Christian

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Christian Coaching
Brenda Chand, Professor
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Chapter 4 Getting Started
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• There are guidelines and skills for coaching
• Getting a handle on where the person is at
  present
• Focusing on what he or she wants in the future
• Finding ways to get there

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• Groundwork that must be set before getting into
  coaching
• You need to build a partnership that will
  persist over time
• Clear about the assumptions that you and your
  PBC bring to the relationship
• At some time youll need to reach an agreement
  about how the coaching will take place.

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Building the Partnership
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• Coaching is frequently recommended to people who
  have obvious potential for growth and promotion
  but who need a coachs help to
• Reclaim control of their time
• Sharpen their working styles
• Reexamine values
• Move through transitions
• Improve their management skills
• Come to grips with ongoing change

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• Resist the temptation to offer your observations
  or advice
• Periodically ask for clarification
• Gently ask about inconsistencies
• Try giving a summary of what youre hearing
• Ask if your understanding is accurate
• The goal of listening is to clarify issues and
  get an accurate understanding of the PBCs
  perspective.

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• Dont be afraid to show curiosity
• Move beyond gathering information and
  encouraging the PBC to be more honest and open
• Ask curious questions
• Dont ask about issues that are none of your
  business
• Be supportive

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When People Resist

• acknowledge concerns
• address them
• assure confidentiality
• some expect the coach to criticize or give
  advice
• explain coaching is a team effort

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CLARIFYING ASSUMPTIONS

• Most people appreciate and frequently enjoy the
  coaching process
• You are giving me permission to talk about me
  you seem really interested.

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ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT COACHING

• Coaching
• is a collaborative partnership between the coach
  and person being coached
• involves dialogue rather than advice giving,
  discipline, or therapy
• is built on trust, integrity, self-discipline,
  and accountability
• is results-oriented, focused on reaching goals
• discusses weaknesses and obstacles but
  emphasizes strengths and positive changes
• assumes that people are resourceful and able to
  set goals and reach them
• lets person being coached define and move toward
  their goals with Gods help and the coachs
  guidance.
• helps people reach their peak performance
• assumes that life is integrated We cant assume
  that someones work, family life, personal
  history, spirituality, or lifestyle can be put
  into neat but separate compartments.
• Embraces change as something that is always
  occurring, sometimes confusing, often positive,
  and usually growth producing.

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RULE 1 God is sovereign RULE 2 Everything
changes except rule number 1
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• Change happens so continually that we often miss
  it
• In the time it takes you to read one page
• The earth moved approximately 2,200 miles
• 10 quarts of blood pumped through your body
• 16 babies were born in the United States
• 9 Americans died

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A productive coaching relationship begins with
two people with fires in their bellies one who
wants desperately to move forward and another who
yearns to help that person make the journey. -
James A. Belasco
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Ask the other person to tell his or her story.
Whats going on in your life? or What would
you like to be different in your life? Your top
priority is to listen carefully, respectfully,
and with genuine interest.
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COACHING MODEL
Issues
Awareness
JESUS CHRIST
This model assumes you have already begun
building a partnership, clarified assumptions and
reached an agreement for working together
Vision
Obstacles
Strategy
Action
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Jesus Christ is the axle it all revolves around
Him. We commit all of our coaching (and our
lives) to his lordship and direction. Scripture
reading, prayer and worship.
We seek to be clear on our values, politely
declining to coach anyone who wants our services
for the purpose of developing behaviors or
lifestyles that are clearly inconsistent with
Christian principles.
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Issues

• PBCs concerns or issues
• Listening
• Build your coaching partnership
• Know the concerns driving the person
• What would the person like to have happen?
• Specific goals
• Strategies for making changes happen

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• Helping people get form where they are now to
  where they want to be
• Focuses on where your PBC is now
• Can use some assessment tools to determine where
  they are now
• Asking questions
• Listening closely
• Values
• Passions

Awareness
Issues
Awareness
JESUS CHRIST
Vision
Obstacles
Strategy
Action
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Vision

• Where the person wants to go in life
• Its a mental picture of the ideal future
• Stepping into the future
• Think through some strategies for making this
  happen

Issues
Awareness
JESUS CHRIST
Vision
Obstacles
Strategy
Action
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• Set goals that are realistic, specific and
  measurable
• Such as
• Spend one hour a week working with a coworker
• Spend half-hour reading to your kids
• You can tell after a few days if the person is
  reaching specific goals
• Goal-setting is a small part of developing a
  broader overall plan of action.

Strategy
Issues
Awareness
JESUS CHRIST
Vision
Obstacles
Strategy
Action
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Action

• What is the first step or the next step?
• Decide when and how they will take this step
• Who will they be accountable?

Issues
Awareness
JESUS CHRIST
Vision
Obstacles
Strategy
Action
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• One of your greatest tasks as a coach is to help
  others uncover, face, and get past any attitudes
  and actions that get in the way of progress
• Sometimes we move from obstacles back to issues
• Take a fresh look

Obstacles
Issues
Awareness
JESUS CHRIST
Vision
Obstacles
Strategy
Action
Look less at the mountain and more at the
mountain-mover - Bill Hybels