West Africa Mission Leadership

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West Africa Mission Leadership Conference, Accra
2006 Theme I want to Know Christ Parenting
Workshop Femi Sade Femi-Shofu
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Topic Striving for Excellence (The quality of
being extremely good) Phillip 4 8
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• 1. Be a Friend
• Definition of Friend (Person you like) A person
  you know well and like and who is not usually a
  member of your family.
• -Whatever is True (Correct, Real, Admitting
  fact, Loyal, Accurate, Straight?)

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• Am I a likeable person? Am I real?
• What is my relationship with my kids like?
• How open am I? Do I admit facts?
• Am I a loyal Father/ Mother?
• Am I a straight and accurate Dad / Mum?
• Am I my children fan/buddy? Do I enjoy their
  music or fun?
• (Chuck-Knuckles, High 5, etc)
• Point Christ in us should be the Hope of Glory
  for our kids.

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• Whatever is Noble (Personal qualities that
  people admire
• Courage, Honesty and Care for others).

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• Do I have the qualities that attract people to
  Christ?
• Am I of noble character? What are those ungodly
• characters of mine that I cherish and claim as
  Birth Marks?
• Do I realize that I am a new creature? (2
  Corinthian 517)
• Do I model courage for my family?
• How honest am I?
• (My Daddy told me to tell you that he is not at
  home).
• What about caring for others? (How often do I
  respond to calls for Poor Outreach?)
• Point We need to model Christ for our children.

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• Whatever is Right
• (Morally Good, True/Correct, Normal, Not left,
  Complete, Exact, Acceptable). Gen. 1819

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• What is my moral standard as a parent?
• What is my behaviour like?
• Do mummy and Daddy fight, abuse or rebuke each
  other while their kids watch?
• What will my kids say about me?

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• 2. Make Jesus the Centre of Your Home

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• Husband and wife have separate rooms
• Some parents dont get to see their kids except
  sometimes on Sundays when they go traditionally
  to Church because they keep late nites, for
  whatever reason.
• One husband, many wives and countless kids at war
  with one another.

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• -Whatever is Pure (Not mixed, clean, undiluted
  without blemish).
• Matt 58 Blessed are the pure in heart for they
  shall see God

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• What occupies your heart?
• (Out of the overflow of the heart.)
• Do I appear clean and undiluted to my kids?
• Do I realize that God judges the attitude of the
  heart?
• Is my heart pure and without any blemish?
• Do I play macho in front of my kids or do I
  humble myself and be vulnerable?
• Am I as open as a book they can read?
• What is your purity like?

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• -Whatever is Lovely (Beautiful, Attractive,
  Affectionate)
• 1 Corinth 134-8 (Love never fail Verse 8)

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• How do I love my kids? Like Christ love the
  Church?
• Do I see them beautiful and attractive? How often
  do I say I love u?
• Do I make the home peaceful and attractive to
  them or do they enjoy spending more time out of
  our home?
• Do I know my kids friends? Are they good
  company? (Bad company...
• Do I discipline? How? With love?

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• - Whatever is Admirerable (Respect?)

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• Do I respect their feelings, opinions and
  emotions?
• Do I earn or demand their respect?
• Do I even realize they are growing up and that at
  a point they are entitle to their privacy?
• (Some of us still want to choose their clothes
  and give them bath even at Preteen/Teen level
• What will my child remember me for?
• Do I make our home a military cantonment or
  create an enabling environment for them to learn
  and absorb what I am teaching them?
• Do I Make House Cores Fun or a Drab?

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• Whatever is Excellent and Praiseworthy?

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• Show practical examples to your kids they
  remember more of what they see than what they
  hear
• Be the Bible they read
• Call them to Prayers and Devotionals
• Use every opportunity to teach not to rebuke all
  the time
• Dont think or talk negative about them
• Believe in them Respect them. He/She will
  change.
• Dont talk at them, talk to them. Reason with
  them.
• Encourage more
• Let them know you care and love show and say it.
• No favoritism, treat them all equally with love.
• Raise them up yourselves. Do not throw them to
  the western world at a tender age.
• BE FUN, BE WISE, BE VIGILANT, BE CAREFULL

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• IN CONCLUSION
• As parents our attitude should be
• I WANT TO KNOW CHRIST
• so that I can teach and model Christ to my
  Children.

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• It takes a couple to bring forth a child, but it
  takes the whole community to raise him up. (The
  Community of Believers) seek advice and be open
  about the condition of your kids.

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• THIS IS JUST THE BEGINNING
• To God be the glory.

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