Why do teenager lie

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Why do teenagers lie and what should parents do?
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• Lying is an integral part of human development
  and it cannot be done away with. Somewhere
  someone right now is lying to his/her boss,
  teacher, parents, friends, etc. But does it mean
  lying is ok and we should just move on with life?
  Definitely no. There should be a line drawn
  somewhere so that we as human beings chose to do
  whats right and not what right for just us. That
  being said, we must know why do teenagers lie and
  how should parents handle their lying teenagers.
  Teenage is that period of ones life where the
  person learns various lessons and starts to
  develop maturity. So, it is imperative that our
  teenagers get all the important lesson the right
  way.

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So why do teenagers lie

• To get out of trouble (obviously),
• They think parents impose unreasonable
  restrictions and that the only way through is
  lying.
• To protect other peoples feelings.
• They just want some part of their life to remain
  private.
• The list goes onTeens lie a lot, even though
  they will always believe in honesty.

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So how should parents proceed

• First, let me tell you an anecdote. When I was in
  class 11, one of my friends wanted a smartphone
  badly. His parents had already refused to buy him
  a smartphone. He somehow managed to collect
  enough money to buy a second-hand smartphone,
  Nokia 5233 to be precise. I was bewildered after
  knowing that he bought a smartphone without his
  parents knowledge. The first thought that came
  to my mind was, Where do you keep it at home and
  how do charge and use it? To which he replied,
  I charge it from the USB port of my CPU because
  that is at the back of my desk where hardly
  anyone suspect

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The simple answer would be, TRUST

• I share a pretty good amount of my personal life
  with my parents. Yes, I have lied a lot, but I
  never let the trust fade away. They know I
  havent touched alcohol yet, neither have I
  smoked a cigarette in my life. They also know
  that I sometimes drive my motorbike at more than
  100 kmph. I not only tell them the good things
  that I have done,  but I also slip in the bad
  things when they are in a good mood. Instead of
  getting scolded, I end up listening to a valuable
  lecture.

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Moral of the story

• If you worry about your relationship with your
  child taking a hit, then dont scold them for
  every time they lie to you. Start building the
  trust, so that they can live up to that trust and
  start telling the truth. If you always doubt your
  children, keep interrogating them, they will get
  irritated and afraid.
• If you dont want to buy them a smartphone at a
  young age, there are hundreds of polite/friendly
  ways to make them see your point. But, scolding
  them will only force them to think that you are
  against their happiness, that youll never
  understand their needs, and they should just buy
  a smartphone and keep it a secret.

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Befriend your children and build trust

• If a teenager cant trust his/her parents, there
  are high chances of them getting into some
  trouble and not letting you know until its too
  late. For instance, if a child sneaks out of the
  house at night, goes on a drive with his friends.
  God forbid, if they met with an accident, or
  their vehicle breaks down in the middle of
  nowhere, then the child will try every number on
  his cellphone but yours. But at that time, he
  will be needing his parents help more than ever.
  Yes, they snuck out, its their fault in the
  first place. But if parents have maintained an
  environment where even dropping a spoon would
  attract a lecture, then the child will never call
  for help