LIES AND SELF-DISCLOSURE

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LIES AND SELF-DISCLOSURE
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SELF-DISCLOSURE

• HOW IS IT USED?
• Alter Relationship Closeness
• Catharsis
• Manipulation

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THE DEEPEST SELF-DISCLOSURES ARE

• KNOWN BY ONLY A FEW
• PERSONALLY OWNED
• SPECIFIC
• HIGH RISK/VULNERABILITY
• HIGH NEED FOR UNDERSTANDING/ACCEPTANCE
• CREATE DEMAND FOR RECIPROCITY
• EXPECT TARGET WILL NOT TELL OTHERS

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LYING IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS

• MUTUALLY INFLUENTIAL PROCESS
• MULTIPLE EXPOSURES TO IT
• FAMILIARITY WITH BEHAVIOR
• IS JUDGED WITHIN RELATIONSHIP RULES AS WELL AS
  SOCIETAL RULES

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SHOULD I LIE?

• WILL THIS BEHAVIOR HELP US ACHIEVE OUR
  SHORT/LONG RANGE GOALS?
• DOES MY PARTNER OPERATE BY THE SAME RULES I AM?
• DOES MY PARTNER KNOW I HAVE HIS/HER BEST
  INTERESTS AT HEART --BOTH GENERALLY AND IN THIS
  SITUATION?