Relating to Other People

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Relating to Other People

• Unit 2

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The Communication Process

• An exchange between two or more people.
• Got to listen and speak for it to be successful,
  aka the sender and receiver.
• Learned as children by watching others,
  especially parents and family.
• We grow and improve on our skills throughout life.

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Nonverbal Communication Skills

• All of these can be interepreted differently by
  different cultures and backgrounds.
• Body language
• Express through thoughts, feelings and emotions.
• Facial Expressions
• Eye contact, looks, eyebrow movement.
• Gestures
• Using your hands to speak
• Body Motions- The way you sit, stand, cross your
  legs, etc.

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Verbal Communication Skills

• The way you use words to express what you want to
  say and the way to listen.
• I-statements
• Descriptive, thought, feeling, intention,
  actions.
• Avoid you-statements
• Like you are dumb not good
• Like I see or I think- good
• Important to be self aware when expressing. (fig.
  5-8).

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Receiving Messages

• Listen and interpret.
• Passive listening
• Hearing words but not listening well.
• Not even trying to understand the message.
• Active listening skills (5-10)
• Three ways to show you are
• Give feedback
• Checking out- questions back to person
• Reflecting- repeat what you heard

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Factors Affecting Communication

• Your self-esteem- good- positive messages,
  bad-negative messages. (p.118).
• Emotional State- happy or sad at the time.
• Environment- time of day, where you are at.
• Communication barriers- closed mind, mixed
  messages, prejudice, poor listening skills,
  language barriers.

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Skills for Conflict Resolution

• Identify the problem
• Identify who owns the problem
• Accept ownership of the problem
• Solve the problem
• Fig 5-15 page 121.

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Activity

• Mediation case scenerio

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Active Groups

• Everyone must work as a team.
• Group goals- can accomplish more in less amount
  of time than one person.
• Involvement- Each person has something to do set
  rules, ideas, needs, etc.
• Cohesiveness- feel of belonging
• Setting- environment where goals can be met.
• Group Structure- Expectations of each member, a
  leader is always needed.

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Effective Leadership

• Strongly influences the group, but listens to
  others ideas and expectations.
• Must be confident, committed, and motivated.
• Identify groups goal
• Develop a plan
• Carry out the plan
• Help the group evaluate- discussion techniques
  (page 139).

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Being an Effective Member of Society

• Clearly communicate
• Cooperate
• Participate
• Control emotions
• Support the group

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How to Plan, Organize, and Evaluate a Group

• Plan
• Common interest or goal
• Organize
• Elect leader, identify rules are procedures,
  prepare meetings
• Evaluate
• Listen to everyones input
• Ask questions
• What worked and what didnt

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Freindships

• Who are your friends?
• Similar interests, goals, etc.
• Casual acquaintances- people you know but not
  much interaction.
• Frequent acquaintances- People you talk to in
  class, ask how they are, more conversation.
• Mutual friends- call them friends, hang out, some
  trust.
• Close friends- trust, talk to regularly, there
  for each other.

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What is a Friend? Activity

• What qualities do you look for?
• Similarities are needed
• Common interests are needed.
• Trust
• What you need in a friend?
• Fig. 7-3 page 152

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Developing a Close Freindship

• Be friendly
• Develop rapport- comfortable
• Share yourself
• They share themselves with you
• Build Trust
• Respond with empathy- confide, honest, there for
  them.
• Open to growth- learn from one another

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Peer Relationships

• People in the same stage of life as you
• Changes a little as you get older
• Peer pressure
• Strong influence on each other
• Want to be a part of something
• Can be negative- dont agree with
• Need to believe in who you are and not give in.

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Relationships in the Family

• Know each other by living together
• Ups and downs
• How well do you know your family?
• How much time you spend together?
• Common interests?
• What kind of communication?
• Acceptance and support?
• Love and concern?

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Relating to your parents/siblings

• Understand their point of view
• Conflicts as you are teens
• Negotiating?
• With siblings- close at times and distant at
  other times.

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Relationships with Significant Adults

• Parents, relatives, teachers, coaches, bosses.
• People who take time to know you and care.
• Sometimes there is conflict and damage, share
  this with them so they understand and hopefully
  relationship is fixable.

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Work Relationships

• Being a good communicator is key at work.
• Customer relations- friendly service
• Relating to co-workers- people like working with
  you. Team player?
• Relating with your boss- friendly, show interest,
  contribute ideas, negotiate issues, know that you
  are not going to agree on everything.

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Relationships with People from Different Cultures

• We are a nation of different cultures
• Most of our families immigrated here.
• Accept the differences
• Languages
• Traditions
• Racial background
• Values
• believes

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Styles of Dating

• Formal
• One invites another one out for a planned
  evening.
• More casual these days than 50 years ago
• Ask your grandparents
• Boys do not always pay for all the dates.
• Informal
• Two or more people agree to meet and spend time
  together.

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Functions of Dating

• Understanding others
• Understanding yourself
• Providing companionship
• Communication
• Learn to negotiate
• Learn to be responsible
• Evaluate personality traits

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Stages of the Dating Process

• Group dating- mix genders spend time together.
• Pair dating- just one boy and one girl
• Random dating- dating around not just with one
  person.
• Steady dating- dating for a while, build a
  long-term relationship

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Beginning and Ending a Dating Relationship

• Beginning
• Appearance
• Be Friendly, confident and courteous
• Start a conversation
• Plan time together (do different things)
• Ending
• Not what you are looking for
• Realize person could be hurt
• Evaluate and change your dating pattern
• Recognize feelings are normal
• Emphasize other aspects of your life

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Love

• How would you define love?
• Romantic Love- exhilarating feeling, can turn
  into mature love.
• Mature love- a caring and giving, care about the
  well-being of the other person.
• Chart 8-12 page 181

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Making a Decision to Wait

• As teens feel confused and pressured to give into
  sexual desires.
• Consider consequences and your standards, is it
  the right person to get this involved with.
• If your partner is forcing you then does he or
  she are about your well being?
• Reasons to wait psychological, pregnancy, STDs.

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Date Rape

• Sexual intercourse with a dating partner that is
  against your will.
• Alcohol and drugs are usually involved.
• Occurs at parties usually.
• Do no put yourself in a situation you are
  uncomfortable with or you are alone in.

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Activity

• Research an STD share with class the facts about
  this STD
• In Groups
• Explain, how you get it, how common it is,
  symptoms, is sit long term? In girls and guys.
  Is there meds to clean it up? Etc. Include a
  picture.
• Present to class
• Speak movie