Bullying!

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Bullying!
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What is Bullying?

• Bullying is a conscious, willful, deliberate,
  hostile, and repeated behavior by one or more
  people, which is intended to harm others.
• Bullying takes many forms and can include many
  behaviors, such as
• Physical violence and attacks
• Verbal taunts name-calling and put-downs
• Threats and intimidation
• Extortion or stealing of money or possessions
• Exclusion from the peer group

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More about Bullying

• It is the assertion of power through aggression.
• Its forms change with age Playground bullying,
  sexual harassment, gang attacks, date violence,
  assault, ,marital violence, child abuse,
  workplace harassment, elder abuse.
• Its not about anger or a conflict to be
  resolved.
• It is about contempt, a powerful feeling of
  dislike toward someone considered to be useless,
  inferior or undeserving of respect.

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Myth and Facts

• Myth Bullying is just a stage, a normal part of
  life. I went through it and my kids will too.
• FACT Bullying is not normal or socially
  acceptable behavior. We give bullies power by
  our acceptance of this behavior.

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More Myths and Facts

• Myth If I tell someone, it will just make it
  worse.
• Fact Research shows that bullying will stop when
  adults in authority and peers get involved.

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More.

• Myth just stand up for yourself and hit them
  back.
• FACT While there are some times when people can
  be forced to defend themselves, hitting back
  usually makes the bullying worse and increases
  the risk for serious physical harm. Children who
  bully are excited by the victim who fights back.

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and more

• Myth Bullying is a school problem, the teachers
  should handle it.
• FACT Bullying is a broader social problem that
  often happens outside of schools, on the street,
  at shopping centers, the local pool, summer camp
  and in the adult workplace.

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And

• Myth People are born bullies
• FACT Bullying is a learned behavior and
  behaviors can be changed.

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Just a few more

• Myth Only boys bully.
• FACT Both males and females may engage in
  bullying behavior, however, the genders tend to
  use different methods. Males engage in physical
  and verbal aggression, while females employ
  social alienation and overt and subtle
  intimidation.

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• Myth As a rule, children who bully do poorly in
  school and have low self-esteem.
• FACT Most often, those who bully are average
  students and often have very high self-esteem
  their superior power is a source of great
  personal pride.

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Finally.

• Myth Once a bully, always a bully.
• FACT Bullying behavior is learned therefore, it
  can be unlearned. The earlier attempts are made
  to change it, the more easily and effectively
  those changes are made. In addition, the bully
  must be motivated to change this pattern of
  behavior.

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Here are some statistics

• Bullies have little empathy for their victims and
  show little remorse about bullying
• Bullying occurs on school playgrounds every 7
  minutes and once every 25 minutes in class.
• Boys and girls are equally likely to report being
  victimized.

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About Bullies

• Boys who bully are physically stronger and have a
  need to dominate others
• Girls who bully tend to be physically weaker than
  other girls in their class
• Bullies tend to be assertive and easily provoked.
  They are attracted to situations with aggressive
  content and have positive attitudes about
  aggression.
• 85 of bullying episodes occur in the context of
  a peer group.

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About Victims

• Victims often keep their problems a secret they
  feel they should handle bullying themselves
  worry abut revenge or disapproval from others and
  think adults can do little to help them
• Bully/victims are the most insecure, the least
  likeable, and the most unsuccessful in school

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Bullying Awareness WeekNovember 19-23, 2007
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