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Title: Habit 4


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Habit 4
  • Think Win-Win

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Win-Lose The Totem Pole
  • Win-Lose is an attitude toward life that says the
    pie of success is only so big and if you get a
    big piece there is less for me
  • Win-Lose is competitive known as the totem pole
    syndrome
  • I dont care how good I am as long as Im a
    notch higher than you on the totem pole

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Win-Lose The Totem Pole
  • Win-Lose is full of pride
  • Pride gets no pleasure out of having something,
    only out of having more of it than the next man
    - C.S. Lewis
  • We have all been raised to be competitive from an
    early age
  • Most of us start playing t-ball or soccer at the
    age of 4!!

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Win-Lose The Totem Pole
  • A Win-Lose attitude wears many faces
  • Using other people for your own purposes
  • Trying to get ahead at the expense of another
  • Spreading rumors about someone else (putting
    people down to make yourself feel better)
  • Always getting your way without thinking about
    others
  • Becoming jealous when someone close to you does
    something good or has something good happen to
    them

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Win-Lose The Totem Pole
  • In the end Win-Lose will usually backfire, you
    may end up at the top of the totem pole, but you
    will be there alone without any friends
  • Your winning has been at the expense of others
  • The trouble with the rat race is that even if
    you win, youre still a rat. -Lily Tomlin

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Lose-Win The Doormat
  • Lose-Win is the doormat syndrome
  • You always want to be the nice guy
  • You want everyone to be happy
  • You want to be the peacemaker, it doesnt matter
    what happens to you as long as everyone else is
    happy

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Lose-Win The Doormat
  • With a Lose-Win attitude youll find yourself
    setting low expectations and compromising your
    standards
  • Giving in to peer-pressure is lose-win, the group
    wants to ditch school, but you dont. So you
    give in. What happens? You lose and they win

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Lose-Win The Doormat
  • If you adopt lose-win as your attitude in life,
    then people will wipe their dirty feet on you
  • Its okay to let people win sometimes, but you
    want to make sure to choose your battles wisely
  • Make sure that you take a stand on the important
    things

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Lose-Lose The Downward Spiral
  • Lose-Lose says, If Im going down, then your
    going down with me.
  • Misery loves company
  • War is a good example of Lose-Lose, both sides
    lose regardless of who wins
  • Revenge is lose-lose, you think that you are
    winning, but you are really only hurting yourself

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Lose-Lose The Downward Spiral
  • Lose-Lose can occur when someone becomes obsessed
    with someone else in a negative way
  • You dont care what happens to you, you just want
    the other person to be miserable as well
  • Boyfriend/Girlfriend People become too dependant
    on the other person and eventually this brings
    out the worst in both of them

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Win-Win The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet
  • Win-Win is a belief that everyone can win
  • Its nice and tough at the same time I wont
    step on you, but at the same time, I wont be
    your doormat.
  • You want others to succeed, but you realize that
    you need to succeed as well
  • Win-Win is the belief that theres plenty of
    success to go around

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Win-Win The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet
  • Its not either you or me, its both of us
  • There is enough food to go around, its an
    all-you-can-eat buffet
  • Win-Win always creates more
  • You recently got a promotion at your job, you
    make sure to give recognition to those that
    helped you get there

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Win-Win The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet
  • You are elected to an important office at school,
    instead of getting a big-head, you treat everyone
    the same
  • Your best friend just got accepted at the college
    that you wanted to go to, although you are upset
    that you didnt get in, you are happy for your
    friend
  • You want to go out to eat, your friend wants to
    watch a movie, you compromise and rent a movie
    and pick up something to eat

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How do you think Win-Win?
  • Win the Private Victory first
  • You have to work within yourself to gain
    self-confidence
  • Personal security is the foundation for thinking
    Win-Win

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Avoid the Tumor Twins
  • There are two habits that, like tumors, can
    slowly eat you away from the inside
  • They are twins are their names are competing and
    comparing

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The Tumor Twins
  • Competing- competition can be extremely helpful
  • It drives us to improve, to reach and stretch
  • Without it, we would never know how far we could
    push ourselves
  • Competition is healthy when you compete against
    yourself, it is not when you are using it to try
    to be better than someone else

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The Tumor Twins
  • Comparing- comparing yourself to others is bad
    news
  • Everyone develops and succeeds at different
    times- socially, mentally, and physically
  • Everyone is different, so why should you expect
    yourself to match up to everyone else?

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The Tumor Twins
  • Building your life based on how you stack up
    compared to others is never good
  • Most of the time in life, you can always find
    someone in life who is better at something than
    you are
  • You dont have to look, act, dress, or even be
    like anyone else
  • You are your own individual and that is they way
    you should act

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Think Win-Win
  • Try to spend most of your time thinking Win-Win
  • Start small and make an honest effort to try to
    change the way that you think
  • It wont happen over night, but if you try,
    eventually you will succeed

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