Man Up:

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Man Up Applying the Definition of Authentic
Manhood to Real Life
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Definition of Manhood

• Reject passivity

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Where is Adam?

• 1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast
  of the field which the LORD God had made. And he
  said to the woman, Indeed, has God said, You
  shall not eat from any tree of the garden?
  2 The woman said to the serpent, From the fruit
  of the trees of the garden we may eat 3 but from
  the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of
  the garden, God has said, You shall not eat from
  it or touch it, or you will die. 4 The serpent
  said to the woman, You surely will not die!
  5 For God knows that in the day you eat from it
  your eyes will be opened, and you will be like
  God, knowing good and evil. 6 When the woman saw
  that the tree was good for food, and that it was
  a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was
  desirable to make one wise, she took from its
  fruit and ate and she gave also to her husband
  with her, and he ate. 7 Then the eyes of both of
  them were opened, and they knew that they were
  naked and they sewed fig leaves together and
  made themselves loin coverings.

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Definition of Manhood

• Reject passivity
• she took from its fruit and ate and she gave
  also to her husband with her, and he ate. Then
  the eyes of both of them were opened, and they
  knew that they were naked.
• Accept responsibility
• Though Jesus was in the form of God, He did not
  count equality with God a thing to be grasped to
  cling to, or use to His own advantage, but
  instead He emptied himself, taking the form of a
  servant, and being born in the likeness of men.
  And being found in human form, he humbled himself
  by becoming obedient to the point of death, even
  death on a cross. (Phil. 26-9)

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Definition of Manhood

• Reject passivity
• Accept responsibility
• Lead courageously
• The devil took Jesus to a very high mountain and
  showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and
  their glory. And he said to Him, All these I
  will give you, if you will fall down and worship
  me. Then Jesus said to him, Be gone, Satan! For
  it is written, You shall worship the Lord your
  God and Him only shall you serve. Then the
  devil left Him, and behold, angels came and were
  ministering to Him. (Matt. 48-11)

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Definition of Manhood

• Reject passivity
• Accept responsibility
• Lead courageously
• Invest eternally look for the greater reward
• Jesus said, Do not lay up for yourselves
  treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy
  and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up
  for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither
  moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not
  break in and steal. For where your treasure is,
  there your heart will be also. (Matt. 619-21)
• for the joy that was set before him, Jesus
  endured the cross, despising the shame, and is
  seated at the right hand of the throne of God.
  (Heb. 122)

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Mission Possible, Part 1

• Teams of 5-6 Brainstorm what passivity looks
  like
• For sphere specified on Chart 1 (10 min.)
• Move to Chart 2 expand on first teams list (10
  min.)
• We will focus the brainstorming in five areas of
  life, including
• Faith,
• Family,
• Work,
• Church,
• Community

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Mission Possible, Part 2

• Brainstorm what accept responsibility looks
  like
• Pick 1 passivity item list it on fresh chart
  (left column)
• Write what desired outcome looks like (middle
  column)
• Write 1 steps you can take toward desired
  outcome
• If time permits, repeat for 2nd and 3rd
  passivity items

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Template
Scenario describe the scenario / context here
Current State
Desired Outcomes
Step(s) I can take

1. Aaa
2. Bbb
3. ccc

• Aaa
• Bbb
• ccc

• Aaa
• Bbb
• ccc

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Example - Work
Scenario My boss is angry because a
deliverable he requested from me is late
Current State
Desired Outcomes
Step(s) I can take

1. Clearly communicate my highest priority work
2. Explain what has been done on requested
   deliverable without blaming others
3. Directly ask whether I prioritized the work
   correctly

• Own my decision for how I prioritized the work
• Demonstrate a willingness to be teachable if I
  made the wrong choice

• Deliverable created by subordinate was low
  quality
• Not enough time to rework it
• Desire to blame person to whom work was delegated
• Other work is higher priority

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Example - Family
Scenario I am doing little to purposefully
teach my son about growing into manhood
Current State
Desired Outcomes
Step(s) I can take

1. Pray
2. Seek out a clear vision to impart
3. Plan a memorable event to teach it
4. Plan ways to involve other men in showing him
   encouragement

• Get engaged as his teacher
• Son learns clear vision for godly manhood
• Son is motivated to pursue godly manhood
• Son feels supported by me and other important men
  in his life

• Unsure what to teach or how to teach it
• Lack confidence in my own manhood
• Tempted by thought that later is OK
• Tempted by thought that others will do it for me

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Your Example
Scenario describe the scenario / context here
Current State
Desired Outcomes
Step(s) I can take

1. Aaa
2. Bbb
3. ccc

• Aaa
• Bbb
• ccc

• Aaa
• Bbb
• ccc

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Applying the Definition of Manhood to Real Life

• Reject passivity
• Accept responsibility
• Lead courageously
• Invest eternally look for the greater reward