Personalizing the High School Experience for Each Student

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Personalizing the High School Experience for
Each Student

• Conversation Techniques for Parents 101
• How to talk so your kids will listen and how to
  listen so your kids will talk

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Listening Set Asides

• Solution listening
• You should .
• Here is what would work
• Try this .
• Inquisitive listening
• OOHH!...
• Interesting, tell me more about
• Wow what happened to the other person..
• Autobiographical listening
• Mine is
• My
• That happened to me too

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Listening Set AsidesNON-Examples Activity?

• Purpose to understand what it looks like,
  sounds like, and feels when listening set-asides
  are not honored
• In pairs, one person faces the back of the PAC
  and shares a highlight from the summer.
• The other person faces the front screen and
  listens to the story about the summer highlights,
  but USES the listening set aside that I point to,
  when crafting their response
• Share your feelings as the speaker / listener

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Principles of Paraphrasing

• Attend fully
• Listen with intention to understand
• Capture the essence of the message
• Reflect the essence of voice tone and gestures
• Make the paraphrase shorter than the original
  statement
• Paraphrase before asking a question

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Types of Paraphrases

• Acknowledge and Clarify
• So, youre feeling
• Youre noticing that
• In other words
• Summarize and Organize
• So, there seems to be two key issues
• For you then, there are several themes that are
  emerging, they are
• It seems there is a sequence here
• Shift Conceptual Focus
• So, a ____X_____ for you might be _________
• X value, belief, assumption, goal, intention

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Paraphrasing Activity ?

• Purpose to understand what it looks like,
  sounds like, and feels when paraphrases
• In pairs, one person faces the back of the PAC
  and shares a highlight from the summer.
• The other person faces the front screen and
  listens to the story about the summer highlights,
  but uses several of the paraphrase techniques
  when crafting their response
• Share your feelings as the speaker / listener

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Multi-layer probing questions

• Start with a statement of fact that is not
  refutable from a recognizable source.
• Make an observation about the fact that is easy
  to connect to and understand, that opens the
  "door" to the question.
• Ask a question that relates to the fact and
  observation, that is not a yes or no answer, and
  have it contain several answers within the
  question.

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Multi-layer probing questions

• Example You want to find out what the child is
  learning in Science class.
• Fact- Son, I know you had science class today
  with Ms. So-n-So..."
• Observation - "I remember in speaking with Ms.
  So-n-So that she planned on covering fractal
  physics about this time of the year"....
• Question - "Describe what you learned today in
  class related to fractal physics AND explain how
  it applies to our life at home..."...

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Multi-layer probing questions activity ?

• Purpose to practice composing MLQs
• (fact observation question)
• Find a new partner
• Work as a pair to create one complete multi-layer
  probing question
• Combine pairs to create foursomes. Share your
  examples with one another
• Lets share a few gems with the entire group

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Personalizing the High School Experience for
Each Students

• Help your child
• GET INVOLVED ?
• Visit the Student Organization/
• Activities Fair in the Concourse