Speed Traps, Pot Holes and Idiots prepared for

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Speed Traps, Pot Holes and Idiotsprepared
for
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Types of changes or challenges experiencing
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Count how many Fs are in the following sentence?

• FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-
• SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-
• IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE
• EXPERIENCE OF YEARS.

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Mindset

• Dont bother me with the facts, I already have
  my mind made up!
• A mindset is like a lease on a car, it can limit
  us
• Jay Gubrud

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Updated Beliefs
Nicotine James Jang, a student at Stanford
Medical School, assumed that since smokers suffer
from narrowed veins and poor circulation that
nicotine was the culprit. However Jangs study
revealed nicotine actually stimulates the
division of cells. And when tested on lab mice
with artery disease and lung cancer, they
discovered it promotes the growth of new blood
vessels in mice. This discovery suggests that
nicotine could be used to heal wounds or treat
disorders in which blood flow is impeded such as
diabetes. He has already found it helps wounds
heal faster in animals. Plus it is being tested
to treat neurological disorders like Parkinsons
disease and Tourettes syndrome. Popular Science
October 2001
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Updated Beliefs
Nicotine Tobacco smoking apparently provides
some protection against the onset of Parkinsons
disease. Karolinska Institute of Sweden
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Updated Beliefs

• Chocolate
• Is rich in antioxidants which may help protect
  against heart
• disease and cancer
• Has little effect on blood cholesterol. It is
  a plant product and
• thus cholesterol free
• Only has tiny amounts of caffeine
• Is not addictive (unless you eat 50lbs at one
  sitting)
• Contributes little to tooth decay. Cocoa
  contains substances that
• may inhibit the bacterial growth that
  promotes plaque formation
• and thus cavities.

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Current Mindset and BeliefsAre they serving you
well?Do some need to be updated?

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Four Reactions to Change
Nose to the g__________ G________ D_____
in h__________ New ________
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4 Major Fears

• U____________
• F____________
• R____________
• S____________

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Top 15 Roadblocks to Action

• Basing your progress or action on something or
  someone outside your control
• i.e. I will do _____ when _____ happens
• Lack of action or action is unaltered
• Your commitment level
• Others dont want you to change!
• We are all just actors in other peoples
  play.
• Lack of clarity about where you are going

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• New patterns can disrupt the foundations upon
  which we have built our lives
• We sabotage ourselves. We know action is needed
  and wait until it is too late
• Other peoples opinion (rejection)
• Never done it before (fear of unknown or failure)
• It has been tried before
• We will be expected to maintain a new level of
  operating
• We get paralyzed and procrastinate

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• Laziness
• Blaming other people or the system for making
  you change
• Have not found a good enough reason yet!

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R__________ Ex__________

• Is it within my control?
• Do these things happen to others?
• What lesson can I take away?
• What do I need to do to recalibrate?
• Who is really good at what I want to do?
• What resources can I draw upon to change?

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Pro_____ vs Per_______
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People get in and out of relationships based on
unmet needs.Jay Gubrud
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Look for what is right and unique in others

• Think about the person you least like. Now
  define one thing about that person you respect
  _____________________________
• Next time you see that person think about that
  aspect of them and tell them that you respect it.
• If there is a history of tension, tell others how
  you respect that person.

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I am thinking the same thing about you!
Bumper Sticker on beat up VW
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Getting the Best Out of People

• Meet them where they are at
• Empathize explore their story
• Express feeling dont accuse
• Admire what is good and unique in others
• Urge others to be true to themselves, then
• they will be true to you.

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G___ what you want more of!

• power, control, money, respect, empathy,
  commitment, joy, love, peace, confidence, time,
  energy, enthusiasm, acceptance, security, peace
  of mind, flexibility

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What do you want more of?_______________________
_______________________________

• Most people focus on what they dont want in
  their life which doesnt provide a solution, just
  a cycle of victimization.

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Feedback

• Giving
• Know the potential long term effect of
• your words.
• Make sure you are respectful and dignified.

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Feedback

• Receiving
• Seek out
• Consider the source
• Get a second opinion

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Healthy Conflict

• Dont a__________ the other person
• A__________ the other perspective
• Be h__________ about what you promise
• Keep the b__________ open

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Resources

• Someone who has mastered a trait
• Tapes and videos
• Books
• Lieberman, David Ph.D., Make Peace with Anyone.
  St Martins, 2002
• Loehr, Jim, The Power of Full Engagement. Free
  Press, 2003
• Grabhorn, Lynn, Excuse me, your life is waiting.
  Hampton, 2000
• White, Bowen, Why Normal Isnt Healthy.
  Hazelden, 2000
• Meyers, David, The Pursuit of Happiness. Avon,
  1992.
• Hakim, Cliff, We are all self employed. Berret
  Koehler, 1994
• Bradshaw, John, Homecoming. Bantam, 1990.
• Johnson, Spencer M.D., Who moved my cheese.
  Putnams, 1998

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