Self-Talk How do you speak to yourself?

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Self-TalkHow do you speak to yourself?
Youre never going to get this right. Oh no! I
hope no-one notices what a bad job Im doing!
Ill have a go it doesnt matter if I get it
wrong. This is quite good actually!
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1. The brain doesnt process negatives

• DONT think of a pink elephant!

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The same happens with anxieties

• What we say..

• 'I dont want to get fat'
• 'I hope I dont mess this up'
• 'I must not fail this test'

• What the brain hears

• Fat!
• Mess this up!
• Fail!

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Advertising

• Advertisers know this and implant messages that
  go straight into our unconscious without us
  questioning how they operate.
• Can you think of any example of this?

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Programming for success

• Have you ever noticed how, if someone says
  something to you for long enough, eventually you
  begin to believe it?
• 'Youre lazy!' 'Youre the pretty one and shes
• the clever one' 'youll never go anywhere in
• life'.
• others?

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Programming your brain

• You can also become the voice that programmes
  your beliefs.
• Try using some of these techniques..
• turn negatives into positives
• Using confident phrasing
• Avoiding negative generalisations

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1. Turn a negative fear into a positive hope.

• What we say

• 'Im going to get slim and
• healthy'
• 'I want to do a good job'
• 'Im going to pass this test'

• What the brain hears

• Slim and healthy ?
• Good job ?
• Pass the test ?

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2. Use assertive doing words

• I hope to Ill try I wish I could I might
• Im going to I will I want to I can

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3. Question big general statements

• 'Im totally stupid'
• 'Ill never get this'
• 'Im bad at spelling'
• 'I feel bad'

• What, at everything?
• Never, ever?
• What can you spell?
• All the time?