Human Behavior

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Relationships/Communication Notes

• Human Behavior

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Relationships

• Connections with other people
• We need relationships.
• Positive/healthy relationships serve a
  significant function in our lives
• Meet emotional needs
• Enrich life
• Help us get things done

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Types of relationships

• Friends
• Co-workers
• Parent-Child
• Teacher-Student
• Siblings
• Significant others
• Etc.

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Acquaintance

• People you know but arent particularly close to.
  
• Example A friend in class that you dont usually
  hang out with outside of school

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Codependent

• A dependency on people - on their moods,
  behavior, sickness, well-being, and their love.

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What makes a healthy relationship?

• Mutuality both people contribute
• Trust belief that others will not reject, betray
  or hurt you
• Self-disclosure Willingness to tell someone
  personal things about yourself
• Rapport a feeling of ease and harmony with
  another person
• Empathy When you have the ability to put
  yourself in another persons position
• Shared Interests shared interests form a strong
  base for building a relationship
• UnhealthyExploitation Using another person
  unfairly for personal benefit

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The Relationship Wheel

• Compares the building of relationships to a wheel
• Four spokes signify the four steps of
  relationship building
• Rapport, Self-Revelation, Mutual Dependency, Need
  Fulfillment

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Rapport

• Feeling of ease with you are with someone
• Leads to more interaction between two people
• Then you begin to relax your guard

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Self-Revelation

• As people feel more at ease, they are more likely
  to talk about feelings, experiences, and
  attitudes

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Mutual Dependency

• Learn each others habits and develop habits to
  respond to your partner
• Depend and rely on each other

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Needs Fulfillment

• Getting respect, confidence and love/affection
  from the relationship
• If you both fulfill each others needs, the
  relationship grows

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Going backwards

• The wheel can also move in the opposite
  direction, causing the destruction of the
  relationship
• Sometimes the rapport you feel with someone leads
  to self-revelation that causes arguments or bad
  feelings. This is likely to cause less
  self-revelation. In turn, you rapport will
  decrease and fewer of your needs will be met.

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Communication
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Styles of Communication

• Aggressive person (write 2)
• Passionately expresses opinions and feelings
• Values self above others
• Hurts others to avoid hurting self
• Speaks loudly and abusively
• Doesnt listen to others
• Stands up for rights at the expense of others

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Styles of Communication

• Assertive person
• Expresses opinions and feelings directly,
  honestly and appropriately
• Speak for self
• Values self equal to others
• Doesnt hurt self or others
• Listens to others
• Stands up for rights without violating someone
  else

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Styles of Communication

• Passive person
• Does not express opinions and feelings directly
  or honestly
• Says what they think others want to hear
• Values others before self
• Belittles self
• Gives up rights in favor of someone elses

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Non-verbal Communication

• Communication without words
• Examples
• Expressions
• Gestures
• Posture
• Body language

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Listening skills

• Good listeners build strong relationships
• Passive listening Listener puts aside personal
  judgments, just listens with little feedback.
• Active listening. Listener makes comments, give
  opinion and feedback.