Personality,Relationship Strategies

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Personality,Relationship Strategies
Communication

• Entrepreneurship Awareness Programme
• 06.09.2008

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A. Need of the hour

• Changing ones attitude towards the world, others
  and ourselves in order to have harmonious
  relationship and existence.
• Since each ones personality is unique it needs
  modification to suit the environment where one
  lives.
• Dont expect the world or others to change let
  the change start from you

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• Dont wait for anything. Start today if you want
  to be successful in your life. The best
  contribution on can make to humanity is to
  improve oneself. Only the player with the
  initiative has the right to attack.
• Action Plan Times will change for the better
  when you change. So start taking initiatives
  whether it is at your work place or at your home.
  Initiatives are first step towards
  self-development.

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• B. Big Five Personality Dimensions
• 1. Conscientiousness refers to people who are
  careful, dependable, and self-disciplined.
• 2. Emotional stability characteristics include
  are poised, secure, and calm.
• 3. Openness to experience -- the extent that
  people are sensitive, flexible, creative, and
  curious.
• 4. Agreeableness includes the traits of being
  courteous, good-natured, empathic, and caring.
• 5. Extroversion characterizes people who are
  outgoing, talkative, sociable, and assertive.
• a. Introversion opposite of extroversion
  refers to people who are quiet, shy, and
  cautious.
• b. Introverts feel comfortable being alone,
  whereas extroverts do not.

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• C. Jungs Psychological Types and the
  Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
• 1.Jungs personality theory that identifies the
  way people prefer to perceive their environment
  as well as obtain and process information.
• 2. MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) a
  personality test that measures how people focus
  their attention (extroversion vs. introversion),
  collect information (sensing vs. intuition),
  process and evaluate information (thinking vs.
  feeling), and orient themselves to the outer
  world (judging vs. perceiving).
• a. Sensing/Intuition
• b. Thinking/Feeling
• c. Judging/Perceiving
• 3. Effectiveness of the MBTI
• a. It does a reasonably good job of measuring
  Jungs psychological types.
• b. There is indication of a persons preferences
  or skills for particular occupations.

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• D. Other Personality Traits
• 1. Locus of control refers to a generalized
  belief about the amount of control people have
  over their own lives.
• a. Internal locus of control individuals who
  feel that they are very much in charge of their
  own destiny.
• b. External locus of control --those who think
  that events in their life are due to fate or
  luck.

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• 2. Self-monitoring refers to an individuals
  level of sensitivity and ability to adapt to
  situational cues.
• a. High self-monitors adjust behavior quite
  easily and show little stability in other
  underlying personality traits conversationalists,
  better organizational leaders, and better in
  boundary-spanning positions.
• b. Low self-monitors more likely to reveal
  their moods and personal characteristics.

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Personality Profiling Collated Scores

• From the questionnaires you have filled in three
  parts pertaining to Extrovert or Introvert,
  Emotional or Stable and Tough or Tender you
  have arrived at the scores. Now put them in the
  collated form in the following three appropriate
  slides.

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Collate all your results

• Extrovert or Introvert
• Sociability 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Impulsiveness 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Activity 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Assertiveness 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Risk-taking 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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• Emotional or Stable
• Anxiety 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Guilt 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Stress 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Inferiority 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Depression 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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• Tough or Tender
• Aggressiveness 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
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• Thrill-seeking 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
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• Dogmatism 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Ambitious 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
• Manipulation 0 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

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TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS

• OBJECT RELATIONSHIP
• PITY RELATIONSHIP
• COLD WAR RELATIONSHIP

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TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS(contd)

• VOLCANO RELATIONSHIP
• SAFESIDE RELATIONSHIP
• PATERNALISTIC RELATIONSHIP

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TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS(contd)

• HEALTHY INTERDEPENDANT RELATIONSHIP

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If you have to effect a change you should know
yourself

• Your brain is the vortex from where your
  personality and your life sustenance emanate.
  Hence understanding your brain in your thinking
  process will stand in good stead

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• Write True or false for the following
• The higher your IQ, the more flexible a thinker
  you are
• We learn to think logically through formal
  schooling and education
• Thinking is largely a matter of gathering enough
  information to make a decision
• We can train ourselves to reason intelligently by
  studying subjects like math and logic
• Educators, philosophers, and psychologists are
  more interested in thinking productively than are
  average people

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• A person who is usually logical is a good
  thinker
• The greatest need for reasoning occurs when a
  problem calls for a solution
• Complex situations usually require more time to
  reason things out than do simple ones.
• Thinking neednt always be directed toward a
  target or an action goal.
• Good ideas will come to mind if one relaxes and
  allows thoughts to flow naturally.

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• Scoring
• To tally your score, give yourself 1 point for
  each False response.
• A score of 8-10 points you have a good grasp of
  how the thinking process works, and how best to
  harness the power of your brain.
• A score of 4-7 points you have an average level
  of knowledge regarding the way the human brain
  functions, but could stand to learn more.
• A score of 0-3 points You have much to learn
  about the way the thinking process works.

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Left Brain Functions Right Brain Functions
Sequence Analytical Verbal Logical Linear algorithmic processing Mathematics perception of counting/measurement Present and past Language grammar/vocabulary, literal Simultaneous Holistic Imagistic Intuitive Holistic algorithmic processing Mathematics perception of shapes/motions Present and future Language information/ accentuation / prosody, pragmatic, contextual
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1. The more intelligent you are, the more youll
   tend to use your mind to defend a position rather
   than to explore it. This is likely to make you
   less flexible than someone with a lower IQ. Dr.
   Edward DeBono calls this intelligence trap, and
   people with a high IQ must guard against this
   tendency.
2. Schools, for the most part, tend to be databases
   of facts. They convey the notion that facts are
   to be stored until needed. They teach what to
   think, but not how to think.

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1. Most decisions are based on an average of only
   30 of all information thats available on a
   given subject. Hence, in decision making and
   thought in general, reasoning and judgment fill
   in for an inevitable lack of total information.
2. Subjects like math have their own rules they
   are closed systems. Theres no evidence that
   learning the rules of a closed system benefits
   reasoning in an open one. Therefore, you should
   not turn to these subjects in order to learn
   thinking as a skill. Rather, you must
   deliberately focus on thinking as a separate
   activity without conflating it with a particular
   subject matter.

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1. Studies find that business people tend to be the
   most interested in thinking, because they are
   under constant pressure to produce greater
   profits. There are exceptions, of course, but
   generally speaking, people who are
   results-oriented are interested in thinking,
   because thought precedes constructive action
2. Logic is the second stage of thinking. The first
   stage is perception the way you see a
   situation. No matter how good your logic, if your
   perception is biased by subjective factors, your
   conclusion will be inaccurate.

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1. Being a problem solver is important, but its
   only one type of mental activity. Sticking to
   this format alone deprives one of exploring new
   ideas, which could lead to more valuable and
   far-reaching generalization
2. Complex situations need not require more time to
   solve than simpler problems. What often slows us
   down is worrying about coming to a decision
   quickly. Worry can hinder your ability to think
   through problems in a focused and efficient
   manner.

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1. To be most productive, all human effort,
   including thinking, should focus on a purpose,
   even if that purpose is simply to plan for future
   happiness or to have fun.
2. Relaxation occasionally yields good ideas but
   generally it is a way to avoid thinking. A small
   amount of tension actually sharpens cognition.
   Dr. DeBono has suggested that the best way to
   think is to focus on one aspect of a particular
   situation at a time, without concern about making
   a good decision. But breaking the task into
   smaller, more manageable steps, you avoid feeling
   overwhelmed. It should then be easier to put it
   all together in the end.

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A short film on Eye of the Beholder

• Questionnaire on The Eye of the Beholder
• Against every question given below you are asked
  to answer with 5 (completely true), 4 (somewhat
  true), 3 (neutral or not relevant), 2 (somewhat
  incorrect), or 1 (incorrect)
• __________ a. Michael Gerrard is admired by the
  people who really know him well.
• __________ b. The cabdriver came very close to
  provoking violence in Gerrard.
• __________ c. The landlord sees Gerrards
  personality quite accurately, even
• though the landlord in untactful.
• __________ d. Gerrard knows quite a bit about the
  profession of an artist, judging from his
  mannerisms and conversation.
• __________ e. Gerrards behaviour in the story
  would indicate that he is a well-
• adjusted man
• __________ f. Gerrard is a moody and
  unpredictable person
• __________ g. If the girl in the nightclub had
  known more about Gerrard, she
• would not have consented to work for him as a
  model.
• __________ h. In view of Gerrards behaviour,
  similar questions should be
• developed about it.

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Communication

• The day today communication you have with human
  beings, whether at home or outside, should be
  well with the understanding of the perceptive
  arena. Once you know the perception of people of
  the so called reality then your communication
  with them will fall in line with appropriate
  feedback eliminating ambiguity. Use your emotions
  to the maximum benefit of ironing out issues, not
  settling scores with others. Transactional
  Analysis can be a better tool to understand
  communication.

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• Only God is perfect.
• So do not wait for perfection in everything you
  might waste your time. Right or wrong, take your
  decision and forge ahead, because you are in a
  fast moving world.

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WAITING FOR THE PERFECT MAN