
whatever grievances you may have against one
another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (NIV)
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The Spiritual Dimension Of Forgiveness

• We Choose To Get Better Or Bitter
• Failing To Forgive Turns The Poison On Ourselves
• We Must Also Learn To Forgive Ourselves

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The Relational Dimension Of Forgiveness
But speaking the truth in love , let us grow in
every way into him who is the head Christ.
Eph. 415
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The Relational Dimension Of Forgiveness
If your brother sins against you, go and show him
his fault, just between the two of you. If he
listens to you, you have won your brother
over. Matt. 1815
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The Relational Dimension Of Forgiveness
USE THE I LANGUAGE NOT THE YOU LANGUAGE
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A Prayer For Enemies

• Almighty and tender Lord Jesus Christ,
• Just as I have asked you to love my friends
• so I ask you to love my enemies.
• You alone, Lord, are mighty.
• You alone are merciful.
• Whatever you make me desire for my enemies, give
  it to them.
• And give the same back to me.

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• If I ever ask for them anything
• Which is outside your perfect rule of love,
• Whether through weakness, ignorance or malice,
• Good Lord, do not give it to them.
• And do not give it back to me!
• You who are the whole truth, correct their
  errors.
• You who are the incarnate word, give life to
  their souls.
• Tender Lord Jesus,
• Let me not be a stumbling block to them,
• Nor a rock of offence.

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• My sin is sufficient to me, without harming
  others.
• I, a slave to sin,
• Beg your mercy on my fellow slaves.
• Let them be reconciled with you,
• And through you, reconciled to me.
• Anselm of Canterbury

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Summing Up Be Agreeable, Be Sympathetic, Be
Loving, Be Compassionate, Be Humble. That Goes
For All Of You, No Exceptions. No Retaliation.
No Sharp Tongued Sarcasm. Instead, Bless
Thats Your Job, To Bless. Youll Be A Blessing
And Also Get A Blessing. I Peter 38 (The
Message)