How to stay in bounds with your children.

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How to stay in bounds with your children.

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• I Timothy 3 1-5
• By Greg Penna

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Parents are Frustrated Time, Aug. 2001

• 80 of parents say that children are more spoiled
  today than 15 years ago.
• 68 view their children as spoiled.
• 75 say that their children have less chores than
  just a few years ago.

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Children are frustrated and in danger.

• 65 are not excited about life, feel they have no
  purpose.
• 67 do not trust others.
• 64 are pessimistic. Over 50 consider themselves
  stressed out.
• Under 50 consider faith important.

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This generation--Millinnials--divided into 7
categories.

• Day Runner Ruby So busy they use a planner to
  keep track of their schedule in elementary
  school.
• Annie Anxiety Most anxious generation in
  American history. Over 20 have stomach ulcers.

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This generation--Millinnials--divided into 7
categories.

• Rebecca Rejected Feels unloved by family and
  friends. Has no meaningful human relationship.
• Barbie the Babysitter Money, Money, Money.
  Hold jobs and work hard to have the things that
  will make them fit in with their peers.

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This generation--Millinnials--divided into 7
categories.

• Andy Athletic Family time has been replaced by
  every imaginable sport or extra-curricular
  activity. These children live lives of quiet
  desperation. Parents wont put limits and
  parents try to live through them. Most likely
  for depression/suicide.

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This generation--Millinnials--divided into 7
categories.

• Larry the Lonely 2nd generation latch key kid.
  Parents untrained how to love because their
  parents to busy for them. The effect is a
  multiplicity of loneliness.

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This generation--Millinnials--divided into 7
categories.

• Stephen the Survivor These are the unwanted
  children. Born only because of failed family
  planning. They are harshly abused and lonely.
  They no longer live the American dream their
  goal is just to survive.

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God has a better way.

• Devotion
• Discipline
• Discipleship

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I. God wants parents to devote themselves to
their children.

• Psalm 1273-5
• Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children are
  a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of
  a warrior are sons born in ones youth. Blessed
  is the man whose quiver is full of them.

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I. God wants parents to devote themselves to
their children.

• A. Scripture teaches that children are always a
  blessing and never a burden.
• Central Point We must celebrate the children we
  have instead of only calculating their cost.

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I. God wants parents to devote themselves to
their children.

• B. Children are a gift when we are young a
  blessing as we grow old.
• Childrens children are a crown to the aged, and
  parents the pride of their children. (Psalm
  176)
• Honor your father and mother for this is the
  first commandment with promise. Eph. 6

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I. God wants parents to devote themselves to
their children.

• C. Having children is a command of God.
• Be fruitful and multiply!
• Zero growth is not part of Gods plan.

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II. God wants parents to discipline their
children.

• Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but
  the rod of discipline will drive it far from
  them. Pr. 2215
• Train up a child in the way he should go Prov.
  226

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II. God wants parents to discipline their
children.

• A. Discipline their actions. (Training requires
  discipline.)
• B. Discipline their time. (As parents, you are
  in charge of their schedule.)
• C. Discipline their possessions. (No is not a
  dirty word.)
• D. Discipline their television.

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Did you know

• 75 of parents complain that there is too much
  advertising geared at kids, an industry that has
  grown to 1 billion.

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III. God wants parents to disciple their
children.

• Teach them to your children, talking about them
  when you sit at home and when you walk along the
  road, when you lie down and when you get upso
  that the days of your children may be in the land
  that the Lord swore to give to your forefathers.
  Duet. 19-20

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III. God wants parents to disciple their
children.

• A. Become a disciple yourself.
• Fix these words of mine in your hearts and
  minds. Duet. 1118
• No one can be a good parent without God!

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III. God wants parents to disciple their
children.

• B. Spend time with your children. Take
  advantage of teachable moments.
• C. Work on their discipleship daily.

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Do you have these kids?

• Day Runner Ruby,
• Annie Anxiety,
• Rebecca Rejected,
• Barbie the Babysitter,
• Andy Athletic,
• Larry the lonely,
• Steven the survivor?

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Things can change.

• Begin with confession for the failures.
• Put God, not things, first in the lives of your
  children.
• Follow Gods Plan Devote, Discipline, Disciple.