ANGER MANAGEMENT

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

• Hilary Rife
• Roger Kapes
• EDUC 631 Fall 2004

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

• DEFINITION
• STATISTICS
• TEACHER (PowerPoint)
• STUDENT (PowerPoint)
• VIDEO for Students
• SUPPORT AVAILABLE
• RESOURCES

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• STATISTICS
• 5.5 of the Nations Elementary Teachers were
  attacked by students!
  (U.S. Dept of Education 1999-2000 school year)
• 10 of the Nations Elementary Expulsions were
  for bringing firearms to school
  (U.S. Dept of
  Education 1998-1999 School Year)
• Source http//www.nccev.org/violence/statistics/s
  tatistics-schools.html

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ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger management does not involve getting rid of
all anger, but using anger to enhance your life.
We can look at the purposes of anger in both a
positive and negative light. http//www.anger-man
agement.net/question_show.cfm?selected85
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The positive aspects of anger are that you have
increased energy, are able to communicate your
feelings, able to problem solve and can take
charge of the situation. http//www.anger-managem
ent.net/question_show.cfm?selected85
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The negative aspects of anger are that you can
have disruption of your thinking, unnecessarily
defend yourself, become aggressive and become
known as an angry person. http//www.anger-manage
ment.net/question_show.cfm?selected85
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Anger management would be seen then as increasing
the positive aspects or functions of anger and
decreasing the negative functions of anger.
http//www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm
?selected85
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So now,,, you have a student that is displaying a
lot of ANGER! Now What do you do?
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• Skills needed in dealing with your anger
• Identify a range of feelings including anger
• Identify aggressive acts by self and others
• Identify the potential consequences to self and
  others from these aggressive acts
• Identify self-destructive behavior
• Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts
• Identify internal cues to feelings of anger
• Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger
• Express anger without loss of control

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• Identify a range of feelings including anger

• Embarrassment
• Excitement
• Disappointment
• Jealousy
• Fear
• Helpless
• Sadness
• Left-out

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• I am in charge of my own feelings

• I own my feelings.
• It is okay to feel angry.
• Anger is part of being human.
• I learn how to express my anger in helpful ways.

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• Identify aggressive acts shown by self and others

• Throw something
• Kick someone or something
• Get in someones face
• Shoving, grabbing, hitting
• Break something
• Call someone names
• Give someone a dirty look
• Silent treatment
• Get others to gang up
• Spread rumors

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• I choose to feel good about myself through
  expressing my feelings.

• I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to
  others and me.
• I use fair wordse.g.
• I feel when you

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• The more I learn to take care of my anger the
  more powerful I become.

• I need to control what I do with my anger.
• I control how I let my anger out.
• I practice cooling off.
• I watch my thoughts.

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• Know the difference between ANGER and AGGRESSION.
• Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.
• Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is
  not ok. Learn to check your aggression and
  express your anger appropriately.

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• Ways to Keep Cool
• Get exercise every day.
• Eat right.
• Get enough sleep.
• Learn to relax.
• Know your feelings.
• Write about those feelings.

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

• Ways to Keep Cool
• Find a quiet place.
• Take a time out.
• Find fun distractions.
• Make good decisions about what you see and hear.
• Choose friends who make you feel good.
• Learn to forgive and forget.

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• Identify potential consequences of your anger to
  others and yourselfwhat can that mean for you?

• Physical harm to someone or self
• Destruction of property
• Loss of family/friends
• Loss of job
• Loss of social privileges
• Going to jail
• Getting a bad reputation

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• Identify self-destructive behaviorHow does that
  help or hurt you?

• Negative self-talk
• Blaming everyone else
• Taking everything personally
• Assuming
• Overeating, drinking
• Driving recklessly
• Taking drugs
• Looking for fights
• Feeling outraged

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• I stop blaming others and myself.
• Blaming only keeps people upset.
• Blaming is a way of not respecting people.
• I express my feelings and then try to work things
  out.

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• Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts

• You did that on purpose
• You wanted to hurt me
• You deserve this
• You never even asked me
• Youre being unreasonable
• You think youre so good
• Ill show you
• You started it
• Theres no justice

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• Identify internal cues to feelings of anger

• Stomach gets tight/upset
• Heart is beating faster
• Clenching fists
• Feel myself getting flushed
• Pressure on my temples
• Sweaty palms
• Clenched jaw

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• I dont have to hold on to my anger.
• I find ways to let it go
• I talk about hurt and angry feelings.
• I look for someone to discuss my anger.
• I discuss my words and actions that hurt others.

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• Steps to taming anger
• Know what pushes your buttons.
• Know your bodys anger signs.
• Stop and think!
• Cage your rageits your choice.
• Decide what to do.

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• I take power.
• I stand up for myself and others being hurt.
• I learn to defeat negative self-talk.
• I feel good about learning about myself.
• I am strong when I use fair and firm words
  instead of fists.

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• I remember that people are precious.
• I watch my thoughts, words, and actions.
• I stop hurting people with my words and actions.
• I take ownership of the hurtful things I do and
  say.
• Bullying hurts everyone.

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• Calm down
• Name the problem
• Find solutions
• Pick the best solution
• Congratulate yourself
• Evaluate the solution
• Make changes if necessary

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• Can you identify any of the steps in resolving
  conflict, controlling your anger and avoiding
  aggressive behavior?
• Well(then click)

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• Calm down
• Show mutual respect
• Name the problem
• Find solutions
• Choose the best solution
• Congratulate yourself
• Review the solution that was picked

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• Now that YOU understand the mechanics of Anger
  Management,,, How Does this relate to YOUR
  Students in Elementary School?

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When you are ANGRY and UPSETremember1-2-3
TURTLE
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1 Go inside your shell

• THINK before you ACT
• Take a Time Out

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• Time to RELAX
• Calm yourself down

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• Think of a good solution

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Good solutions other kids have used

• Tell a teacher or an adult
• Talk it out
• Ask for advice
• Be honest about
• your feelings

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• VIDEO
• Student Workshop
• HANDLING YOUR ANGER

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• SUPPORT
• AVAILABLE

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• RESOURCES