How to stay in bounds in marriage.

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How to stay in bounds in marriage.

• Boundaries Series 2
• Genesis 220b-25
• Greg Penna

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But for Adam, no suitable helper was found.
So, the Lord caused the man to fall into a deep
sleep and while he was sleeping He took one of
the mans ribs and closed up the place with
flesh. The Lord made a woman from the rib He had
taken out of the man and He brought her to the
man. The man said This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman
for she was taken out of man. For this reason a
man will leave his father and mother and be
untied to his wife, and they will become one
flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and
they felt no shame.
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Zimmer Study 3 Fears of Couples

• 1. The security fear Will our union last, will
  my mate be faithful?
• 2. Fulfillment Fear Will we be able to
  establish and maintain a warm, loving, respectful
  relationship?
• 3. Excitement Fear Will the relation-ship slip
  into boredom, will I be trapped?

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God Has Good News!

• His word provides the guideline for marriage that
  will allow our marriage to last, be mutually
  fulfilling, and bring us happiness and Him Glory!

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Three Biblical Keys for Marriage.

• Completeness,
• Communion,
• Continuance.

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I. God gave us marriage to complete us.

• It is not good for man to be alone, I will make
  a suitable helper for him But for Adam no
  suitable helper was found. -Gen. 218,20

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I. God gave us marriage to complete us.

• A. We are drawn to people by the things that we
  have in common.
• Question What first attracted you to your
  spouse?

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I. God gave us marriage to complete us.

• B. However, God places us together often times
  because of our differences.
• God made a different helper for Adam.
• Adam wasnt finished until this person was
  created.

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I. God gave us marriage to complete us.

• C. Our love therefore, is bound in conflict.
  (I. Cor. 131-7)
• Love is not easily angered, it keeps no record
  of wrong suffered.
• Bible teaches we are to learn to love through
  this. I Peter 31-7

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II. God gave us marriage for communion.

• For this reason a man shall leave his father and
  his mother and be united with his wife.
• Gods desire was for marriage to be an
  inner-circle of communion and communication.

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II. God gave us marriage for communion.

• A. Gods desire was for marriage to begin with
  separation.
• From Family,
• From Friends,
• From Past Relationships.
• Strong marriages are ones that keep in-laws,
  friends, and even co-workers outside of the
  special union of husband and wife.

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II. God gave us marriage for communion.

• Together, we are to build a new sense of
  community that becomes a family.
• This is the difference between a house and a
  home. It is done in little things like making
  the meal time a priority.

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Communion overcomes the 7 Year Itch, Empty
Nest, Etc.

• Satans traps that ruin marriage can only be
  overcome through continual building of
  communication and communion.

The problem is that even Godly people look to TV
and Hollywood for examples of home-life when they
should look to Gods word.
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II. God gave us marriage for communion.

• C. God has given us the responsibility to be
  caretakers of the relationship that He has
  given us.
• Adam and Eves work wasnt just in the garden.
  They were to continually develop the relationship
  they had with each other. That command still
  exists today.

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III. God gave us marriage for Continuance.

• They will become one flesh. -Genesis
  224
• By definition, one flesh means a permanent
  relationship.

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III. God gave us marriage for Continuance.

• A. God begins establishing permanence through
  intimacy.
• They were both naked and not ashamed.

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III. God gave us marriage for Continuance.

• B. Continuance is also seen in Gods command to
  be fruitful and multiply.
• You dont stay together for the kids, instead,
  you live with respect, care, love, and happiness
  for the kids.

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A study of 131 children over 15 years Divorce
is deceptive. Legally it is a single event, but
psychologically it is a chain-sometimes a never
ending chain of events, relocations and radically
shifting relationships strung through time, a
process that forever changes the lives of the
people involved. -Wallerstein
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Fears Vs. Fact

• Excitement
• Fulfillment
• Security

• Completeness
• Communion
• Continuance

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Rate Your Relationship!

• What about your completeness?
• What about your communion?
• What about your continuance?