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It is an unruly evil, full of deadly
poison. (James 38)
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Not one of us wants to believe that we would
actually engage in backbiting, talebearing,
gossiping, slandering, murmuring, or sowing
discord among brethren. But it is very likely
that we all have done so at some time.
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The heart of the wise teaches his mouth, and
adds learning to his lips. (Prov. 1623)
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When words are many, sin is not absent, but he
who holds his tongue is wise. (Prov. 1019)
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Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his
soul from troubles. (Prov. 2123)
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He who has knowledge spares his words, and a man
of understanding is of a calm spirit. (Prov.
1727)
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A prudent man conceals knowledge, but the heart
of fools proclaims foolishness. (Prov. 1223)
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A fool has no delight in understanding, but in
expressing his own heart. (Proverbs 182)
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There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts
of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings
healing. (Prov. 1218)
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Psalm 151-3 1 Lord, who may abide in Your
tabernacle? Who may dwell in Your holy
hill? 2    He who walks uprightly, And works
righteousness, And speaks the truth in his
heart 3    He who does not backbite with his
tongue, Nor does evil to his neighbor, Nor takes
up a reproach against his friend.
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Proverbs 616-19 16    These six things the Lord
hates, Yes, seven are an abomination to
Him 17    A proud look, A lying tongue, Hands
that shed innocent blood, 18    A heart that
devises wicked plans, Feet that are swift in
running to evil, 19    A false witness who speaks
lies, and one who sows discord among brethren.
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Matthew 1815-17
Between youand him alone
Moreover if your brother sins against you, go
and tell him his fault between you and him alone.
If he hears you, you have gained your brother.
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Instructions for handling problems
Matthew 1815-17

• 1815 - Deal with it privately.
• 1816 - If no resolution is found, involve other
  Christians who will be able to help resolve it.
• 1817 - Ask the whole church to help if the
  problem still exists.

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Keeps Us From Sharing the Problem
Matthew 1815-17

• We really do not need advice we need to OBEY!
• Debate your case with your neighbor, And do not
  disclose the secret to another. Proverbs
  2529
• We should want solutions, not audiences.

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Keeps Us From Sharing the Problem
Matthew 1815-17

• Murmuring against brethren, even if not by name,
  sows discord.
• For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where
  there is no whisperer, contention quiets down.
  Proverbs 2620
• A prudent man conceals knowledge, but the heart
  of fools proclaims folly. Prov. 1223

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Keeps Us From Sharing the Problem
Matthew 1815-17

• Third parties will often make the problem worse,
  not better.
• Like one who takes a dog by the ears, is he who
  passes by and meddles with strife not belonging
  to him. Proverbs 2617

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Keeps Us From Sharing the Problem
Matthew 1815-17

• No passage allows an exception to this rule.
• Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to
  do and does not do it, to him it is sin.
  James 417
• There is no right way to do the wrong thing!

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What should you do?
If one tells you their problems with a 3rd party

• Instruct them to go to that person alone gently
  encourage them not to complain against or sow
  discord among brethren.
• If they say it is not really a sin and they
  choose not to go privately
• Encourage them not to speak of it again. They
  need to forbear and forget it.

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What should you do?
If one tells you their problems with a 3rd party

• If they continue to bring it up
• Gently reprove them of murmuring insist that
  they handle the problem scripturally.
• If they insist it is not a sin, and they still
  wont go the person(s), then
• Pray with them that God will help them to rid
  themselves of resentment.

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The Tongue Reflects The Heart
Matthew 1234-37 (NKJV) 34 out of the abundance
of the heart the mouth speaks.  35 A good man
out of the good treasure of his heart brings
forth good things, and an evil man out of the
evil treasure brings forth evil things. 36 But I
say to you that for every idle word men may
speak, they will give account of it in the day of
judgment. 37 For by your words you will be
justified, and by your words you will be
condemned.
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Ephesians 429-32 (NKJV) 29 Let no corrupt word
proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for
necessary edification, that it may impart grace
to the hearers.  30 And do not grieve the Holy
Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the
day of redemption.  31 Let all bitterness,
wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put
away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to
one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
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Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of
my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my
strength and my Redeemer. Psalm 1914
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Have You Obeyed The Gospel?
Hear The Gospel (Rom. 1017) Believe That Jesus
is the Son of God (Acts 837) Repent of Your
Sins (Acts 238) Confess That Jesus is the Son
of God (Acts 837) Be Baptized for the
Forgiveness of Sins (Acts 238) Live Faithfully
Until You Die (Rev. 210)
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GOSSIP 1 Timothy 513 3 John 10

• phluaros - from phluo (to boil up)
• to indulge in empty foolish talk babbling,
  foolish, trifling, vain (Thayer, 655)

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GOSSIP

• Empty, idle words about others
• Accusations /or insinuations which
  discredit instead of build up
• Idle talk that may turn someones opinion against
  a person or situation
• Can be true or false or a combination
• May occur when one feels hurt and vents
• Encouraged by idleness 1 Tim. 513 2 Thess.
  311

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WHISPERER Rom. 129 2 Cor. 1220

• Speaks evil of one who is absent
• Builds curiosity and suspicion by dropping hints
  that someone has done wrong
• Not willing to confront or resolve (face to face)
• Cowardly sin (Matt. 1815)

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BACKBITER Rom. 130 2 Cor. 1220

• katalalos a defamer, evil speaker (Thayer,
  332)
• More open bold than the whisperer, although
  such a person does not face the accused with his
  slander
• Backbiting causes anger Prov. 2523
• Backbiter does not abide with God Psa. 151, 3

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TALEBEARER Prov. 1113 2019 2620

• Scandal-monger (as travelling about) A
  trafficker in scandalous reports about others
  Lev. 1916
• Untrustworthy - Prov. 1113 2019
• Stirs up strife - Prov. 2620 1627-28 619
• Hurtful - Prov. 188 (wounds, KJV) Prov. 179

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BUSYBODY 1 Tim. 513 2 Ths. 311

• periergos (1 Tim. 513) - busy about trifles and
  neglectful of important matters, esp. busy about
  other folks affairs, a busybody (Thayer, 502)
• periergazomai (2 Ths. 311) used apparently of
  a person officiously inquisitive about anothers
  affairs (Thayer, 502)
• Undertake to be involved in the matters of others
• Meddler (mischief-maker, RSV) 1 Pet. 415

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SLANDERER 2 Timothy 33 (1 Tim. 311)

• Accuse, defame, malign with falsehood
• diabolos - Those who are given to finding fault
  with the demeanor conduct of others, and
  spreading their innuendos criticisms in the
  church (Vine, 580)
• Foolish Prov. 1018
• Slander is driven by pride envy Psa. 1015
• Overcome slander or be destroyed! Psa. 1015

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HOW CAN WE AVOID THESE SINS?

• Refuse the tasty morsel Prov. 2622
• Guard your tongue - Prov. 133 2123
• Ask yourself these questions
• Is it true? (Eph. 425)
• Why am I repeating it?
• What is the likely outcome Help or harm? (Eph.
  429)
• Have I talked with the person Im talking about?

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HOW CAN WE AVOID THESE SINS?

• Remember the result of such sins
• Strife (Prov. 2620)
• Wounds (Prov. 188)
• Trouble for the soul (Prov. 2123)
• Death (Prov. 1821)
• Divine wrath (Psa. 1015 Prov. 619)