Counselling Support Service

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Counselling Support Parenting Workshop
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Counselling Support Parenting Workshop

• Sec 1 Parents Night
• 9 January 2009

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8 Stages of Life (Eric Erikson)
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Changes
Social
Emotional
Physical
Moral/ Spiritual
Intellectual
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This is what a teenage brain looks like
Prefrontal Cortex (Front of the brain, behind the
eye-brow)
Amygdala (Almond- shaped)
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Prefrontal cortex (PFC)

• In charge of several functions
• Sound decision-making
• Empathy
• Considering consequences
• Balancing emotions
• Morality
• Fully developed in early or mid-twenties

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Amygdala

• Responsible for
• Arousal
• Controls Autonomic Responses Associated with Fear
  (Flight-fight)
• Emotional Responses
• Hormonal Secretions

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Insights

• Often respond, I wasnt thinking or I dont
  know
• Cannot always distinguish between a good choice
  and a bad one
• When under stress or experiencing strong
  emotions, unable to use decision-making
  abilities-pausing before action, thinking about
  consequences

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Vulnerabilities
Peers
Promiscuity
WWW
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Protection (Structure Guidance)
Connecting, trusting relationships with parents
and adults
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School Counsellors

• Mrs Lena Lim (PTSC)
• Monday Tuesday
• Mrs Susan Williams (PTSC)
• Wednesday to Friday
• Mdm Suzana Mohamad Nor (TC)
• Mrs Ethel Koh (FTSC)

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Growth
Skills and values to make appropriate choices to
meet basic needs
Mentorship (role models)
Connecting relationships with parents/ trusted
adults
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• Choice Theory teaches us
• Connecting habits help us stay connected with
  people

Listen
Respect
Accept
Trust
Negotiate Differences
Encourage
Support
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• Choice Theory teaches us
• Deadly habits disconnect us from people

Grumble
Criticise
Complain
Bribe
Punish
Blame
Threaten
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What do you really want in your relationship with
your daughter?
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Parenting Workshop

• Parenting Its All a Matter of Perception!
• Date 7 February 2009 (Sat)
• Time 9am to 12nn
• Venue Multi-purpose Room, level 4
• Speaker Jean Suffield, William Glasser Institute
  Senior Faculty (Canada)
• Cost 20 per person

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Workshop based on Choice Theory!

• You cannot make anyone do what he or she does not
  want to do.
• We can only teach a better way and encourage
  others to try it. Dr. Glasser

Learn why humans behave the way they do Learn how
our perceptions shape our reality Learn how to
improve relationships at home Learn how to ask
evaluative questions to promote responsibility
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5 Basic Needs
Choice Theory
Love and Belonging
Identity/ Power
Freedom
Fun
Survival
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• Thank you for your kind attention!

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• Parents whose
• daughters are in
• (a) Sec 1.1, 1.2 1.3
• AV Theatre (3rd Level)
• (b) Sec 1.4, 1.5 1.6
• Multipurpose Room (4th Level)
• (c) Sec 1.7 1.8 remain in the Hall