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The Marriage Workshop
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3. SEX
Why we dont talk about it

1. Conflict
2. Doesnt feel natural
3. Grew up in a home that it was taboo to talk about
   it.
4. Assume its dirty or shameful.

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Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this
world, but be transformed by the renewing of your
mind. Romans 122
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SEX- God is for it!
So God created human beings in his image. In the
image of God he created them. He created them
male and female. God blessed them and said, "Have
many children and grow in number. Fill the
earth Genesis 127-28
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SEX- ITS A MIND THING!
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BE ON GUARD!

• Internet- Face book My Space
• Texting

Above all elseGuard your heart! Proverbs 423
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CREATING ATMOSPHERE!
A BIBLICAL LOOK SONG OF SOLOMON

• PRIVACY 25

• COMPLIMENTING 115-16

• AFFECTIONATE TOUCHING 26

• FRAGRANCES 112

• UNHURRIED TIME 51

• ATTRACTIVE ATTIRE 4 9, 11

• SPECIAL PLACES 712

• INTIMATE TALK 416

• TOTAL COMMITMENT 86-7

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Womens Needs

1. Affirmation public and private!

• Shows she is still great in his eyes!

• Women compare themselves to other women!
  (hair-size-home-parenting-dress)

• 65 of women list affirmation as 1 need

Men HOW DO I AFFIRM?

• Great cook! Great Mom! Great lover!

• Talk in love making!

• Tell her how beautiful she is! BRAG!!

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Mens Needs

1. Mutual Satisfaction

• 67 of men list as 1 need

• Happy wifehappy life!

• Men want to be good at everything we do!
  (job-fixing things-computer-yard-even sex!)

• 90 of a mens self image-sexuality

Women WHAT DO I DO?

• Affirm him outside of the bedroom

• Encourage his strong decisions! BRAG!

• Tell him what you likein the bedroom!

• Where else will he learn?

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Help! Im Exhausted
Recent Redbook Magazine Survey 24 million women
said, we are too exhausted and tired for sex.
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Exhaustion Its the one thing we can control!
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• Simple Suggestions
• Reprioritize.
• Work less.
• Say no to some things tempting you to say yes.
• Decide where you must succeed.

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• Simple Suggestions
• Learn the boundaries between home and work.
• Schedule sex until it becomes a pattern.
• Get some rest! (Sabbath)
• Get out of town! Hotel!
• 5. Turn off the t.v.!

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• THINGS TO WORK ON
• Ask yourselfwhy you do what you do.
• Learn to hold back.
• Kids get your best- job gets your best-church
  gets your best
• What about spouse?

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CPS- Sex

• Where are you now?
• Where would you like to be?
• How do I get there?

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resources
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resources
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COUNSELING HELP www.MarriageMatters Now.com Steve
and Debbie Wilson 318-469-2438 marriagematters_at_aol
.com
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THANKS FOR BEING HERE!
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