Positive Personal Performance

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Positive Personal Performance
IRM Risk Forum 2008raising the game

• Kate Beaven-Marks
• 17th September 2008

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Introduction

• Why am I here?
• What I am going to tell you?
• Whats in it for you?

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Why am I here?

• Good question!

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What is in it for you?

• Why should you listen?

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Aims

• This session will
• Enhance how you talk to yourself and others
• Improve how you set and achieve goals
• Enable you to become aware of your personal mind
  power

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Just remember

• WHERE THOUGHTS GO
• ENERGY FLOWS!
• Anon.

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Introduction to Positive Talking

• Performance uses of positive talking
• Positive emotions and visualisation
• Talking to yourself self-coaching
• Talking to others bucket filling

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Performance uses of positive talking (1)

• PROFESSIONAL
• Business
• Conflict resolution
• Customer relations
• Negotiation Sales
• People management
• Team Work
• Education
• Learning
• Teaching

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Performance uses of positive talking (2)

• PERSONAL
• Sport
• Enhance focus
• Improving performance
• Wellbeing
• Confidence
• Goal achievement
• Overcoming barriers
• Smoking cessation
• Weight management

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Positive Emotions (1)

• Happy goal attainment
• Extraverts and
• introverts
• Happiness and
• the immune system
• Positive emotions
• and pain

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Positive Emotions (2)

• Exercise many benefits
• Rest, relaxation,
• good food and leisure
• positive effects on
• happiness.
• Meditation and relaxation
• techniques short
• long term benefits

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Talking to yourself (1)

• Every day you talk to yourself and
• about yourself affirming your beliefs,
• explaining your behaviour, predicting
• your future
• You persuade, cajole, order and suggest
• stuff to yourself and do that constantly and
• consistently.
• Jonathan Chase 2007

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Talking to yourself (2)

• You are very good at being you
• you CAN be very good at being
• the you YOU really want to be
• Imagine working with the worlds
• greatest hypnotist all the time
• with no need for swinging watches
• or staring eyes Well you can
• because that hypnotist is YOU!
• Jonathan Chase 2007

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Self- coaching

• You are the most important person
• in your life.
• Simon Purcell 2008
• Be your own coach!

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Self-Coaching (1)

• Think
• Imagine
• Listen to what you are saying..
• Repair instantly

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Self-Coaching (2)

• Create
• Say it out loud
• Use good words

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Self-Coaching (3)

• Use emotive words
• Get emotional
• Habitual ritual
• Rapid repetition

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Self-Coaching (4)

• One thing at a time initially
• The 30 day rule
• Give yourself believable suggestions
• Make it seductive

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Self-Coaching

• ACTIVITY
• Self-coaching to
• focus on the positive

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Setting it in place

• GROUP EXERCISE
• Working with
• your subconscious mind

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Talking to others

• Filling
• buckets.

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Bucket filling (1)

• Imagine each of us having an
• invisible bucket, constantly
• emptied or filled, depending
• on what people say to us.
• When our bucket is full,
• we feel great
• When its empty we feel awful

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Bucket Filling (2)

• Each of us also has an invisible
• dipper
• We can fill buckets and
• fill our own
• We can dip from buckets and
• diminish our own

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Bucket filling (3)

• Full buckets
• Empty buckets

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Bucket filling (4)

• Regular recognition and
• praise influences productivity, engagement and
  customer satisfaction
• It also results in better
• safety records and fewer accidents!

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Bucket Filling (5)

• Praise is rare in most
• workplaces
• When were you last
• praised?
• When did you last
• praise someone?
• Nine out of ten people say they are more
  productive when they are around positive people

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Bucket Filling (6)

• When you are doing something you really enjoy.
• you are immersing your bucket in a lake
• it will become full even if your bucket has a
  hole
• Paul S. Dawkins 2008

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Bucket filling (7)

• Every moment
• matters
• 20,000 individual
• moments each day
• Magic ratio is 51

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Positive Self-Talk

• ACTIVITY
• Bucket filling

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A brief moment

• GROUP EXERCISE
• Time for a
• massage?...

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Goal Setting

• The subconscious mind
• and goal setting
• Modalities and sub-modalities
• Drawing it together

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Your subconscious mind Success

• Successful people
• programme themselves
• Successful people
• motivate themselves
• Your subconscious will continue
• to do exactly what it is told
• to do, until you tell it differently
• Your subconscious is extremely literal in its
• interpretation

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Goals visualisation formula

• Imagery x Vividness
• Response
• Make goals bright,
• clear and visible

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Visualisation

• GROUP EXERCISE
• Visualisation

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Focus

• Once you focus on something
• your perception changes almost instantly

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Goal Setting (1)

• Long term goals 3 to 5 years
• Mid range goals next 1 3 months
• Daily goals (make them realistic!)
• State goals in the present I am achieving.
• Word the goals specifically I want to earn an
  extra 5k in the next six months

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Goal setting (2)

• Write down the specific activities you need to
• perform to achieve each goal
• When you stay focused on the goal
• for one month, you can turn the behaviour
• into a new unconscious habit

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Goal setting (3)

• ACTIVITY
• Setting your goals

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Goal motivation

• Rewards and consequences
• Decide on a daily reward
• Hold yourself accountable

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Senses and goals

• Your senses give and receive informationyou can
• use them to internalise goals into the
  subconscious
• Visual
• Auditory
• Kinaesthetic
• Olfactory
• Gustatory

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VAKOG (1)

• Visual Seeing things external to you
• and recalling visually
• Example 1 you can see me now
• Example 2 picture your front door

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VAKOG (2)

• Auditory Hearing external sounds and
• remembering sounds
• Example 1 You are listening to the sound
• of my voice
• Example 2 Remember the sound of your
• mobile phone ring tone

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VAKOG (3)

• Kinaesthetic Tactile sensations of touch,
  
• temperature and moisture.
• Also remembered sensations,
  
• emotions, body awareness
• Example 1 Touch the chair
• Example 2 Remember what
• it feels like to be in the sun

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VAKOG (4)

• Olfactory The sensation of smell
• Example Smell the paper
• Gustatory The sensation of taste
• Example Taste the air

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The power of your senses

• Experience.

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Sub-Modalities

• Adding detail is very important
• the subconscious mind treats something vividly
• imagined the same way that it treats something
• that actually experienced

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Adding detail (1)

• VISUAL What aspects of the picture are
• important?
• Colour or black and white
• Near or far
• Dim or bright
• Panoramic or framed
• Location, Size
• Focused or defocused
• Still or movie
• (fast, normal, slow)
• Flat or 3D

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Adding detail (2)

• AUDITORY What aspects of the sounds are
  important?
• Soft or loud
• Slow or fast
• High pitch or low
• Cadence / rhythm
• Location
• Direction

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Adding detail (3)

• KINAESTHETIC What feelings/ tastes/ smells are
• important?
• Heavy or light
• Rough or smooth
• High or low pressure
• Hot or cold
• Vibration or still
• Dry or wet
• Fast or slow
• Moving or still
• Intensity
• Shape, size, location

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Your imagination is a powerful tool!
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Activity

• Now to add some detail to
• those goals.

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Mind power

• Gain an understanding of the immense power
• of your mind
• Steeple hands
• Heavy and light hands
• What else can we do?

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Bringing it all together

• Now to set that
• long-term goal
• in place

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Well Done!

• This session has demonstrated
• how to talk positively
• to yourself and others
• how to effectively set
• achievable goals
• an insight into your
• personal mind power
• THANK YOU FOR PARTICIPATING

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Resources

• Tom Rath Donald Clifton How full is your
  bucket?
• Gallup Press 2004
• Alan Carr Positive Psychology The Science of
  Happiness and
• Human Strengths Routledge 2004
• Anthony T. Galie Take Control of Your
  Subconscious Mind
• Routledge 2000
• Jonathan Chase www.thehypnotists.co.uk
• Paul Dawkins www.mentalfloss.co.uk
• Simon Purcell www.simonpurcell.co.uk