Marriage Seminar

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Marriage Seminar Session 2

• How to promote unity in a marriage?" -
  Understanding the wife's responsibilities

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Review from Last Seminar

• From Genesis 224-25
• 24 For this reason a man will leave his father
  and mother and be united to his wife, and they
  will become one flesh.
•  25 The man and his wife were both naked, and
  they felt no shame.
• We are called by God in marriage
• To Leave
• To be United
• To become one flesh
• To be transparent, intimate

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Group discussion

• Women What are your expectations of being a
  wife?
• Men What are your expectations from a wife?
• Most couples have high expectations for their
  marriage?

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Group discussion Why What Happened

• WHY? Dont understand Marriage clearly
• Focus is on ourselves, know many may not succeed.
• Feel their marriage will different, because they
  really love each other.
• Begin with marriage w/ great expectation, but
  often replaced with fustration.
• WHAT? Both Man Woman didnt live their lives
  personally or their marriage according to Gods
  Word.
• God gave specific info direction about
  marriages purpose roles responsibilities for
  both wife husband.
• When 2 people know ,accept, and fulfill their
  different but complimentary responsibilities,
  oneness or unity in marriage is promoted.
• If Not accepted or fulfilled Frustration looms
  problems.

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What does Gods Word say about Wifes Primary
Responsibilities in marriage

• New Testament, wife is frequently commanded to
  submit, obey their husband.
• Ephesians 522-24
•  22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the
  Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife
  as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of
  which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church
  submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to
  their husbands in everything.

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What does Gods Word say about Wifes Primary
Responsibilities in marriage

• I Peter 31-6
• 1 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your
  husbands so that, if any of them do not believe
  the word, they may be won over without words by
  the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the
  purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty
  should not come from outward adornment, such as
  braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and
  fine clothes. 4 Instead, it should be that of
  your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle
  and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in
  Gods sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women
  of the past who put their hope in God used to
  make themselves beautiful. They were submissive
  to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed
  Abraham and called him her master. You are her
  daughters if you do what is right and do not give
  way to fear.

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Group Discussion

• Wifes Submission not a popular idea today? Why
  Not?
• What is Submission Not?
• What is Submission to be?

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Wifes Submission - NOT

• Not a concept ONLY for Women, but ALL believers
• Not called to be a slave, free to become all God
  intended her to become Proverbs 3110-31
• Not to never have an opinion, give advice, or
  open her mouth.
• Not inferior to Husband.

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Submission from a Positive View

• Scripture indicates Wifes responsibility to make
  herself submissive Not forced by husband
  Commanded by God.
• Ephesians 522 I Peter 31
• To be continuous lifestyle mandatory for wife.
  Not Optional
• A Spiritual matter, Done as to the Lord
• Positive, NOT Negative
• Bill Gothards definition of submission
  freedom to be creative under divine appointed
  authority.
• Use God given abilities of wife, under husbands
  management for benefit of husband family.
• Involves Wifes attitudes as well as her actions
  Serve cheerfully, not grudgingly.
• Extensive, just like Church is to Christ who is
  head over all things. Not selective, but all
  time, all places, in everything

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Wifes primary ministry

• In Life is to her husband How does this apply
  to you?
• God made woman to be mans helper, a suitable one
• Correspond to man. How do you complement him?
• Wife made to fulfill needs, lacks, inadequacies
  of her husband do good not evil to him.

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Wifes primary ministry - Specifics

• Make home a safe place.
• Being Trustworthy dependable.
• Maintaining Good attitude.
• Discuss things lovingly, openly, honestly
  intimate transparent.
• Being satisfied with her position, possessions
  tasks.
• Being longsuffering, forgiving, forbearing.
• Showing interest in husbands problems
  concerns.

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Wifes primary ministry - Specifics

• Being diligent, creative, ambitious member of
  husbands team.
• Offering suggestions, advice, corrections when
  needed in loving manner.
• Maintain a good spiritual life.
• Cooperate with him in raising children.
• Building loyalty to him in children.
• Being grateful to him.
• Showing confidence in his decisions.

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Conclusion - Homework

• Are you practicing submission to your husband?
• Are you really his helper?
• Look at Proverbs 3110-31
• Husbands help your wives.
• If you find yourself failing?
• Confess your sin to God husband PRAY together
• Realize that if Christ died for such a
  disobedient person as myself has forgiven me,
  then through Gods grace, he can help us through
  the Holy Spirit change our disobedient heart.

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Topics to cover

• 3/13 "Knowing You and You" - Christian and
  non-Christian Marriage
• 3/27 "What Happens When the Wife Is Smarter Than
  the Husband?" - understanding wife's
  responsibilities
• 4/10 "I Am the Head, But She Is the Neck" -
  understanding husband's responsibilities
• 5/8 "My Husband Loves Facebook and Text Messages
  Than Talking to Me" - communication 1
• 5/22 "My Wife Can't Stop Talking" - communication
  2
• 6/12 "Money Talk" - unity through financial
  agreement or In-law relationship