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Get Her For Me

• Judges 141-3
• Samson Had Little Idea About What Was Necessary
  for a Marriage.

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Judges 141-3

• 1 Now Samson went down to Timnah, and saw a woman
  in Timnah of the daughters of the Philistines. 2
  So he went up and told his father and mother,
  saying, "I have seen a woman in Timnah of the
  daughters of the Philistines now therefore, get
  her for me as a wife." 3 Then his father and
  mother said to him, "Is there no woman among the
  daughters of your brethren, or among all my
  people, that you must go and get a wife from the
  uncircumcised Philistines?" And Samson said to
  his father, "Get her for me, for she pleases me
  well."

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Is Marriage in Trouble?

• Recent survey in Hamilton County reported in the
  Chattanooga Times November 25, 2003
• Residents were asked to rank their most
  important priorities.
• This is part of a State of the Family report.

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Is Marriage in Trouble?
Here are the top 10 Priorities

1. Family
2. Faith
3. Children
4. Career / Work
5. Health

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Is Marriage in Trouble?
Here are the top 10 Priorities

• 6. Money / Finance
• 7. Hobbies / Leisure
• 8. Getting ahead in life
• 9. Marriage / Spouse
• 10. School

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Is Marriage in Trouble?
Here are some other stats

• 54 believe that if the traditional family unit
  falls apart, the stability of American society
  will collapse.
• 70 believe the typical marriage is weaker today
  than the typical marriage 30 years ago.

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Is Marriage in Trouble?
Here are some other stats

• 69 agree that children who are raised in a home
  with both their natural parents will grow up to
  be more stable emotionally than children raised
  by one parent.
• Is marriage in trouble?

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Get her for me.
Background of Judges 14

• Samson saw a woman of the Philistines.
• It was a violation of the law to marry her.
• He wanted her, anyway.
• He told his parents, Get her for me.
• This marriage would be based ONLY on physical
  appearance.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Commitment - Intent

• Marriage must begin with a commitment from both
  parties.
• Without this willful intent to live together for
  life there can be no marriage.
• Marriage begins with this intent and ends when
  this commitment fades.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Commitment - Intent

• Genesis 221-22
• 21And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on
  Adam, and he slept and He took one of his ribs,
  and closed up the flesh in its place. 22Then the
  rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made
  into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Commitment - Intent

• Genesis 223
• 23And Adam said This is now bone of my bones
  And flesh of my flesh She shall be called Woman,
  Because she was taken out of Man.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Commitment - Intent

• Genesis 224-25
• 24Therefore a man shall leave his father and
  mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall
  become one flesh.
• 25And they were both naked, the man and his wife,
  and were not ashamed

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Ingredients for Marriage
Commitment - Intent

• Genesis 2918-20
• 18Now Jacob loved Rachel so he said, I will
  serve you seven years for Rachel your younger
  daughter.
• 19And Laban said, It is better that I give her
  to you than that I should give her to another
  man. Stay with me. 20So Jacob served seven years
  for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to
  him because of the love he had for her.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Ceremony Public Announcement

• There is no official ceremony in the Bible.
• Every part of the typical ceremony are taught in
  the pages of Scripture.
• Public announcements
• Marriage license
• Wedding rings
• Newspaper articles

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Ingredients for Marriage
Ceremony Public Announcement

• John 21-2
• 1On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of
  Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there.
• 2Now both Jesus and His disciples were invited to
  the wedding.
• This is the public announcement of marriage.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Law of the State

• Laws vary from state to state
• Blood tests
• Pre-marriage counseling
• Application fees
• Waiting periods
• Age limits
• Restrictions Cant marry a close relative

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Ingredients for Marriage
Law of the State

• Romans 131-2
• 1Let every soul be subject to the governing
  authorities. For there is no authority except
  from God, and the authorities that exist are
  appointed by God. 2Therefore whoever resists the
  authority resists the ordinance of God, and those
  who resist will bring judgment on themselves.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Law of the State

• Romans 133-4
• 3For rulers are not a terror to good works, but
  to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the
  authority? Do what is good, and you will have
  praise from the same. 4For he is Gods minister
  to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid
  for he does not bear the sword in vain for he is
  Gods minister, an avenger to execute wrath on
  him who practices evil.

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Ingredients for Marriage
Conclusion

• Samson just saw the physical attraction
• Judge Judys book title Beauty Fades Dumb is
  Forever
• What happens to a marriage when the physical
  attraction is gone?
• What happens to a marriage when the Biblical
  ingredients are missing?

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Ingredients for Marriage
Conclusion

• NOW FOR ONE FINAL QUESTION
• WHAT ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE TO GOD?
• How strong is your commitment, public
  announcement and obedience to the law of God?