Title: Continues Improvement
1He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And
obtains favor from the LORD. Proverbs 1822
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2Biblical Guidance Through the
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3It is not good that man should be alone I will
make him a helper comparable to him. Genesis
218
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4- Loneliness is the first thing that Gods eye
named not good - Milton,
- Tetrachordon
5Therefore a man shall leave his father and
mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall
become one flesh Genesis 224
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6Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed
undefiled Hebrews 134a
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7Needles and pins, needles and pins. When a man
marries his trouble begins J.O. Halliwell, The
Nursery Rhymes of England
8The Proper Time to Marry For a young man, not
yet, for an old man never at all. Diogenes
Laertius, Bk 6, 237
9- Marriage, if one
- face the truth, is
- an evil, but a necessary evil
- Menander Frag. 651k
10Marriage is always a vice, all that can be done
is to excuse it and sanctify it therefore, it
was made a religious sacrament Jerome,
Seldes, pg. 643
11Challenges of Marriage
Troubles in the Flesh
12Troubles in the Flesh
- Those who marry will have trouble in the flesh
(1 Corinthians 728). - He who is married cares about the things of the
worldhow he may please his wife (1 Corinthians
733) - She who is married cares about the things of the
worldhow she may please her husband (1
Corinthians 734). - Not sinful love of the world (1 John 215-17).
13Troubles in the Flesh
14A man should first build a house, then plant a
vineyard, then marry Babylonian Talmud, Sotah,
fol. 44a
15Troubles in the Flesh
- Financial Issues
- Personality Issues
- Sexual Issues
16Challenges of Marriage
Troubles in the Flesh
Changing Impressions
17- So it came to pass in the morning, that behold,
it was Leah. And he said to Laban, What is this
you have done to me? Was it not for Rachel that I
served you? Why then have you deceived me? - Genesis 2925
Jacob Leah
18It doesnt much signify whom one marries, for
one is sure to find next morning that it was
someone else Samuel Rogers, Table Talk
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19Challenges of Marriage
Troubles in the Flesh
Changing Impressions
A Lack of Support
20 Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse
God and die! Job 29
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21- The way to have something is to give it away.
If you want love, for example, dont look for
itgive it. - Tim LaHaye,
- How to Be Happy Though Married, pg. 96
22Challenges of Marriage
Troubles in the Flesh
Changing Impressions
A Lack of Support
Temptation to Do Wrong
23 For it was so, when Solomon was old, that his
wives turned his heart after other gods and his
heart was not loyal to the LORD his God, as was
the heart of his father David. 1 Kings 114
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24- Above all, no lady should allow herself to
correspond with an intemperate man, with a view
to matrimony. She may reform him, but the
chances are that her lifes happiness will be
completely destroyed by such a union. Better, a
thousand times, the single, free and independent
maidenhood, than for a woman to trail her life in
the dust, and bring poverty, shame, and disgrace
on her children, by marrying a man addicted to
dissipated habits - John Duncan,
- Manners and Morals
- of Long Ago, pg. 17
25 The sum of all that makes a just man happy
consists in the well choosing of his wife.
Massinger
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26 Biblical Guidance for Marriage
Love Wives as Your Own Body Ephesians 528-29
1
So husbands ought to love their own wives as
their own bodies he who loves his wife loves
himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but
nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does
the church
27The Husbands Love of the Wife
- Husband is to be the head of the wife
(Ephesians 523). - Not a position of mastery and domination but of
service and responsibility. - Begins with the proper attitude.
- As Christ loved the church (Ephesians 525) and
as their own bodies (Eph. 528).
28- Where theres marriage without love, there will
be love without marriage. - Benjamin Franklin,
- Poor Richards Almanac 1734
29How to Have a Good Fight
- Keep it Honest,
- Keep it Under Control,
- Keep it Timed Right,
- Keep it Positive,
- Keep it Tactful,
- Keep it Private,
- Keep it Cleaned Up,
- Keep it in Mind.
- Chuck Swindoll
- Strike the Original Match,
- pgs. 99-113
30 Biblical Guidance to Adults
Submit to Husbands as to Christ Ephesians
522-24
2
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the
Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as
also Christ is head of the church and He is the
Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church
is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to
their own husbands in everything.
31- Our Social Customs 1891
- It is the paradise of marriage that the man
shall work for the woman that he alone shall
support her, take pleasure in enduring fatigue
for her sake, and spare her the hardships of
labor, and rude contact with the world. - John Duncan,
- Manners and Morals of Long Ago
- It is a home that man wants, and he doesnt get
that when the woman he weds is merely ornamental.
It is a defect of our civilization that women
are forced to become breadwinners (Daphne Dale).
32In the home there must be somebody in charge.
Every school needs a principal. Every business
needs a manager There must in every condition be
somebody at the head A wife is to be shielded
from some of the blows that must fall in
marriage. She is to be shielded from some of the
decision making. She has another role to fill,
and only she can fill it. Irvin Lee, Good Homes
in a Wicked World pg. 53
33Six Keys to a Marital Happiness
- Maturity,
- Submission,
- Love,
- Communication,
- Prayer,
- Christ.
- Tim LaHaye
- How To Be Happy Though Married,
- pgs. 97-127
34 All of you be submissive to one another, and
be clothed with humility, for God resists the
proud, But gives grace to the humble 1 Peter
55
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35 Submit to God. Resist the devil and he will
flee from you James 47
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36 Confess your trespasses to one another, and
pray for one another, that you may be healed. The
effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man
avails much James 516
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37 Biblical Guidance to Adults
Do Not Deprive One Another 1 Cor. 73-5
3
Let the husband render to his wife the
affection due her, and likewise also the wife to
her husband. The wife does not have authority
over her own body, but the husband does. And
likewise the husband does not have authority over
his own body, but the wife does
38 Biblical Guidance to Adults
Do Not Deprive One Another 1 Cor. 73-5
3
Do not deprive one another except with consent
for a time, that you may give yourselves to
fasting and prayer and come together again so
that Satan does not tempt you because of your
lack of self-control.
39 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
streams of water in the streets? Proverbs 516
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40 Men should keep their eyes wide open before
marriage, and half shut afterward Mad. Scuderi
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41I have made a covenant with my eyes Why then
should I look upon a young woman? Job 311
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42Do Not Deprive One Another
- It is good for a man not to touch a woman
(71b). - Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let
each man have his own wife, and let each woman
have her own husband (72).
There is no other way which God has provided to
satisfy this human need.
43Every man has within him a God-given instinct
that is holy and right in its proper use. The
same is true of the woman. The instinct that
causes a man to be attracted to a woman and a
woman to a man helps to make the marriage strong
and helps to keep them together. Irvin Lee, Good
Homes in a Wicked World
pg. 108
44Bessie Patterson, Wisely Train the Younger
Women Do you think you can be a prude with your
husband, perhaps drive him to another woman, then
claim to be blameless when your marriage has
failed? Can such a woman, while denying her
husband his rights, pray, or worship acceptably?
(pg. 51).
45After thirty-five a man begins to have thoughts
about women before that age he has feelings
Austin OMalley Epigram
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46 Biblical Guidance to Adults
Honor Your Wife 1 Peter 37
4
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with
understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to
the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of
the grace of life, that your prayers may not be
hindered.
47 Biblical Guidance to Adults
Respect Your Husband Ephesians 533
4
Nevertheless let each one of you in particular
so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife
see that she respects her husband.
48Prescription for a a Superb Marriage
B Blessing. Blessing (Gr. eulogia) means
good words. E Edifying. Edify (Gr.
Oikodomeo) house-building. S Sharing. All
areas of lifeyour time, activities, interests
and concerns, ideas and innermost thoughts,
spiritual walk, family objectives and goals,
etc. T Touching. A tender touch tells us
that we are cared for. It can calm our fears,
soothe pain, bring us comfort, or give us the
blessed satisfaction of emotional security Ed
Wheat, Love Life for Every Married Couple, pgs.
177-184
49 Biblical Guidance to Adults
Marriage is For Life Romans 72
5
For the woman who has a husband is bound by the
law to her husband as long as he lives. But if
the husband dies, she is released from the law of
her husband.
50For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates
divorce, For it covers one's garment with
violence, Says the LORD of hosts. Therefore
take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal
treacherously. Malachi 216
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51God Hates Putting Away
- It is a covenant made before God (Malachi 214).
- Sermon on the Mount includes it when He addresses
honesty and making oaths (Matthew 533-37). - God allows an innocent mate, to put away a mate
who has engaged in sexual activity with another
person (Matthew 199 532). - Guilty party, can never remarry and be right with
God. - One who is put away for any reason (including
fornication) who remarries is in adultery.