Promoting Self-Discipline in Children

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Promoting Self-Discipline in Children

• Kostelniks Chapter 6
• Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen

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What is Self-Discipline?

• .the voluntary, internal regulation of behavior
• (Marion, 1999)

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How Does Self-Discipline Evolve?

• The Earliest Days (no regulation)
• Adherence (external regulation)
• Identification (shared regulation)
• Internalization (self regulation)

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What Influences Self-Discipline?

• Emotional Development
• Empathy, Guilt
• Cognitive Development
• Reasoning, Centration, Irreversible Thinking,
  Behavior Association
• Language Development
• Memory Skills

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How Does Experience Influence Self-Discipline?

• Modeling
• Attribution
• Instruction
• Indirect Instruction
• On-the-Spot Coaching
• Consequences
• Positive Discipline

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What about the Influence of Adult Discipline
Styles?

• Uninvolved Teaching Style
• Permissive Teaching Style
• Authoritarian Teaching Style
• Authoritative Teaching Style
• High on control, communication, nurturance,
  responsibility
• Positive Discipline with Dignity

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What are Basic Concepts of Positive Discipline?

• Children are Social Beings.
• Behavior is Goal Oriented.
• A Childs Primary Goal is to Belong and to be
  Significant.
• A Misbehaving Child is a Discouraged Child.
• Social Interest
• Mistakes are Wonderful Opportunities to Learn
  (Recognize, Reconcile, Resolve)

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Why Do Children Misbehave?

• Attention-Getting
• Student I belong when Im noticed or served.
• Teacher Feels annoyed reacts by reminding,
  coaxing student
• Student Stops temporarily later resumes same
  behavior
• What to Do Ignore Behavior when possible, given
  attention in unexpected ways, notice positive
  behavior

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Why Do Children Misbehave?

• Power Seeking
• Student I belong when Im in control or
  proving no one can make me do anything.
• Teacher Feels angry, provoked, gives in or
  fights power with power
• Student Intensifies power struggle or submits
  defiantly
• What to Do Withdraw from conflict help
  students construct power constructively by
  enlisting their help

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Why Do Children Misbehave?

• Revenge
• Student I belong only when I hurt others and
  get even.
• Teacher Feels hurt retaliates
• Student Seeks further revenge
• What to Do Avoid punishment, retaliation
  rather build trusting relationships

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Why Do Children Misbehave?

• Display of Inadequacy
• Student I belong only when I convince others
  that I am unable and helpless.
• Teacher Feels despair, hopeless, discouraged
• Student Shows no improvement
• What to Do Recognize students deep
  discouragement Dont give up, pity, or
  criticize Encourage positive effort get help

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What are Consequences?
Natural Arbitrary Logical
Occur automatically Arranged Not related to behavior Arranged related to behavior
Never danger, others rights, no problem Least effective Always- related, respectful, reasonable

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What are Results of Not Using the Three Rs?

• Resentment
• I cant trust adults.
• Revenge
• They are winning now, but Ill get even.

• Rebellion
• Ill do just the opposite to prove I can.
• Retreat
• I wont get caught next time. or I am a bad
  person.

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Case Study Activity

• Read case study (similar to the type of
  open-ended questions on PRAXIS II PLT)
• Discuss solutions with cooperative learning group
• Write a thorough answer to the problem
• Share your answers with class