WHEN PARENT INTERACTIONS ARE STRESSFUL: CAUSES AND RESOLUTIONS

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WHEN PARENT INTERACTIONS ARE STRESSFUL CAUSES
AND RESOLUTIONS

• John L.Morse Ed.D
• Peter T. Whelley MS, NCSP

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Transactional Influences When Relating

• Not Static but Dynamic
• The Event Influences Each of the Participants
  and Each of the Participants can not help to
  influence the Outcome of the Event

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COMMON COMMUNICATION ERRORS

• We Forget We Cannot Not Communicate
• The Message Sent Is Often Not The Message
  Received.
• We Forget That There Is A Difference Between Fact
  and Opinion

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COMMON COMMUNICATION ERRORS

• We Forget that People Get Messages Not Only From
  What We Say but How We say It.
• No Two People Perceive Things Exactly The Same
  Way

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What we Say is Just the Tip of the Iceberg of
Our Communication
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Why We Do the Things We Do

• DYSSEMIA The inability to read non-verbal
  Communication

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Why We Do the Things We Do

• Primary FACIAL, POSTURAL, GESTURAL
• Secondary PERCENT TONE OF VOICE
• Tertiary PERCENT WORDS
• Cultural Check!

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Cultural Check

• Proxemics
• Use of Physical Speech to Communicate
• Personal Space Portable Territoriality
• Kinesics
• Use of Body Language to Communicate
• Reading Body Language
• Cultural SIMILARITES and Differences

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Cultural Check

• Space
• Public
• Social
• Personal
• Intimate
• Cultural SIMILARITES and Differences

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Cultural Check

• Voacalizations
• Pitch, Pauses,Volume and Tempo
• My son didnt break the window
• Cultural SIMILARITES and Differences

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Toward Effective Communication

• Awareness Does not Equal Resignation nor
  Resolution
• Active NOT Passive Stress Benefits the immune
  system
• Accept Support from Others
• COMMUNICATE Openly, and With Care

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Toward Effective Communication

• Things To Avoid
• Blaming
• Talking When Upset
• Have your mind made up before the discussion
• Needing to Win Something
• Cultural SIMILARITES and Differences