Grieving

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Grieving
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LOSS

• Death of a loved one
• Death of a pet
• Loss of a job
• Loss of a role
• Loss of a home
• Loss of friends
• Loss of being needed
• Loss of health
• Loss of independence

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Inappropriate responses

• Its not that important
• I just need to move on straightaway
• Ill get over it if I keep myself busy
• I need to lose myself in a good book/film
• I dont want to burden others
• In other words, SUPPRESS

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Inappropriate responses

• People arent interested in my sadness
• If I show my emotions I will be rejected
• It is safer for me to withdraw
• In other words, REPRESS

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Inappropriate responses

• My sister feels it more than me, shes depressed
• One of my colleagues is really angry
• The old lady is devastated
• The children miss their friends
• Its more work for my husband/wife
• In other words attributing your emotions to
  others, PROJECTION

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Inappropriate responses

• My job is gone, its not worth getting up
• My friends are lost, I wont bother to go out
• Life has hurt me it doesnt matter what I do
• Im miserable, Iife isnt worth living
• In other words, EXPRESSING negatively

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Appropriate responses

• Express positively
• Have a memorial service
• Make a ceremony for pet death
• Have memory swap of good times
• Make a scrapbook of memories

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Appropriate or right responses

• Confess our feelings to God and to others
• Talk about what has happened
• Explore our feelings and try to understand causes
• Meditate on Gods faithfulness

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Use the Bible to help

• Psalms
• Psalm 142
• Psalm 43
• Psalm13