A New Way to Look at Leadership

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Dont Bring It To Work
PA Chamber of Commerce 2009 Annual Human
Resources Conference December 1st, 2009 Hershey,
PA
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Intentions of the Day

• Have Fun!
• Recognize the 13 most common patterns in the
  workplace
• Learn how to diffuse office politics
• Understand conflict as a creative force
• Find the way OUTObserve, Understand, Transform
  relationships for stellar leadership

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Our Philosophy
Everything is connected, no one wins unless we
all do!!
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Get ready.Its exam time!!!
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How do you put a giraffe in a refrigerator?

• The correct answer is Open the refrigerator, put
  in the giraffe, and close the door.
• This question tests whether you tend to do simple
  things in an overly complicated way

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How do you put an elephant into a refrigerator?

• Did you say, Open the refrigerator, put in the
  elephant, and close the refrigerator?
• Wrong Answer! Correct Answer Open the
  refrigerator, take out the giraffe, put in the
  elephant and close the door.
• This tests your ability to think through the
  repercussions of your previous actions.

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The Lion King is hosting an animal conference.
All the animals attend... except one. Which
animal does not attend?

• Correct Answer The Elephant. The elephant is in
  the refrigerator. You just put him in there.
• This tests your memory. Okay, even if you did not
  answer the first three questions correctly, you
  still have one more chance to show your true
  abilities.

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There is a river you must cross but it is used by
crocodiles, and you do not have a boat. How do
you manage it?

• Correct Answer You jump into the river and swim
  across. Have you not been listening? All the
  crocodiles are attending the Animal Meeting.
• This tests whether you learn quickly from your
  mistakes.

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What are patterns?
Repetitive reactions that keep us stuck in the
world of always and never
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Insanity
Doing the same things over and over and
expecting different results.
Albert Einstein
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Patterns in the Workplace

• Super Achiever
• Rebel
• Procrastinator
• Clown
• Persecutor
• Victim
• Rescuer
• Drama Queen (King)
• Martyr
• Pleaser
• Avoider
• Denier
• Splitter

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How dopatterns begin?

• Family
• Culture
• Crisis

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Family Patterns

• The first organization into which you were born
• Passed down through the generations
• Locked in your nervous system

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Culture Patterns

• Societal norms and rules that become knots as
  in can not, will not, and not like me
• Silent agreements about inclusion and exclusion

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Crisis Patterns

• Split-second occurrences that cause hardening of
  the emotions
• The belief that the external world is not safe

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A PatternAware leader will. 

• Observe behavior to discern underlying patterns
• Understand and probedeeper to discover
  theorigins of these patterns
• Transform bytaking actions tochange behavior

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What activates patterns?
Rigidity Flexibility
Exclusion Inclusion
Emotionally Closed Emotionally Open
Constant Sameness Constant Change
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Pattern Talk
Rescuer
Super Achiever
Rebel
Avoider
Splitter
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Pattern Transformations at Work and Home

• Super Achiever
• Rebel
• Procrastinator
• Clown
• Persecutor
• Victim
• Rescuer
• Drama Queen (King)
• Martyr
• Pleaser
• Avoider
• Denier
• Splitter

Creative Collaborator Community
Builder Realizer Humorist Visionary Explorer Mento
r Storyteller Integrator Truth Teller Initiator Tr
ust Builder Peacemaker


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A Pattern Aware Leader

• Observes

• Understands

• Transforms

Integrator
Visionary
Community Builder
Steve Jobs
Oprah
Bono
Peacemaker
Creative Collaborator
Nelson Mandela
Jane Goodall
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Begin to Understand Take the Pattern Aware Quiz

• Visit www.sylvialafair.com/quiz.html
• You can send the quiz to a friend, with or
  without your results!

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Contact

• Sylvia Lafair, Ph.D
• President
• Creative Energy Options, Inc.
• 45 Country Place Lane
• White Haven, PA 18661
• Sylvia_at_ceoptions.com
• [phone]
• Fax [phone]