Inspirational Leadership Builds Successful Relationships Using the Strength Deployment Inventory SDI

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Inspirational Leadership Builds Successful
RelationshipsUsing the Strength Deployment
Inventory (SDI)

• Ann Skidmore

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Who has inspired you?

• Look back over your life
• Who has left an impression upon you which
  influenced you in some way?
• What did they do to leave that impression/influenc
  e?
• What did you learn from them?
• How have you applied that learning?

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The Leadership Challenge

• Only Inspirational Leadership will do!

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The Leadership Challenge

• What makes for inspirational top leaders?

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What makes for inspirational top leaders?
The Leadership Challenge

• Their Personal Make-Up
• A Novel Outlook
• Turn-on Capability

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The Leadership Challenge
What makes for inspirational top leaders?
Their Personal Make-up
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The Leadership Challenge
What makes for inspirational top leaders?
Their Personal Make-up
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What makes for inspirational top leaders?
The Leadership Challenge
A Novel Outlook

• Look Laterally
• Bend Rules
• Love Pressure
• Rate Attitude

• Take Risks
• Highly Accessible
• Strongly Visionary
• Customer Obsessed

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The Leadership Challenge
What makes for inspirational top leaders?
Turn-on Capability

• They listen
• They involve
• They trust
• They appreciate
• They have fun
• They care

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The Leadership Challenge
How are we currently doing on Inspirational
Turn-on?

• I believe leaders in my organisation are
  genuinely in touch with how people are
  feeling

62 DISAGREE

• There is a good buzz and feeling of energy in my
  organisation

• We work hard but Senior Management also makes
  sure that we have fun

50 DISAGREE
54 DISAGREE
(Source Chartered Management Institute)
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The Leadership Challenge
How are we currently doing on Inspirational
Turn-on?
One-third of followers admit that they have never
worked for an Inspirational Leader!
(Source Chartered Management Institute)
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The Leadership Challenge
How are we currently doing on Inspirational
Turn-on?

Desired
Seen
Shared Vision 79
38 Confidence/Trust 77
37 Respect 73
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(Source Chartered Management Institute)
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The Leadership Challenge

• How do we close the Inspiration Gap?

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The Leadership Challenge

• Respect the degree of respect received has a
  strong impact on employees if management showed
  everyone the same respect, people would feel
  better and when you feel better you work better
• Recognition makes a big impact
• Relationships personally I wouldnt put a
  bucket on him if he was on fire, but I would go
  that bit further for some of the others
• Source People Management Magazine 14th October
  2004

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Motivation, Intention and Behaviour
Your self-perception is based on
Their perception of you is based on
what you are trying to do!
what they are seeing you do!
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PREMISE 1 andPREMISE 2

• We all do what we do because we want to feel
• good about ourselves.
• We tend to take 2 different approaches to life 1)
  when we feel that things are going well and we
  feel good about ourselves and 2) when things are
  going less well and we feel that we are faced
  with opposition or conflict

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BLUE ALTRUISTICNURTURINGM O T I V
A T I O N A L V A
L U E S Y S T E M
Concern for the Protection, Growth and Welfare of
Others
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Being open and responsive to the needs
  of others
• Seeking ways to bring help to others
• Trying to make life easier for others
• Trying to avoid being a burden to others
• Ensuring others reach their potential
• Ensuring others are valued
• Defending the rights of others

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RED ASSERTIVEDIRECTINGM O T I V
A T I O N A L V A
L U E S Y S T E M
Concern for Task Accomplishment, Concern for
Organization of People, Time, Money and Any Other
Resources to Achieve Desired Results
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Competing for authority, responsibility and
  positions of leadership
• Exercising persuasion
• Being alert to opportunity
• Claiming the right to earned rewards
• Accepting challenges
• Accepting risk-taking as necessary and desirable
• Demonstrating competitiveness

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GREEN ANALYTICAUTONOMIZING M O T I
V A T I O N A L V
A L U E S Y S T E
M
Concern for Assurance That Things Have Been
Properly Thought Out Concern for Meaningful
Order Being Established and Maintained
Individualism, Self-Reliance Self-Dependence
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Being objective
• Being right
• Being principled
• Being in control of emotions
• Being practical
• Being cautious and thorough
• Being fair
• Being resolute
• Being serious
• Being their own judge and jury
• Being their own person
• Thinking things through before acting

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HUB FLEXIBLECOHERINGM O T I V A
T I O N A L V A L
U E S Y S T E M
Concern for Flexibility Concern for the Welfare
of the Group Concern for the Members of the Group
and for Belonging in the Group
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Being curious about what others think and feel,
  open minded and willing to adapt
• Experiments with different ways of acting
• Proud to be a member
• Likes to know a lot of people
• Likes to be known by a lot of people
• Likes to be known as flexible

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BLUE
RED
HUB
GREEN
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RED-BLUE ASSERTIVENURTURINGM O T I
V A T I O N A L V
A L U E S Y S T E
M
Concern for the Protection, Growth and Welfare
of Others Through Task Accomplishment and
Leadership
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Actively seeking opportunities to help others
• Persuading others to ensure maximum growth and
  development of others
• Being open to proposals for creating welfare and
  security for others
• Creating enthusiasm and support in tackling
  obstacles to success

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RED-GREEN JUDICIOUSCOMPETINGM O T I
V A T I O N A L V
A L U E S Y S T E
M
Concern for Intelligent Assertiveness, Justice,
Leadership, Order, and Fairness in Competition
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Providing rational leadership that can assess
  risks and opportunities
• Being decisive and proactive when all the facts
  are in
• Challenging opposition through thoughtful process
  and strategy

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BLUE-GREEN CAUTIOUSSUPPORTINGM O T I
V A T I O N A L V
A L U E S Y S T E
M
Concern for Affirming and Developing
Self-Sufficiency in Self and Others, Concern for
Thoughtful Helpfulness with Regard for Justice
VALUED RELATING STYLE

• Building effective processes and resources to
  protect or enhance welfare of others
• Offering assistance for greater self-sufficiency
  and independence
• Supporting activities that lead to growth
• Fighting for principles that are fair

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RED-BLUE
BLUE-GREEN
RED-GREEN
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A Sample Group
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Preventable Conflict

• Some conflict is preventable.
• It may come from
• A clash of relating styles
• Misunderstandings
• Faulty assumptions
• Stress
• Etc.

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does not necessarily equal
CONFLICT conflictn. 1. A sharp disagreement
or collision in interests, ideas and/or
principles... resulting in emotional
disturbance... When a persons sense of
self-worth is perceived to be threatened or at
risk.
OPPOSITION oppositionn. 1. Resistance,
contradiction, contrast, differences... Some
of the most creative ideas come from the
synergy of opposition.
Opposition vs. Conflict
Definitions from Websters New World Dictionary,
Second College Edition
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Variables that can affect conflict

• 1) Power differentials
• 2) Relationship history
• 3) Age
• 4) Gender
• 5) Culture
• 6) Centrality to Motivational Value System

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Living Triangle points to ponder

• Conflict comes in all colours
• Conflict does not have to behave angrily to be
  real
• Genuine acknowledgement of conflict, regardless
  of its color, is a critical factor in its
  identification and management

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What is conflict?
Conflict is a reaction to a perceived threat to
self-worth.
People are willing to go into conflict about
things that are important to them. (conflict
triggers)
When we see conflict in other people, we can
discover what is important to them.
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The stages of conflict
Relationship Awareness Theory states that we
approach conflict with a predictable sequence of
motivational changes which are expressed through
the use of different behaviours
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Conflict is predictably sequential
COLUMN 4
COLUMN 5
COLUMN 6
IN CONFLICT OR OPPOSITION
CONFLICT SEQUENCE
Scores 6 points or less apart are shown in
parentheses.
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The three stages of conflict
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Inspirational leadership

• Its not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves
  Edmond Hilary
• I dream for a living Steven Spielberg
• A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle
  unknown
• The more I learn the more I realise I dont know
  Albert Einstein
• Ones philosophy is not best expressed in words
  its expressed in the choices we make. In the
  long run, we shape our lives and we shape
  ourselves. The process never ends until we die.
  And the choices we make are ultimately our
  responsibility Eleanor Roosevelt
• We must become the change we want to see in the
  world Mahatma Gandhi
• To every man there comes a time in his life time,
  that special moment when he is figuratively
  tapped on the shoulder and offered to do a very
  special thing, unique to him and fitted to his
  talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds him
  unprepared or unqualified for the work that could
  be his finest hour Winston Churchill
• Airports are shopping centres with parking for
  planes Allan Blacher