Positive Guidance

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Positive Guidance and Discipline
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Reasons for Misbehavior

• Stage of Growth the child is behaving in a
  normal manner for the stage of growth he/she is
  in power, attention, revenge

• Unfulfilled Needs The childs needs are not
  being met and she/he is acting out in order to
  try to get his/her needs met.

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Reasons for Misbehavior

• Environment The child is uncomfortable in or
  does not understand his/her environment.

• Doesnt know Better The child has not been
  taught the concept he/she is dealing with.

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Positive Guidance

• Consistency is the key to guidance

• Self-discipline ability to direct ones own
  behavior

• Attention is a powerful reinforcer to guide
  children

• Children may rebel when parents punish rather
  than discipline

• Example is a very effective way to teach
  children desired behavior

• Respond to aggressive behavior in non-aggressive
  ways

• Discipline guidance which helps the child learn
  self-control

Guidance also depends on Parenting Styles
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Types of Guidance Techniques
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1. Natural and Logical Consequences
Cause and effect

• Logical Consequences
• Should be relevant to the misbehavior
• To make the punishment fit the crime.
• Example if Sally spills the paint, she must
  clean up the mess that is made

• Natural Consequences
• Occur without interference, child can see the
  result of their choices
• Short in duration, provide opportunities for
  children to learn from their behavior
• Cannot be used if the consequence will cause
  harm to self, others or property, or too far in
  the future!

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2. Positive Statements

• Clearly states what is expected, then help them
  get started

• Talk to children at their eye level when giving
  directions

• When guiding children, phrase all requests in a
  positive manner

• Example say, Lets walk to the blocks, rather
  than, Dont run to the blocks

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Being Positive Activity
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3. Redirection

• Getting a child to focus on something else.
• Children up to two years old can be easily
  distracted
• Example If a child is angry at the blocks area,
  lead them to a different area of the room and
  introduce a different activity

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4. Reverse Attention

• Ignoring the negative, reinforcing the positive
• When a childs behavior is inappropriate, focus
  on a child who is displaying the appropriate
  behavior and make a positive comment
• If the first child changes his behavior, he
  should be immediately reinforced with a positive
  statement.
• Example Green journal sheets, preschoolers
  during group time

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5. Limited Choices

• Giving a child several options to choose from
• Do not give him an unlimited choice unless he can
  really have what is chosen.
• Only give choices that are available.
• Example Do you want juice or water for a
  drink? rather than, What would you like to
  drink?

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• Use a place where there are no distractions or
  positive reinforcers

6. Time Out

• When a child has disobeyed a rule, she will be
  sent to a predetermined place to distance herself
  from the problem and gain composure.

• Should be a last option, limited use.

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Journal

• What issues do parents face in todays society?

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• Internet/computer time
• Sexual Predators
• Economy
• Children and independency
• Money/Finance issues cost of living
• Mall Laws
• Curfews
• Parents working two jobs
• Single-Parents making it all work
• Drug/Alcohol use either parent or child
• Role Models Jamie Lynn Spears
• Cell Phones
• Teen Pregnancy
• Academics with children staying up with it
• Unemployment Rates increasing losing jobs
• Kids clothing/makeup/tattoos/piercings
  rebelling in gen.
• Kids and driving
• Obesity
• Suicide

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Parenting Styles
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1. Authoritarian
2. Permissive
3. Democratic/Authoritative
4. Rejecting/Neglecting

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Authoritarian

• Low Love, High Limits
• Parents word is law, parents have absolute
  control.
• Misconduct is punished
• Affection and praise are rarely give
• Parents try to control children's behavior and
  attitudes
• They value unquestioned obedience
• Children are told what to do, how to do it, and
  where to do it, and when to do it.

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Outcomes of Authoritarian Style

• Children from authoritarian homes are so strictly
  controlled, either by punishment or guilt, that
  they are often prevented from making a conscious
  choice about particular behaviors because they
  are overly concerned about what their parents
  will do.

• Obedient
• Distrustful
• Discontent
• Withdrawn
• Unhappy
• Hostile
• Not High Achievers
• Often Rebel

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Permissive

• High Love, Low Limits
• Parents allow their children to do their own
  thing.
• Little respect for order and routine.
• Parents make few demands on children.
• Impatience is hidden.
• Discipline is lax
• Parents are resources rather than standard makers
• Rarely punish
• Non controlling, non-demanding
• Usually warm
• Children walk all over the parents

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Outcome of Permissive Parenting

• Aggressive
• Least selfreliant
• Least self-controlled
• Least exploratory
• Most unhappy

• Children from permissive homes receive so little
  guidance that they often become uncertain and
  anxious about whether they are doing the right
  thing.

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Democratic/Authoritative

• High Love, High Limits
• Middle ground between the two above
• Stress freedom along with rights of others and
  responsibilities of all
• Parents set limits and enforce rules
• Willing to listen receptively to childs requests
  and questions.
• Both loves and limits
• Children contribute to discussion of issues and
  make some of their own decisions
• Exert firm control when necessary, but explain
  reasoning behind it.
• Respect childrens interest, opinions, unique
  personalities.
• Loving, consistent, demanding
• Combine control with encouragement
• Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.

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Outcomes of Democratic Style

• Happy
• Mostly self-reliant
• Mostly self-controlled
• Content, friendly, generous
• Cooperative
• High-achiever
• Less likely to be seriously disruptive or
  delinquent

• Children whose parents expect them to perform
  well, to fulfill commitments, and to participate
  actively in family duties, as well as family fun,
  learn how to formulate goals. They also
  experience the satisfaction that comes from
  meeting responsibilities and achieving success.

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Rejecting/Neglecting

• Low Love, Low Limits

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• Rejecting/neglecting parents are low in both
  responsiveness and demandingness.
• It is generally thought of as uncaring and
  inadequate to meet the needs of children.
  Sometimes, it is referred to as the "indifferent
  parenting style" due to its lack of emotional
  involvement and supervision of children.

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Case Study Application

• In groups of three or four, develop a case study
  or story that fits each of the four parenting
  style. These stories should be 5-10 sentences.
• Include background of family, story, and
  outcomes of children.

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Example

• The Brown family has two parents and three
  children. Mr. Brown works long days, and when he
  comes home, he takes his stress out on his family
  by yelling at his children. He often tells his
  children that they are lucky they have a roof
  over their heads. One time, his oldest son tried
  talking back, and ended up getting double duty in
  the kitchen that night. Later, when that son
  went to college, he rebelled and was such a slob!
  When his parents would visit, he would freak out
  and shove everything into the closet to make it
  look like he lived in a clean environment.
• WHAT PARENTING STYLE DID THIS FAMILY USE?

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• Authoritarian

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• When you are done, you will be passing your
  stories to other groups and have them indicate
  what parenting style is applied for each of your
  four stories.

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Include

• Brief introduction about the family
• Parents and how they act/react
• Outcomes of the children