The 7 Habits of

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The 7 Habits of
Highly Effective Teens
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Who Am I?

• I am your constant companion? I am your greatest
  helper or heaviest burden. I will push you
  onward or drag you down to failure. I am
  completely at your command. Half the things you
  do you might just as well turn over to me and I
  will be able to do them quickly and correctly. I
  am easily managed-you must merely be firm with
  me. Show me exactly how you want something done
  and after a few lessons I will do it
  automatically. I am the servant of all great
  individuals and also, of all failures, as well.
  Those who are great, I have made great. Those who
  are failures, I have made failures. I am not a
  machine, though I work with all the precision of
  a machine plus the intelligence of a human. You
  can run me for a profit or run me for ruin-it
  makes no difference to me. Take me, train me, be
  firm with me, and I will place the world at your
  feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you. Who
  am I?

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The teenage years are a very stressful time.
Problems arise daily. We cannot totally cure
the problems of life we can only manage them.
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Habit 1ReactBlame all of your problems on
someone else. Be the victim. Take no
responsibility for your life. If someone yells,
yell back.
Seven Habits of Highly Unsuccessful Teens
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Habit 2Begin With no End in MindDont have a
plan Avoid goals at all costs. Never think about
tomorrow. Only live for the moment. Dont think
about the consequences of your actions.
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Put First Things LastWhatever is most
important in your life dont do it until you have
spent sufficient time talking on the phone,
lounging around, watching TV and surfing the net.
Always put off homework until the day its due.
Make sure the things that dont matter always
come before the things that do.  
Habit 3
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 Habit 4Think Win-LoseSee life as a vicious
competition. Your classmate is out to get you so
you should get them first. Dont let anyone else
succeed at anything because if they do that means
you lose. If it looks like youre going to lose,
make sure you drag that sucker down with you.
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Habit 5Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to
ListenYou were born with a mouth, so use it.
Make sure you talk a lot. Always express your
side of the story first. Once you are sure
everyone understands your views, then pretend to
listen by nodding your head and saying uh-huh.
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Habit 6Dont CooperateLets face it. Other
people are weird because they are different from
you. So why try to get along with them?
Teamwork is for the dogs, Since you always have
the best ideas, you are better off doing
everything by yourself.
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 Wear Yourself OutBe so busy with life that you
never take time to renew or improve yourself.
Never study. Dont learn anything new. Avoid
exercise like the plague, and for heaven sakes
stay away from good books, nature or anything
else that may inspire you.
Habit 7
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Our habits will either make us or break us. We
become what we repeatedly do. As writer Samuel
Smiles put it Sow a thought, and you reap an
actSow an act and you reap a habitSow a habit
and you reap a characterSow a character and you
reap a destiny.
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7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

• Habit 1-Be Proactive- Take responsibility for
  your life.
• Habit 2 -Begin with the End in Mind- Define your
  mission and goals in life.
• Habit 3-Put First Things First- Prioritize and
  do the most important things first.
• Habit 4-Think Win-Win- Have an everyone-can-win
  attitude.
• Habit 5-Seek First to Understand, Then to Be
  Understood- Listen to people sincerely. 
• Habit 6-Synergize- Work together to achieve
  more. 
• Habit 7-Sharpen the Saw- Renew yourself
  regularly.

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THE PRIVATE VICTORY-

• HABITS 1,2,3 deal with SELF-MASTERY

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Habit 1Be Proactive It pays to be proactive.
Proactive people-Are not easily offended.-Take
responsibility for their choices.-Think before
they act.-Bounce back when something bad
happens.-Always find a way to make it
happen.-Focus on things they can do something
about and dont worry about things they cant.
We can control only one thing-how we
respond to what happens to us.
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Habit 2Begin with the end in mind- Control your
own destiny or someone else will.  The
paths you choose now can affect you
forever. If you dont decide your
own future, someone else will do it
for you.A personal mission statement.A
personal mission statement is like a personal
motto that states what your life is about. It is
like the blueprint to your life. Go for the
Goal.Once you have your mission in place, you
should set goals. Goals are more specific than a
mission statement, and can help you break down
your mission statement into bite size pieces.
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Habit 3

• Put First Things First-
• Manage your time wisely.
• Overcome the fear and pressure that keeps you
  from dealing with your top priorities.
• Never let your fears make your decisions.
• Edmund Hillary, the first person to climb Mt.
  Everest, said, Its not the mountain we conquer,
  but ourselves.

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The Time Quadrants

• The Procrastinator Exam tomorrow
• Late for work
• Project due today

• The Prioritizer
• Planning, goal setting
• Essay due in a week
• Exercise
• Relaxation

• The Yes-Man
• Unimportant calls
• Interruptions
• Peer pressure

• The Slacker
• Too much TV
• Or video games
• Endless phone calls
• Time wasters

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• THE PUBLIC VICTORY- HABITS 4,5, 6
• The concepts dealing with habits 4, 5, and 6
  revolve around relationships and making them
  work. Remember, the key to mastering
  relationships is to first master yourself. What
  is the most important ingredient in a
  relationship?
• Writer Ralph Waldo Emerson said, Who you are
  speaks so loudly I cant hear what you are
  saying. If you are struggling in your
  relationships with friends, parents, teachers,
  take a strong look at yourself.
• The private victory helped you to take
  responsibility for yourself and helped you to
  understand that you create your own destiny. The
  public victory helps you realize that you are a
  team player and that cooperation is essential for
  success. Your ability to get along with others
  will largely determine how successful you are in
  your career and your level of personal happiness.

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Habit 4Think Win-Win- Assertive people- This is
like an endless buffet. The more giving you are,
the more that comes back to you.Win-Win is an
attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind that
says I can win, and so can you. Its not me or
you it is both of us. It is the foundation for
getting along well with other people. It begins
with the belief that we are all equal, and that
no one is inferior or superior to anyone else,
and no one really needs to be.
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Life Attitudes

• Win-Lose These people achieve what they want at
  the expense of others. C.S. Lewis wrote Pride
  gets no pleasure out of having something, only
  out of having more of it than the next man.
• Lose-Win-People with a lose-win mindset are
  easily intimidated and readily give in or go
  along with others they fail to assert their own
  thoughts and feelings.
• Lose-Lose- People with this model, approach
  differences with fear. They avoid conflicts,
  which therefore cannot be resolved, and everybody
  loses. If Im going down, you are going down
  with me. Examples War, possessive relationships.
• Win-Win- These people believe that everyone can
  win there is more than enough to go around for
  everyone, when each persons needs and interests
  are understood and respected. Its possible to
  find a solution that benefits and considers
  everyone.

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• Habit 5
• Seek First to Understand, Then To Be Understood-
  Try to understand someone elses point of view
  before sharing your own and a whole new world
  will be open up to you. Take the time to listen
  without judging or giving advice.

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Please Listen

• When I ask you to listen to me and you start
  giving me advice, you have not done what I have
  asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you
  begin to tell me why I shouldnt feel that way,
  you are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you
  to listen to me and you feel you have to do
  something to solve my problem, you have failed
  me, strange as that may seem. Listen! All I ask
  is that you listen. Dont talk or do-just hear me.

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These are five poor listening styles

• Spacing out- acting out of it-ignoring
• Pretend listening- saying yeah, uh-huh, cool but
  not really being genuine
• Selective listening -paying attention to only
  part of the conversation
• Word listening- listening to only words and not
  the meaning or the body language associated with
  it.
• Self-centered listening -listening to see things
  from our own point of view- I know just how you
  feel. Oh, thats nothing, listen to this one.
  Judging, probing, and advising are three methods
  of self-centered listening.

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Habit 6SynergizeWhen two or more people work
together to create a better solution than either
one could alone. Examples A good band a
bird eating bugs off the back of a cow We must
recognize that people view the world from their
own point of view. We have different styles,
traits, and characteristics. Synergy
Action Plan Define the problem or
opportunity-Their Way-Seek first to understand
the ideas of othersMy Way-Seek to be understood
by sharing your ideasBrainstorm-Create new
options and ideasHigh Way-Find the best solution
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Habit 7Sharpen the Saw-Its ME timeThis is the
time when you renew the four key dimensions of
your life-your body, brain, heart, and
soul. The four dimensionsPhysical, mental,
emotional, and spiritual We must stay in a
healthy balance
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The seven habits can help you

• Get control of your life.
• Improve your relationships with your friends.
• Make smarter decisions.
• Get along with your parents.
• Define your values and what matters most to you.
• Get more done in less time.
• Increase your self-confidence.
• Find balance between school, work, friends, and
  everything else.