Keeping It Safe

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Keeping It Safe

• Part I

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Myths About Rape

• Myth 1 Rape Is Sex

• Fact Rape is not sex, it is a crime motivated by
  a need to humiliate and harm

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Myths About Rape

• Myth 1 Rape Is Sex
• Myth 2 Women Asked to be Raped

• Fact The way women look, act, or dress does not
  invite sexual assault.

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Myths About Rape

• Myth 1 Rape Is Sex
• Myth 2 Women Asked to be Raped
• Myth 3 Boys and Men cannot be sexually assaulted

• Fact Almost as many boys as girls will be
  sexually assaulted by age eighteen. One-in-nine
  men will be sexually assaulted as an adult.

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Myths About Rape

• Myth 1 Rape Is Sex
• Myth 2 Women Asked to be Raped
• Myth 3 Boys and Men cannot be sexually assaulted
  
• Myth 4 No one can be sexually assaulted against
  his or her own will

• Fact Most adult victims, even those who are not
  physically harmed, fear injury and death during
  sexual assault. Survivors of sexual assault do
  not consent, but submit to avoid further harm.

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Myths About Rape

• Myth 1 Rape Is Sex
• Myth 2 Women Asked to be Raped
• Myth 3 Boys and Men cannot be sexually assaulted
  
• Myth 4 No one can be sexually assaulted against
  his or her own will
• Myth 5 When a girl says NO, she really means YES

• Fact When a young lady says NO, she means NO.

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Myths About Rape

• Myth 1 Rape Is Sex
• Myth 2 Women Asked to be Raped
• Myth 3 Boys and Men cannot be sexually assaulted
  
• Myth 4 No one can be sexually assaulted against
  his or her own will
• Myth 5 When a girl says NO, she really means YES
• Myth 6 If I paid for a nice evening out, she
  OWES me.

• Fact She owes you nothing but a Thank you.

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Facts and Statistics

• One-in-four women will be a victim or an
  attempted victim of sexual assault during her
  lifetime.
• Every two minutes, a women is raped in the U.S.
• Seventy-eight percent of those raped know their
  attacker
• Rape is the fastest growing crime in the U.S.

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Statistics for College/Date Rape

• One-in-five women will be raped while at college
• Eighty-five percent of women who were raped knew
  their attackers
• Fifty-seven percent of rapes occur on a date
• Seventy-five percent of male students and
  fifty-five percent of female students involved in
  date rape had been under the influence of alcohol
  and/or drugs

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Power Statement

• Your desires may be beyond your control
• but your actions are within your control.

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What YOU can do

• Believe them
• Reassure them it is not your fault.
• Dont question or judge
• Encourage them to talk about it at his or her own
  pace Do not push
• Encourage him or her to seek medical attention
• Encourage him or her to seek help from the DOW,
  DOM or the CPO for support and guidance.

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Keeping It Safe

• Part II

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Purity

• Questions
• 1. How Can I maintain Purity?
• 2. How Can I start Over again?

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I Thessalonians 42-7

• For you know what commandments it is Gods will
  that you should be sanctified that you should
  abstain from sexual immorality that each of you
  should learn to control his own body in a way
  that is holy and honorable, not in passionate
  lust like the heathen, who do not know God and
  that in this matter no one should take advantage
  of and defraud his brother/sister. The Lord is
  the avenger of all men for such sins, as we have
  already told you warned you. For God did not
  call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.
  Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does
  not reject man but God, who gives you the Holy
  Spirit.

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Purity

• We are to honor the Lord with our bodies
• I Cor. 619-20
• I Tim. 522
• Phil. 120

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Purity

• What if you have already gone too far?
• I John 19
• Psalm 10312

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Purity

• Set down standards for dating
• Share those standards with your accountability
  partner
• Make a list of what is proper and what is
  improper
• Remember that love does not use or abuse
• Never go beyond your set standards

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Purity

• Make sure that God is number One
• Matt. 633
• Seek God first and He will take care of your
  relationships with the opposite sex.

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Purity

• Spend time in the Word and Prayer
• Proverbs 71-5
• Being in the Word and Prayer will give you the
  strength to resist temptation

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Purity

• Memorize scripture
• Psalm 1199-11
• The Word will keep you from sin

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Purity

• Plan your dates
• Make sure not to have unplanned time.
• What happens when you run out of things to do?
• End the Date
• Go for Coffee at the Drowsy Poet

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Purity

• Dont set the date up to fail
• Dont put yourself in a compromising situation
• Learn to be alone in a crowd

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Purity

• Do not date someone who does not have the same
  standards as you
• I Corinthians 1533
• Proverbs 1320

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Purity

• Do not give up Christian friends
• A healthy relationship encourages friendships
• A healthy relationship encourages spiritual
  growth
• A healthy relationship encourages Christian
  service

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Purity

• LOVE ALWAYS ACTS IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE OTHER