EMPATHY

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EMPATHY

• October 2, 2006
• Charles Nesson

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serve chocolates

• be living
• not dying

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Battle of Algiers
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facts in context

• Context is crucial to how we see facts. The
  meaning we give to facts often varies with our
  point of view.
• There may be multiple ways to see facts,
  depending on what (or whose) viewpoint we take.

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  A BIG guy chasing a little guy?
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Look again. Context is crucial. 
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• our reasons and our pains are more palpable, more
  obvious and real, than are the reasons and pains
  of others

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• this leads to escalation of mutual harm

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• to the illusion that others are solely
  responsible for it

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• to the belief that our actions are justifiable
  responses to theirs

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EMPATHIZE

• it means to sense the hurt or the pleasure of
  another as s/he senses it
• and to perceive the causes thereof as s/he
  perceives them

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- carl rogers

• but without ever losing the recognition that it
  is as if you were hurt or pleased

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empathy

• To perceive the internal frame of reference of
  another with accuracy and with the emotional
  components and meanings which pertain thereto as
  if one were the person,

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• but never losing the
• "as if"
• condition.

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empathy in dispute resolution

• wooing the undecided
• homework food for thought discuss the as if
  condition

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to court

• chose your clients best story
• start where your clients story starts.

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empathy in issue identification

• exams
• interviewing client

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empathy in dispute resolution

• wooing the other

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to other

• serve chocolates
• start with the others story
• draw the others attention in
• empathize so that the other understands that you
  understand

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break

• serve chocolates

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form groups