Tonya Leigh on creating a life that your 90-year old self will toast and say, “Well done, darling.”.

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Tonya Leigh
On Creating A Life That Your 90-year Old Self
Will Toast And Say, Well done, darling.
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Tonya Leigh is master trained life coach, a
former registered nurse, trained sommelier and
devout Francophile. She owned the company French
Kiss Life Incorporated. With the chic travel
society and online programs, Tonya fuses personal
development with luxurious lifestyle to inspire
women to live with ease, elegance, and everyday
ecstasy. She has worked with Oprah and the IKEA
Life Improvement Project and spoken to audiences
from Paris and Monaco to the deep South on living
a well-lived life, the art of femininity and
creating heart-centered companies.
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Shes most proud of her 16-year old daughter and
as a parent just watching her daughter grow up
and make mistakes and learn from them and see her
on her journey. Shes also proud of who shes
become.
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The experience she had was never an epiphany. It
was day by day realizing more of what she wants
and what she doesnt want. She remembers
particular night in her life. She was working as
a fulltime nurse and she was a single mom, they
just moved to small apartment. She had no
furniture. She had bean bag and her daughter had
a bed, thank goodness, and she had a TV.
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She was in a such depressed state of mind and
totally felt trapped. That time her daughter
called asked Mom are we going to be okay? It
was like her heart exploded. She start to look
around and say "Even in this time in my life
where I'm so down, don't know what's next,
there's still beauty all around." Because of that
mindset shift, she was in a better state of mind.
Her state of being began to change and slowly
over time shes landed to where she is now, which
is a completely different place. The point of
that is even the little subtle shifts that you
make in your life, they lead to beautiful changes
over time.
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To continually evolve herself, she decided to put
her tennis shoes on!!
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She has a program called "Slim, Chic and Savvy."
One of the first things that she does with the
women is have them think about, "If you were at
your ideal weight, if you had your ideal man, if
you were in your ideal career, how would you
feel? what are your essence words, and begin to
embody those daily and let them guide your
choices and your decisions.
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She always wants to surround herself with people
who call out the best in her, people whose lives
she admires, people who have a beautiful,
positive energy about them.
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How did she get people out from her life who
didnt love their energy The way she looks at
the world is everything is energy and like
attracts like. As you begin to intentionally go
about your day, She always say the universe makes
those decisions for you. As she held her energy
in a certain space, what she found is that she
looked around and no one was really wanting to be
around me.
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For Tonya, it was just like those who wanted to
join her in where she was going, they stayed on
board. Those people who didn't, she doesnt know
how it happened, it wasn't like she looked at
them one day and said, "I'm not going to have
anything to do with you." It's like she turned
around and they were no longer there.
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She grew up in the deep South and she grew up in
a religion called Pentecostal Holiness. Basically
being a worldly woman of any type was a sin, so
no makeup, no pants, no jewelryall the things
that she loves.
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She remember those moments in her interest in the
world of wine. Put herself out there and she
started reaching out to food and wine magazines.
The next thing she knows shes doing food and
wine writing and restaurant reviews and creating
wine programs. That was the first step in this
world that shes living in now.
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One of Tonyas Blogs (A good story, a must read!)
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How to find out what youre passionate about!?
One of the illusions, is that passion is found
out there. We are passionate beings. The more you
show up and you bring passion to everything that
you do, the more you open yourself up to finding
what you are passionate about. What you focus on
grows. If you think you need to be fixed, you're
just going to grow a problem that you really
don't have.
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Look at how you are showing up in that situation?
Are you showing up with dread? Are you showing up
with anger? You're only recreating who you are.
Begin to show up as the woman you want to be in
every situation of your life. It's often our
thoughts that make things hard, not the
circumstance.
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Easing your life when you feel super busy!!!
One, be mindful of what you tell yourself. Two,
you get out of your creative zone of genius.
Three, when you change your mindset, everything
else changes. Four, begin to look at what are
the practical in your external world that you can
begin to work on.
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Tonya is a firm believer
Shes a believer in elegant system which she uses
to create her year in advance. She creates it not
just from business perspective but from a life
perspective. Shes also a firm believer of
automation, she automates her investments and
bills or anything that can be automated. She has
another system, Stitch Fix. This is to free up
her time so she can enjoy her time and the things
that she loves to do and focus on the things that
really matter to her.
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If you kept telling yourself, "I'm so tired. I'm
so tired." The more you recited that in your
mind, the more tired you became. Then you
realized you had a few more things you needed to
do before the end of the day so started telling
yourself, "I'm full of energy. I'm excited about
getting this done," and your mindset over powered
your body. All of the sudden, you felt this burst
of energy.
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There's a Catch 22 here in that the mind is
really powerful and at the same time you really
need to honor what your body is saying and trying
to figure out what is creating this constant
fatigue.
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Look in your life what can you appreciate right
now. What is abundant in your life right now? The
more you begin to appreciate where you are in
your life right now, you begin to feel better. As
you begin to feel better, you make better
decisions. As you make better decisions, you
create better results. It's always about reaching
for the better feeling thought..
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If you're feeling stuck in life, if you feel like
life's not moving in the right direction, begin
to look at what are you telling yourself? What
are the beliefs that you keep thinking over and
over again? Those are what's creating the feeling
of being stuck. Equally, how can you begin to
maybe change up a few things in how you're
presenting yourself to the world, the things that
you're doing in your daily life to being to shake
your world up a bit? That's how you can begin to
get out of where you are right now.
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Tonyas Website
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