Instilling Self confidence in Kids - Kalvischools

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Instilling selfconfidence in kids
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Here is a practical way of how you can instil
self-confidence in your children

• Make Them Think
• Kids love to learn new things and believe it or
  not, they enjoy challenges as well. Provide ideas
  that can spark your childs imagination and then
  follow up to help them through the process. Here
  are just a couple of ideas
• Provide riddles or puzzles for them to solve.
  These can range from a simple open-ended question
  that sparks creative thought to more standard
  brain-teasers like Sudoku or board games.
• Introduce them to books that ask questions or add
  new topics and adventures. This will allow them
  to expand their knowledge and fantasize about
  faraway places or experiences.

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• Work together to solve problems, but let them
  take the lead. Working together with your child
  to solve a riddle, or performing a task around
  the house can build self-confidence and allow
  them to be a superstar in your eyes.
• Focus and concentration is a known benefit of
  kids martial arts classes. From the most basic
  of forms to more complex moves, kids get in the
  zone and this practice expands to other areas of
  their life, both at home and in school.

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• Engage Them Socially
• Lets face it todays kids spend more of their
  time in front of a TV or smartphone screen that
  we would like. Getting children socially active
  can help prevent them from becoming withdrawn and
  can build self-confidence among others in their
  age group and even with adults as well. Here are
  some suggestions
• Hold an adult party, or maybe a barbecue, and ask
  the kids to help. They can answer the door, take
  coats, introduce guests as they arrive and even
  help serve (non-alcoholic) beverages and food.
  Interacting with adults can help them relate to
  an older age group and expand their horizons.

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• Have them host their own party. Have them plan,
  send out invitations, shop for food and supplies,
  prepare for guests and run the whole show. This
  will teach planning and make them big shots in
  the eyes of their friends. What could possibly
  build more confidence than that?
• Have them take a class, maybe martial arts,
  swimming or other physical or craft-oriented
  education. This will help keep them active and
  away from the computer or TV while teaching them
  life skills.
• Is there a greater social experience than a
  martial arts class for kids? Kids learn to work
  together and help each other improve, while
  learning to interact with adults in a respectful
  way, helping them fit in with the other
  respectful kids! Parents of martial arts students
  are pleasantly surprised to find out that this
  becomes an engaging social experience for them as
  well, as friendships and bonds are made with
  other parents along for the kids martial arts
  journey!
• Have Them Help

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• Kids like feeling as though they are making a
  difference. Helping others is a great way to give
  them this sort of satisfaction. Asking kids to
  contribute will allow them to see that tasks
  require effort and thinking, and will prepare
  them for larger tasks ahead. Here are a couple of
  ways that kids can help
• Help around the house - this will give them
  self-confidence by contributing to a safe, clean
  place to live while working with their parents in
  a team effort.
• Take them on a visit to a senior citizen home.
  This will allow youngsters to see how adults live
  when they get older and is an excellent venue for
  adult praise to be lavished on the kids.
• Volunteering at the local animal shelter - kids
  love animals, and animals love kids. Caring for a
  shelter animal will build both a sense of
  responsibility and sense of self-confidence. Just
  be prepared when your child wants to bring that
  puppy home with them!

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• Let Them Pursue Their interests
• Kids want to be emotionally attached to what they
  do. Letting kids independently pursue their own
  interests is a great way to let them explore for
  themselves and build a bond with what they are
  doing. Don't be tempted to force them into what
  you think they should like, let them develop
  their own preferences. However, a little parental
  guidance may be needed if their ideas get too
  outrageous or dangerous.
• Kids love superheroes in action movies. It is
  very rare that a child does not express an
  interest in training to learn cool moves like a
  Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle or a Power Ranger!
  However, something magical happens as their
  martial arts journey progresses the goal of
  achieving a higher belt and eventually becoming a
  black belt instils goal-setting skills that many
  other athletic activities do not. Just ask the
  parent of any martial arts student!

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• Dont Overpraise
• We like to praise our children when they do well,
  but this can sometimes go too far.
  Self-confidence takes time, and when parents
  shower praise on their kids for every little
  thing, they can set the bar too low and keep the
  child from pushing to do better. Praise when
  something great happens, but save your praise for
  that special occasion.
• Let Them Make the Decisions
• Kids feel empowered when they are put in charge.
  Giving them the opportunity to make their own
  decisions helps them build self-confidence and
  good judgment. However, be sure they know the
  limits and provide them with multiple choices.
  Here are a couple of examples

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• Let them choose between couples of lunch options
  on school days.
• Once they recognize the difference between warm
  and cold weather, let them make decisions on how
  warm to dress. (Youll be surprised how quickly
  they opt for the warm clothes on cold days!)
• Let them, within reason choose their wardrobe,
  hair style, and bedroom decorations
• Stand Back

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• We are all familiar with the stereotypical
  helicopter parent. Keeping too close of a watch
  on your kids can stifle their creativity and
  sense of independence. Let them take a few risks.
  Let them be on their own a little. Here are a
  couple of things you can try
• Encourage them to read a book or solve a
  puzzle on their own.
• Let them stay at a friends house overnight
  or for the weekend.
• Give them a "longer leash" on the playground
  or the nature trail.

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• Be Calm Confident
• Children watch their parents much more closely
  than you would think, and they can pick up on
  their moods quite easily. Try to keep calm when
  things don't go as planned, or when the
• Adults are having a tough time with
  parent-related issues. Maintain confidence in
  your, and your child's abilities. Here are a
  couple of ways to do this
• Dont lose your temper when your child doesnt
  perform up to your expectations. Encourage,
  rather than scold them, and calmly guide your
  child towards improvement.
• Be confident in your own abilities to nurture
  your child. This confidence will come with
  experience and can also be built through reading
  books on parenting, or from simply speaking with
  other parents.

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• Dont Rescue
• Every child will have their up days and their
  down days. When things are going well, give
  praise when appropriate. When things aren't going
  so well, stand back a little and see if your
  child can work out the problem on their own.
  Providing them the opportunity to work through
  their trouble spots can enhance their
  problem-solving abilities, promote determination,
  and lead to greater self-confidence.

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• Madurai 625020
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