Five Styles of Parenting

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Five Styles of Parenting
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DEMOCRATIC PARENTS

• The righteous man walks in his integrity his
  children are blessed after him (Prov 207)
• Children get to make decisions within boundaries
  set by parents
• Even a child is known by his deeds, whether what
  he does is pure and right (Prov 2011)

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AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS

• Jacob was an authoritarian parent
• Jacob to Rueben Unstable as water, you shall
  not excel (Gen 494)
• Jacob about Simeon and Levi Cursed be their
  anger, for it is fierce (Gen 496-7)
• Because I said so!

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PERMISSIVE PARENTS

• King Davids permissive parenting made it
  possible for his son to rape his own sister (cf.
  2 Sam 1314)
• David wept more for the killer than for the one
  that was killed (2 Sam 1339)
• Permissive parents think that loving their
  children means seldom correcting them

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REGJECTING PARENTS

• Hagar Let me not see the death of the boy (Gen
  2116)
• Rebekahs brother and mother Let the young
  woman stay with us a few days, at least ten
  after that she may go (Gen 2455)
• Isaac to Jacob (thinking it was Esau) Come near
  now and kiss me, my son (Gen 2726)

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REGJECTING PARENTS

• Laban to Jacob And you did not allow me to kiss
  my sons and my daughters . . . And early in the
  morning Laban arose, and kissed his sons and
  daughters and blessed them (Gen 3128, 55)
• Then Joseph brought them near him, and he kissed
  them and embraced them (Gen 4810-11)

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UNINVOLVED PARENTS

• We should no longer be children, tossed to and
  fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine
  . . . . (Eph 414)
• When I call to remembrance the genuine faith
  that is in you, which dwelt first in your
  grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am
  persuaded is in you also (2 Tim 15 cf. 315)

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Separateness/Togetherness

• High separateness check either box 1 or 2
• More separateness than togetherness 3/4
• More togetherness than separateness 5/6
• Very high togetherness 7/8

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I We Balance

• Primarily I check either box 1 or 2
• More I than we 3 or 4
• More we than I 5 or 6
• Primarily we 7 or 8

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Closeness

• Little closeness box 1 or 2
• Low-to-moderate closeness 3 or 4
• Moderate-to-high closeness 5 or 6
• Very high closeness 7 or 8

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Loyalty

• Lack of loyalty box 1 or 2
• Some loyalty 3 or 4
• Considerable loyalty 5 or 6
• High loyalty 7 or 8

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Activities

• Mainly separate box 1 or 2
• More separate then shared 3 or 4
• More shared than separate 5 or 6
• Mainly shared 6 or 7

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Dependence/Independence

• High independence/high dependence 1/2
• More independence than dependence 3/4
• More dependence than independence 5/6
• Highly dependence 7/8

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The global rating for this Couple and Family
Rating Form is between 6 7
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Leadership

• Authoritarian box 1 or 2
• Sometimes shared 3 or 4
• Often shared 5 or 6
• Lack of leadership 7 or 8

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Discipline

• Strict discipline box 1 or 2
• Some democracy 3 or 4
• Democratic 5 or 6
• Erratic/inconsistent 7 or 8

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Negotiation

• Limited discussion box 1 or 2
• Orderly discussion 3 or 4
• Open discussion 5 or 6
• Endless discussion 7 or 8

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Roles

• Roles very stable box 1 or 2
• Roles stable 3 or 4
• Role-sharing 5 or 6
• Big role shifts 7 or 8

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Rules

• Unchanging rules box 1 or 2
• Few rule changes 3 or 4
• Some rule changes 5 or 6
• Rule changes often 7 or 8

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Change

• Very little change box 1 or 2
• Moderate change 3 or 4
• Some change 5 or 6
• Changes often 7 or 8

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The global rating on this chart is between 2 and
3.
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Family type
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Democratic parents
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Rejecting parents cant cut the apron strings
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Permissive parents
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Authoritarian parents
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Uninvolved parents
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As is the mother, so is the daughter (Ezek
1644)