Honoring Our Parents

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Honoring Our Parents

• Ephesians 61-4

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Big Idea

• Blessings beyond our wildest dreams await those
  who will respond to Gods exhortation for
  children to honor (give respect, value, esteem,
  and worth to) their parents.

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I. Challenge 1 to Children Obey Your Parents
(61)
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A. The external behavior- obedience
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Obedience (hupakouw)to hear underNow
therefore, O sons, listen to me, for blessed are
they who keep my ways. (Proverbs 832)
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A. The external behavior- obedienceB. The
internal power source- in the Lord (Eph. 518)
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A. The external behavior- obedienceB. The
internal power source- in the Lord (Eph.
518)C. The Spiritual motivation- its the
right thing to dodikaios that which is
correct, just, righteous, just as it should be
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II. Challenge 2 to Children Honor Your Parents
(62-3)
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A. Honor (timao) defined-OT- heavy weigh down
with praiseNT- to give respect, to count as
valuable, to esteem, to give worth to, to revere
Webster- high public esteem fame glory, to
earn a position of honor
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Who are we to honor?

• God and His Son
• "Worthy is the Lamb that was slain to receive
  power and riches and wisdom and might and honor
  and glory and blessing." And every created thing
  which is in heaven and on the earth and under the
  earth and on the sea, and all things in them, I
  heard saying, "To Him who sits on the throne, and
  to the Lamb, be blessing and honor and glory and
  dominion forever and ever.
• (Rev. 512-14)

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Who are we to honor?

• All mankind, especially those in authority over
  us
• Honor all men love the brotherhood, fear God,
  honor the King. (1 Peter 217)

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Who are we to honor?

• Character qualities and/or virtues
• Humility, wisdom, fear of the Lord, fruit of the
  Spirit, etc.

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Who are we to honor?

• Those older than us
• You shall rise up before the grayheaded and honor
  the aged, and you shall revere your God I am the
  Lord. (Lev. 1932)
• The glory of young men is their strength, and the
  honor of old men is their gray hair. Proverbs
  2029

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Who are we to honor?

• Church Leadership
• You younger men, likewise, be subject to your
  elders
• (1 Peter 55)

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Who are we to honor?

• Our Parents

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Commandment 5 "Honor your father and your
mother, that your days may be prolonged in the
land which the Lord your God gives you. (Ex.
2012)
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Christs Teaching "For God said, 'Honor YOUR
FATHER AND MOTHER,' and, 'He who speaks evil of
FATHER OR MOTHER IS TO be put to death.'
(Matthew 154) Honor YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER
and You shall love YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF."
(Matthew 1919)
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B. The contemporary alternative- gt Dishonorgt
Disrespectgt Discount
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C. More motivation-Gods promise of blessing
us when we honor our parents 'Honor your father
and your mother, as the Lord your God has
commanded you, that your days may be prolonged
and that it may go well with you on the land
which the Lord your God gives you. (Deut. 516)
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Honor Your Father Mother

• Could it be that the quality of life you
  experience today is tied to your obedience of
  this command?
• Could it be that a part of your longing and quest
  to become an adult is connected with the
  commandment to honor your parents?

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Honor Your Father Mother

• 3. Could it be that obeying this command is a
  major step toward true spiritual maturity in your
  life?
• 4. Could it be that you could forge a deeper,
  more meaningful relationship with your parents by
  honoring them?

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Honor Your Father Mother

• 5. Could it be that your parents, who took the
  initiative in your life for 18-20 years are now
  waiting for you to initiate something of
  substance and meaning back to them?
• 6. Could it be that your parents are just as
  desperate as you are to receive approval and
  affirmation?

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Honor Your Father Mother

• 7. Could it be that a generation of elderly
  parents is waiting to receive the honor and
  dignity that belongs to them as elders?
• 8. Could it be that the kind of legacy you leave
  the next generation is deeply connected to your
  relationship with your parents and whether you
  honor them?

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Honor Your Father Mother

• 9. Could it be that God is honored and pleased
  when we honor our parents?
• Source The Tribute, by Dennis Rainey, Nelson
  Publishers, pp. 4-5

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D. What does it look like to give honor to our
parents?gt Forgive themgt Be reconciled with
themgt Love themgt Try to understand themgt Show
them appreciation
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D. What does it look like to give honor to our
parents?gt Show them respectgt Ask for their
advice gt Dont criticize themgt Serve them/care
for themgt Set boundariesgt Write them a tribute
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What will you give to your Dad today for Fathers
Day?

• HONOR!!

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III. Challenge to Fathers Eternally Invest in
Your Children (64)
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A. Stated Negatively- dont unnecessarily make
your children angry
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• B. Stated Positively- nourish them toward
  Christlikeness by 1. Discipline (paideia)-
  intentional, systematic training correction
• 2. Instruction (nouthesia)- lit. putting in
  their mind Gods truth using both encouragement
  and reproof (Proverbs)

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• Children, do what your parents tell you. This is
  only right. Honor your father and mother is the
  first commandment that has a promise attached to
  it, namely, so you will live well and have a
  long life. Fathers, don't exasperate your
  children by coming down hard on them. Take them
  by the hand and lead them in the way of the
  Master.
• (Ephesians 61-4 The Message)

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Big Idea

• Blessings beyond our wildest dreams await those
  who will respond to Gods exhortation for
  children to honor (give respect, value, esteem,
  and worth to) their parents.